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Stay Gold by Tobly McSmith

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writtenontheflyleaves's review against another edition

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Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.75

Stay Gold by Tobly McSmith 🌞
🌟🌟🌟✨

🌞 The plot: Pony has just moved to a new school. All he wants is to be treated like just another guy, but since coming out as trans, he's felt like people are treating him differently. He's hoping to fly under the radar here, but on his first day, he meets Georgia - a pretty, popular cheerleader who's falling out of love with the rigid social rules she has to abide by. Falling for a cheerleader is not very low-key. Can they find a way to be themselves, together?

This was a sweet story that is optimistic without being fanciful. It gets you in the heart with both its wholesomeness and the heartbreaking things that Pony has to go through, and I really enjoyed it.

From the start, Pony is a hero you can root for, and I felt very protective of him as he navigated the difficulties of being misgendered, including by his own dad, rejected romantically for being transgender, experiencing dysmorphia and having to hear transphobic language from his friends. He deserves the world and is definitely the heart of this novel, which I thought explored the complexities of being a trans teen really powerfully.

I didn't think the other elements of the novel quite matched up to how real Pony felt - I liked the Evelyn Hugo-esque subplot where Pony gets to know a dying actor, and I thought that Georgia's perspective added a lot to the story the book was telling about self-acceptance, but they did feel less flesh-and-blood than Pony. But honestly, I didn't care that much! I really liked this!

🌟 Read this if you want to read an LGBTQ twist on a classic high school trope, and if you want to read/learn more about the experience of being a trans teen, as McSmith writes this in a way that is really accessible.

🚫 Avoid it (or at least tread carefully) if you're sensitive to scenes of transphobia, particularly misgendering and deadnaming, including from family members; BIG tw for transphobic violence and suicidal thoughts; homophobia, forced outing and body dysmorphia. There are a lot of potential triggers in this book and there's a list inside the front cover, but personally I think these are balanced by a lot of affirming and uplifting moments!

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maxtiu's review against another edition

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challenging fast-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? No
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

0.5

Both the protagonists are genuinely awful people. Nearly everyone in the book is transphobic, including the trans protagonist Pony, who shirks all aspects of transness, instead actively choosing toxic cisnormative masculinity, and is written for that to somehow be a sympathetic quality. After Pony

gets brutally beaten for coming out

, somehow everyone around him is magically accepting of his transness. The (trans?!) author doesn’t even get the traditional order of listing pronouns correctly. This is the kind of book that I hope cis people completely stay away from, as it should by no means represent trans people. Trans folks should stay away from it too; I felt like I was being gaslit just by reading this. Just…no.

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nerdysread's review against another edition

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Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.0

A really good book about a trans teen who wants to who wants to live a « normal » Life. But then he falls in love and he starts questioning himself and ignore has to tell the girl he loves if he’s trans.

Also his friend wants him to come out. Not hide himself and live his true self.

So Pony has to navigate a new life trying to be a new Him, without loosing himself.

But seriously some things really felt problematic. Like Georgia feeling betrayed because Pony didn’t tell her he’s trans. Like??? It’s dangerous. Max pressuring Pony to come out. But for this I kinda of get both of their pov on the question.

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anniereads221's review

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challenging emotional medium-paced

3.0

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repunzee's review against another edition

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dark emotional sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? No
Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5

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bcat0124's review against another edition

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challenging emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective sad tense medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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cryscries's review against another edition

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emotional reflective tense fast-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? No
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

2.75

I’m being generous about the rating because genuinely the first half of the book was cute - cringe but cute. The second half was not as great and overall there was just a lot of things about this book that I wish was developed a bit better.

Pros: there is a trigger warning in one of the pages before the story begins in the paperback version.

Cons:

1. It was hard to root for the main two characters - especially the main love interest. Georgia is supposed to represent probably a typical cis person reaction but i found it so hard to feel bad for her and her issues. I find her to be rather self centered (even tho she is characterized to kinda be insecure) - throughout the story even though she “gets better” as a person it still doesn’t make up for how she’s acted in the rest of the book. Very passive with standing up for her friends and pony, thoughts of outing him out of jealousy, definitely needs new friends who should be supportive.

2. Everything kinda just works out in the end for pony but it feels a little lack luster in the end of how he gets to where he is - his change feels more said than done.

3. Major problems with the side character max- tho I feel there was a lot of stereotypes in this book, o felt Max’s character was rather toxic. FIRST THINGS FIRST, you do not need to come out if you are not ready and you do not need to come out to show that you are supportive of the community. Do things at your own time. I had problems with max being rather pushy towards pony in wanting him to come out when it is definitely not safe to, have him drop the friendship because pony doesn’t want to be out, and then says he’s proud of pony for coming out at the cost of being beaten up because “it happens everyday”

There were some cute moments in this book but there was too much problems to overlook that.

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whatcassiedid's review

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challenging emotional hopeful medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

Parts of this were really cute and funny and parts just didn't do it for me. I don't know why the author chose for everyone to speak without using contractions (at one point a character says "we are going to the dance") and it drove me crazy. This definitely could've benefited from some content warnings at the beginning as well.

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duskangelreads's review against another edition

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inspiring fast-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.5

This debut was mostly enjoyable and I did end up rating it 3.5 stars. Though there is one bigger issue I had with it that didn’t really get addressed in the book.

So let’s talk about it first! My issue is one of the side characters, Max, who is best friends with our main character, Pony, & both of which are trans boys. Max throughout most of the book is continually trying to force Pony to come out at Pony’s new school where no one knows he is Trans. Max is an advocate of sorts for the Trans community and is trying to push Pony to join him but in doing so it might raise questions & Pony is not ready to come out as trans. This is a common thing unfortunately but the thing that pisses me off is that it’s not rectified. After Pony does choose to come out they just go back to being best buds… He is never called out. No one even acknowledges that it’s not cool what Max is doing. He doesn’t really apologies and that really grinds my gears. It’s the same thing as Leah from Leah on the Offbeat by Becky Albertalli all over again.

Besides that it was quite a fun read which deals with some heavy topics in a realistic & inspiring way. This does follow dual POV between Georgia & Pony as well which I always enjoy if done right. Georgia & Pony both had unique voices & both were enjoyable to read from.

Georgia did has some internal issues but those were all thought through and she developed nicely as a character coming to terms with what’s going on around her. I feel like some people might not be a fan of her for the choices she made and I get it. I don’t agree with her actions and if I was friends with her in high school I would definitely call her out for it. Though I’m also not that far out of high school really and can see how between being faced with everything + being a cheerleader in high school where everyone is judgy little assholes would make it hard to come to terms with what was going on instantly. It makes for a realistic character. She also learnt & grew as a character and realised that her actions were wrong. Which is what is important in character growth for me.

Pony also developed throughout the book, though I did find his POV a little flat in comparison to Georgia for some reason. He was a very enjoyable character and though I can’t speak for the representation directly I did see the similarities between his experiences and most high school experiences as an LGBTQ+ person, like myself.

Overall, I don’t think Max needed to be the way he was or even present in the story. As no one from Pony’s school knew the bloke he was kind of pointless to the narrative in general so…. Enough about that though. I would recommend giving this one a read out of Tobly McSmiths’ two novels. Besides Max it was quite enjoyable, inspiring, fast paced & the audiobook is quite well done!

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amelia_22's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional hopeful inspiring sad tense medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.0

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