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Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
10 reviews
growintogardens's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Sexual content
Moderate: Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, and Sexual assault
Minor: Stalking and Domestic abuse
carlar's review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Sexual content
Minor: Grief, Homophobia, Medical content, Medical trauma, Rape, Stalking, Sexual assault, Sexism, Body shaming, Misogyny, Lesbophobia, and Sexual harassment
riverofhorton's review against another edition
3.75
I found I didn't learn a vast amount from this book, and the bits I did learn gave me more of a "Huh, so that answers this personal trauma question", rather than increasing my understanding of sexuality in general.
So many times the book says something, then it'll say "More on that in chapter x." or "Remember this from chapter y?" and it just served as a jolt in the flow.
One of the things I didn't like, and feel I need to mention: This book uses gender where it should be using sex, and woman where it should be using AFAB, etc. I understand that this was likely done to avoid confusing sex the action with sex the characteristic, but it's the kind of thing that I can see affecting other trans masc people more than I. Using gender (and woman) implies that this book would not apply to trans guys, because gender, but it does apply to us (without surgical intervention) because sex.
It does also seem to portray "Don't want/enjoy sex, that's OKay, change the context and you will." Which skirts a little too close to being Acephobic for my comfort. Some people just aren't interested in sex, and that's OKay.
The basic sum, is that this seems to very much be aimed at the cis woman in a heterosexual monogamous relationship seeking to understand her body and sexuality. Which is great for the cishet woman in a mono relationship. And while there are bits that can be applied to folx that don't fit those categories, the lack of inclusive language is noticeable.
Overall, I can see why this book is so popular, and I will be recommending it to others, with the above caveat as needed, but I just didn't get much out of it that I couldn't have got from trauma therapy.
Graphic: Pregnancy, Sexual harassment, Body shaming, Bullying, Chronic illness, Sexual content, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Dysphoria, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Mental illness, Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, Medical trauma, Physical abuse, Stalking, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Child abuse, Grief, Medical content, Abortion, Eating disorder, Infidelity, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Acephobia/Arophobia, and Biphobia
caity_h's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Sexual content
Minor: Sexual violence and Stalking
mlkai's review against another edition
4.0
pt 1 was my favorite. kind of wish the rest has been truncated but that’s ok.
i liked the stories of the four women. but i often couldnt keep track of who was who or what happened in the story previously. also could not for the life of my remember the different between liking wanting and learning which made her later references frustrating bc i didn’t fully get them.
nitpick/formatting thing: the fact that she didn’t use chicago style annotations drove me BONKERS bc i constantly had to go to the end of the book (only to often see it was just a citation w/o commentary —- i created a system quickly but still annoyed me enough to mention in an online review very few ppl will read 😂)
Moderate: Sexual violence and Body shaming
Minor: Stalking and Toxic relationship
liv_txt's review
4.25
Graphic: Misogyny
Moderate: Sexual harassment and Sexual assault
Minor: Stalking, Fatphobia, Grief, Rape, Suicide, and Sexism
karyan1's review against another edition
3.0
Graphic: Sexual content
Minor: Body shaming, Sexual violence, Rape, Sexual assault, Mental illness, Sexual harassment, Stalking, and Toxic relationship
rosalind's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Sexual content
Moderate: Sexual assault and Grief
Minor: Fatphobia, Stalking, Misogyny, Sexism, Emotional abuse, and Acephobia/Arophobia
jojesweden's review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Rape, Sexual assault, Sexism, and Sexual violence
Minor: Stalking, Mental illness, Ableism, Lesbophobia, and Body shaming
clovelatte's review
5.0
Graphic: Body shaming, Misogyny, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Sexism, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Stalking, and Toxic relationship