Reviews tagging 'Sexual content'

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

59 reviews

alexiconic's review against another edition

hopeful informative inspiring medium-paced

4.5

what a great, loving, easy-to-read book. it’s a great clarification of how sex works for many people, especially but definitely not just women. its funny, filled with experience (personal and professional) and reassurance that, whatever your body does, unless you are in pain, you’re probably really normal. 

i do wish there was a little bit more attention towards other genders (although that may be another book entirely), as i’m still not clear on why in general women experience responsive desire to a larger extent than others. perhaps the details on that are still out. 

and i wish there was a bit more development on to how to move on from realizing that - bluntly - you are normal and feeling anger because of the persistent, incorrect and harmful messages around us. like, what do you do with that anger, sadness? how exactly can you process it without becoming stuck in it? 

but those are two small things in an otherwise very accessible and well-written book. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Sexism, Sexual assault, Alcohol, Body shaming, Medical content, and Misogyny

hannahgunther's review

funny informative medium-paced

4.0

Extremely informative with metaphors that help the average reader understand their body.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Sexual content

Pick and choose which parts you want to read, as this is a book about sex and your body.

growintogardens's review against another edition

informative medium-paced

4.25

Lots of important scientific info about sex. The writing was accessible, but a little awkward at times. The audiobook had music at times which was weird and annoying. There was a lot of repetition, which can be helpful for people to retain info, but it was a bit much. Overall, I learned a few things that made me feel better about myself and sex in general. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

Moderate: Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, and Sexual assault

Minor: Stalking and Domestic abuse

carlar's review against another edition

hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.0

Reading this book will probably be the first time you hear there is nothing wrong or broken about your sexuality. It’s informative, easy to understand, and has something for everyone.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Sexual content

Minor: Grief, Homophobia, Medical content, Medical trauma, Rape, Stalking, Sexual assault, Sexism, Body shaming, Misogyny, Lesbophobia, and Sexual harassment

cbarteau's review

funny informative medium-paced

4.25

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Sexual content

takarakei's review against another edition

informative medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexism, Sexual content, and Misogyny

Moderate: Sexual violence, Sexual assault, Mental illness, Body shaming, Rape, Animal cruelty, Gaslighting, and Fatphobia

Minor: Ableism, Toxic relationship, and Pregnancy

Unfortunately a lot of modern science is based on animal testing/experiments, some of which are described in this book

riverofhorton's review against another edition

challenging funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

3.75

So much of this book is useful... To someone else.

I found I didn't learn a vast amount from this book, and the bits I did learn gave me more of a "Huh, so that answers this personal trauma question", rather than increasing my understanding of sexuality in general.

So many times the book says something, then it'll say "More on that in chapter x." or "Remember this from chapter y?" and it just served as a jolt in the flow.

One of the things I didn't like, and feel I need to mention: This book uses gender where it should be using sex, and woman where it should be using AFAB, etc. I understand that this was likely done to avoid confusing sex the action with sex the characteristic, but it's the kind of thing that I can see affecting other trans masc people more than I. Using gender (and woman) implies that this book would not apply to trans guys, because gender, but it does apply to us (without surgical intervention) because sex.

It does also seem to portray "Don't want/enjoy sex, that's OKay, change the context and you will." Which skirts a little too close to being Acephobic for my comfort. Some people just aren't interested in sex, and that's OKay.

The basic sum, is that this seems to very much be aimed at the cis woman in a heterosexual monogamous relationship seeking to understand her body and sexuality. Which is great for the cishet woman in a mono relationship. And while there are bits that can be applied to folx that don't fit those categories, the lack of inclusive language is noticeable.

Overall, I can see why this book is so popular, and I will be recommending it to others, with the above caveat as needed, but I just didn't get much out of it that I couldn't have got from trauma therapy.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Pregnancy, Sexual harassment, Body shaming, Bullying, Chronic illness, Sexual content, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Dysphoria, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Mental illness, Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, Medical trauma, Physical abuse, Stalking, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Child abuse, Grief, Medical content, Abortion, Eating disorder, Infidelity, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Acephobia/Arophobia, and Biphobia

lizdaniii's review

hopeful informative inspiring medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

sarahmcg's review against another edition

informative medium-paced

5.0

I thought this was a great read! I appreciated both the reference to scientific research as well as the metaphors to understand some of the more complex scientific concepts and especially the case studies/vignettes that helped illustrate the point of what she was trying to convey/teach. I also liked the TL;DR at the end of every chapter, those were nice summaries. I also liked the overall arching message throughout the book which is “you are okay, you are normal, you are not broken.”

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Sexual content and Sexual assault

caity_h's review against another edition

challenging emotional funny hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

Minor: Sexual violence and Stalking