Reviews with content warning for Drug use - Between Perfect and Real

Dean Foster is a trans guy, but everyone thinks he's a lesbian, even his girlfriend. When he gets cast as Romeo in the school play, he slowly comes to terms with who he is, and he realizes he cannot wait any longer to let people know. The more he plays Romeo onstage, the more he feels the draw to be out as a trans guy, but he is worried about how his parents, friends, and girlfriend will handle it.

This story is so beautifully written. While I do not identify as trans, the author wrote about Dean's internal struggles so poignantly that I could almost feel them myself. I loved the relationships that Dean had with his friends, especially Ronnie. It is so important to have a core group of friends who love you as you are, especially for individuals who identify as LGBTQIAP+.

I understood the struggles of Dean and Zoe's relationship as it transformed along with Dean. While I do not love some of the transphobic language and ideas that Zoe presented throughout the story, I think that it is a very realistic portrayal of how some relationships progress when one individual is going through changes to their sexuality, gender, etc. That isn't to say that all relationships see the same trials, but I appreciated that they didn't just gloss over the fact that Zoe had struggles of her own, relating to Dean's changes, and that they didn't get back together in the end, as I feel that would have been ingenuine and too "perfect".

Finally, I know that having parents who are not supportive of who you are is incredibly difficult. While I would have loved for Dean to have two fully supportive parents, I appreciated the realness that came with his mother struggling to understand and accept him for who he is. I really enjoyed reading the dad's character, as he kind of reminded me of my dad and how he loves and supports his children exactly as they are and tries to soften the blows a bit when it comes to a mom that can be harsher.

Ray Stoeve did a beautiful job with this novel, and I would absolutely read more of their books! I also definitely recommend this for both trans and cis individuals, especially teenagers and young adults.

Rep: trans MC, lesbian LI, BIPOC gay SC, Japanese gay SC, gay SC, trans SC, non-binary SC

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bookreviewsgr's review

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emotional hopeful slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

Αυτό το βιβλίο έχει απ' τους πιο ρεαλιστικούς και relatable χαρακτήρες που έχω διαβάσει. Είναι πολύ εύκολο να καταλάβεις τον Dean και να δεθείς μαζί του ακόμα κι αν είσαι cis και straight και δεν αμφισβήτησες ποτέ τίποτα από τα δύο.

Αυτή η ταύτιση με τον πρωταγωνιστή έκανε αρκετές σκηνές να μοιάζουν με γροθιά στο στομάχι. Δε μπορώ καν να φανταστώ πόσο πολύ μπορεί να επηρεάσουν ένα τρανς άτομο, οπότε προτείνω να βρείτε μια εκτενή λίστα με trigger warnings (υπάρχουν στο Storygraph και σε αρκετά reviews τρανς ατόμων) πριν ξεκινήσετε να το διαβάζετε.

Το βιβλίο παρουσιάζει πολλές προβληματικές συμπεριφορές, ακόμα και ο ίδιος ο Dean κάνει λάθη, και είναι απόλυτα λογικό γιατί μιλάμε για παιδιά 17-18 χρόνων. Σε αντίθεση με άλλα young adult βιβλία όμως, εδώ δεν έχουμε drama για να αποκτήσει ενδιαφέρον το βιβλίο, αλλά καταστάσεις που γεννούν προβληματισμούς και τροφή για σκέψη.

Προσωπικά, το μόνο που με κούρασε κάπως ήταν οι συνεχείς αναφορές και ατάκες από το θεατρικό. Να μου πεις τι περίμενα αφού είναι βασικό κομμάτι του βιβλίου; Αλλά δεν τα πήγα ποτέ καλά με το Σαίξπηρ, και ειδικά με το Ρωμαίο και την Ιουλιέτα, οπότε επιτρέψτε μου να γκρινιάξω. Πιθανότατα, τα θεατρόφιλα άτομα να αγαπήσετε το βιβλίο ακόμα περισσότερο για αυτό.

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emotional funny hopeful reflective

Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes

4.0

Between Perfect and Real is such an apt title for this book. It's a wonderfully written contemporary coming-of-age story about Dean Foster, and how starring as Romeo in the school play helps him to come out as trans to his friends, family, and school. I'm certain that many trans and nonbinary people will see themselves reflected in these pages - not just through Dean's narrative, but also through the other trans and nonbinary characters we meet through a support group Dean attends, showing that not all trans and nonbinary people are the same or even have identical experiences. There is other queer representation, too, with a range of sexualities shown across the cast of side characters. There were so many moments in this book which were eerily similar to my own experiences and those of my queer loved ones; it was refreshing, and I'm so glad that queer & trans teenagers will have this book to look to for representation!

The characters were definitely not all perfect, and some of their mistakes were worse than others - the main character included. That being said, most of them were still very much likeable, and showed strong character development.

Ray Stoeve did a great job reflecting common negative experiences such as transphobia and relationship difficulties whilst keeping the overall tone of the book hopeful. I love that they completely avoided using Dean's deadname, and also included educational moments (e.g. unsafe vs safe binding) for readers who may not already have that knowledge. I also really liked the ending, which just like the title and book as a whole had a great balance of realism, optimism, and happiness.

Overall, I highly recommend this book. It's a very impressive YA debut and I can't wait to see what Ray Stoeve will write in the future!

Many thanks to the publisher for giving me access to an eARC through NetGalley so that I could write this review!

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emotional hopeful reflective medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

There’s no such thing a perfect – but this book comes pretty darn close.

This novel follows 17 year old trans boy, Dean. When he is cast as the male lead in the school play he begins exploring his gender further and realises he needs to come out and transition. It explores how his relationships with friends, family, his girlfriend and himself change and stay the same as he comes out and begins to socially transition.

This book was beautifully written. At times it felt more like poetry than a prose novel but it was still written in an accessible way. I really enjoyed the experience of reading it.

As a genderqueer trans man myself, I found the descriptions of dysphoria and the experience of being trans really spoke to me. Stoeve managed to capture these feelings in prose in a way that felt genuine and was beautifully written.

If I had any criticisms it’s that some parts were predictable but then again I am a 23 year old man and this is a YA novel so it’s not something that should bother most people. There was also a minor plot point which I thought would come back up but didn’t go anywhere – perhaps I read too much into it.

Overall I absolutely adore this book. A beautifully written novel of a trans guy figuring out who he is and what he needs set to the backdrop of my favourite play, Romeo and Juliet – it’s like it was written for me! I definitely recommend this book to anyone with even the slightest interest, trans or cis, it will not disappoint.

Content warnings: bullying, homophobia, transphobia, misgendering, outing, dysphoria, references to suicide

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