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Between Perfect and Real by Ray Stoeve

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leahlovesloslibros's review against another edition

emotional hopeful inspiring medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

4.5

Dean Foster is a trans guy, but everyone thinks he's a lesbian, even his girlfriend. When he gets cast as Romeo in the school play, he slowly comes to terms with who he is, and he realizes he cannot wait any longer to let people know. The more he plays Romeo onstage, the more he feels the draw to be out as a trans guy, but he is worried about how his parents, friends, and girlfriend will handle it.

This story is so beautifully written. While I do not identify as trans, the author wrote about Dean's internal struggles so poignantly that I could almost feel them myself. I loved the relationships that Dean had with his friends, especially Ronnie. It is so important to have a core group of friends who love you as you are, especially for individuals who identify as LGBTQIAP+.

I understood the struggles of Dean and Zoe's relationship as it transformed along with Dean. While I do not love some of the transphobic language and ideas that Zoe presented throughout the story, I think that it is a very realistic portrayal of how some relationships progress when one individual is going through changes to their sexuality, gender, etc. That isn't to say that all relationships see the same trials, but I appreciated that they didn't just gloss over the fact that Zoe had struggles of her own, relating to Dean's changes, and that they didn't get back together in the end, as I feel that would have been ingenuine and too "perfect".

Finally, I know that having parents who are not supportive of who you are is incredibly difficult. While I would have loved for Dean to have two fully supportive parents, I appreciated the realness that came with his mother struggling to understand and accept him for who he is. I really enjoyed reading the dad's character, as he kind of reminded me of my dad and how he loves and supports his children exactly as they are and tries to soften the blows a bit when it comes to a mom that can be harsher.

Ray Stoeve did a beautiful job with this novel, and I would absolutely read more of their books! I also definitely recommend this for both trans and cis individuals, especially teenagers and young adults.

Rep: trans MC, lesbian LI, BIPOC gay SC, Japanese gay SC, gay SC, trans SC, non-binary SC

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betweentheshelves's review

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emotional informative slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

Thanks to Abrams for sending an ARC of this book to the library where I work! This book was on my radar and I was happy to get a chance to read it early. And I'm happy to say that I'm not disappointed! A strong coming of age story about a trans guy finding his voice.

Many of the young adult books I've read recently focus on trans teens who have already gone through their coming out. What I liked about this is it takes us through Dean's process of coming out, the highs and the lows. He joins a support group, and they show him that there is no single way to be trans. This group, this found family is one of the best things about this book. Dean gets the support he needs through them, and his friends from school.

However, Dean's journey isn't without struggles. There are some instances of bullying and his mother isn't super accepting. Stoeve does an excellent job showing the complex feelings surrounding Dean's relationship with his mother. The analogies they use throughout the book are helpful for all kinds of readers, but I especially think trans teens will connect to it.

There were also a lot of great discussions about privilege within the queer community, since Dean's best friend is Black. There's also a lot of emphasis on the fact that trans teens need spaces to figure out their identity, to be able to have the support of others that know what they're going through. All around, there are just so many great messages in this book.

Since I'm not trans myself, I'd recommend checking out some own voices reviews on Goodreads!

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valereads's review

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emotional hopeful reflective medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

There’s no such thing a perfect – but this book comes pretty darn close.

This novel follows 17 year old trans boy, Dean. When he is cast as the male lead in the school play he begins exploring his gender further and realises he needs to come out and transition. It explores how his relationships with friends, family, his girlfriend and himself change and stay the same as he comes out and begins to socially transition.

This book was beautifully written. At times it felt more like poetry than a prose novel but it was still written in an accessible way. I really enjoyed the experience of reading it.

As a genderqueer trans man myself, I found the descriptions of dysphoria and the experience of being trans really spoke to me. Stoeve managed to capture these feelings in prose in a way that felt genuine and was beautifully written.

If I had any criticisms it’s that some parts were predictable but then again I am a 23 year old man and this is a YA novel so it’s not something that should bother most people. There was also a minor plot point which I thought would come back up but didn’t go anywhere – perhaps I read too much into it.

Overall I absolutely adore this book. A beautifully written novel of a trans guy figuring out who he is and what he needs set to the backdrop of my favourite play, Romeo and Juliet – it’s like it was written for me! I definitely recommend this book to anyone with even the slightest interest, trans or cis, it will not disappoint.

Content warnings: bullying, homophobia, transphobia, misgendering, outing, dysphoria, references to suicide

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