Reviews tagging 'Medical content'

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

8 reviews

alexiconic's review against another edition

hopeful informative inspiring medium-paced

4.5

what a great, loving, easy-to-read book. it’s a great clarification of how sex works for many people, especially but definitely not just women. its funny, filled with experience (personal and professional) and reassurance that, whatever your body does, unless you are in pain, you’re probably really normal. 

i do wish there was a little bit more attention towards other genders (although that may be another book entirely), as i’m still not clear on why in general women experience responsive desire to a larger extent than others. perhaps the details on that are still out. 

and i wish there was a bit more development on to how to move on from realizing that - bluntly - you are normal and feeling anger because of the persistent, incorrect and harmful messages around us. like, what do you do with that anger, sadness? how exactly can you process it without becoming stuck in it? 

but those are two small things in an otherwise very accessible and well-written book. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Sexism, Sexual assault, Alcohol, Body shaming, Medical content, and Misogyny

carlar's review against another edition

hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.0

Reading this book will probably be the first time you hear there is nothing wrong or broken about your sexuality. It’s informative, easy to understand, and has something for everyone.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Sexual content

Minor: Grief, Homophobia, Medical content, Medical trauma, Rape, Stalking, Sexual assault, Sexism, Body shaming, Misogyny, Lesbophobia, and Sexual harassment

riverofhorton's review against another edition

challenging funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

3.75

So much of this book is useful... To someone else.

I found I didn't learn a vast amount from this book, and the bits I did learn gave me more of a "Huh, so that answers this personal trauma question", rather than increasing my understanding of sexuality in general.

So many times the book says something, then it'll say "More on that in chapter x." or "Remember this from chapter y?" and it just served as a jolt in the flow.

One of the things I didn't like, and feel I need to mention: This book uses gender where it should be using sex, and woman where it should be using AFAB, etc. I understand that this was likely done to avoid confusing sex the action with sex the characteristic, but it's the kind of thing that I can see affecting other trans masc people more than I. Using gender (and woman) implies that this book would not apply to trans guys, because gender, but it does apply to us (without surgical intervention) because sex.

It does also seem to portray "Don't want/enjoy sex, that's OKay, change the context and you will." Which skirts a little too close to being Acephobic for my comfort. Some people just aren't interested in sex, and that's OKay.

The basic sum, is that this seems to very much be aimed at the cis woman in a heterosexual monogamous relationship seeking to understand her body and sexuality. Which is great for the cishet woman in a mono relationship. And while there are bits that can be applied to folx that don't fit those categories, the lack of inclusive language is noticeable.

Overall, I can see why this book is so popular, and I will be recommending it to others, with the above caveat as needed, but I just didn't get much out of it that I couldn't have got from trauma therapy.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Pregnancy, Sexual harassment, Body shaming, Bullying, Chronic illness, Sexual content, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Dysphoria, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Mental illness, Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, Medical trauma, Physical abuse, Stalking, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Child abuse, Grief, Medical content, Abortion, Eating disorder, Infidelity, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Acephobia/Arophobia, and Biphobia

bootsmom3's review

challenging emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring lighthearted medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Sexism, and Misogyny

Moderate: Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Animal cruelty

Minor: Medical trauma, Body shaming, and Medical content

zombiezami's review against another edition

emotional hopeful informative reflective

4.0

Most of what's in this book is stuff I knew already. I think this would be more useful for people with more complicated relationships with sex and their bodies. The author's tone is compassionate and knowledgeable, and I'm sure the book has helped and will continue to help lots of people. I wish that the author was more specific about using terms like "cis" and "dfab" since that's the audience she's discussing. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Medical content, Fatphobia, Gaslighting, Sexual content, Misogyny, Sexism, and Body shaming

Moderate: Mental illness, Sexual violence, Homophobia, Sexual assault, Rape, and Pregnancy

Minor: Drug use, Eating disorder, Death of parent, War, Terminal illness, Cancer, Alcohol, and Ableism

cis-centrism

blackcatkai's review against another edition

funny informative reflective slow-paced

3.0

CW: cis-centered language/science, sexual content, medical content, mentions of sexual assault

overall, a lot of good information. lots of basics, more in-depth discussions, every section has a tl;dr breakdown of what you just read that makes it easier to know basic points to refer to later. it was a bit repetitious with some information/sentences & the author would often mention how something is talked about more in other chapters. generally not a bad thing, but it happened a lot so it just felt like too much at times.

there are a couple stories interwoven throughout the book that correlate with the section/topic being discussed but they often feel disjointed as theyre so broken up that it's easy, when you get back to it, to be confused a moment before the context comes back to you. understandable why the author set it up this way, the execution was just slightly off for me, personally.

Nagoski brings up tons of good points, information, and i did absolutely get emotional in specific sections that super hit home for me, personally, so it can definitely be a book i go back to reference for myself in the future, but i do wish it was a bit more inclusive in it's language in general. i get it, but as a nonbinary afab person, it just got to me, mostly in the beginning sections.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Misogyny, Medical content, Sexism, and Sexual content

Moderate: Rape and Sexual assault

kc__'s review

challenging hopeful informative inspiring slow-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Medical content and Sexual content

Minor: Toxic relationship, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, and Rape

lee_s's review

hopeful informative inspiring lighthearted medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

Moderate: Sexual assault and Medical content