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Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
2 reviews
riverofhorton's review against another edition
challenging
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
3.75
So much of this book is useful... To someone else.
I found I didn't learn a vast amount from this book, and the bits I did learn gave me more of a "Huh, so that answers this personal trauma question", rather than increasing my understanding of sexuality in general.
So many times the book says something, then it'll say "More on that in chapter x." or "Remember this from chapter y?" and it just served as a jolt in the flow.
One of the things I didn't like, and feel I need to mention: This book uses gender where it should be using sex, and woman where it should be using AFAB, etc. I understand that this was likely done to avoid confusing sex the action with sex the characteristic, but it's the kind of thing that I can see affecting other trans masc people more than I. Using gender (and woman) implies that this book would not apply to trans guys, because gender, but it does apply to us (without surgical intervention) because sex.
It does also seem to portray "Don't want/enjoy sex, that's OKay, change the context and you will." Which skirts a little too close to being Acephobic for my comfort. Some people just aren't interested in sex, and that's OKay.
The basic sum, is that this seems to very much be aimed at the cis woman in a heterosexual monogamous relationship seeking to understand her body and sexuality. Which is great for the cishet woman in a mono relationship. And while there are bits that can be applied to folx that don't fit those categories, the lack of inclusive language is noticeable.
Overall, I can see why this book is so popular, and I will be recommending it to others, with the above caveat as needed, but I just didn't get much out of it that I couldn't have got from trauma therapy.
I found I didn't learn a vast amount from this book, and the bits I did learn gave me more of a "Huh, so that answers this personal trauma question", rather than increasing my understanding of sexuality in general.
So many times the book says something, then it'll say "More on that in chapter x." or "Remember this from chapter y?" and it just served as a jolt in the flow.
One of the things I didn't like, and feel I need to mention: This book uses gender where it should be using sex, and woman where it should be using AFAB, etc. I understand that this was likely done to avoid confusing sex the action with sex the characteristic, but it's the kind of thing that I can see affecting other trans masc people more than I. Using gender (and woman) implies that this book would not apply to trans guys, because gender, but it does apply to us (without surgical intervention) because sex.
It does also seem to portray "Don't want/enjoy sex, that's OKay, change the context and you will." Which skirts a little too close to being Acephobic for my comfort. Some people just aren't interested in sex, and that's OKay.
The basic sum, is that this seems to very much be aimed at the cis woman in a heterosexual monogamous relationship seeking to understand her body and sexuality. Which is great for the cishet woman in a mono relationship. And while there are bits that can be applied to folx that don't fit those categories, the lack of inclusive language is noticeable.
Overall, I can see why this book is so popular, and I will be recommending it to others, with the above caveat as needed, but I just didn't get much out of it that I couldn't have got from trauma therapy.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Pregnancy, Sexual harassment, Body shaming, Bullying, Chronic illness, Sexual content, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Dysphoria, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Mental illness, Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, Medical trauma, Physical abuse, Stalking, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Child abuse, Grief, Medical content, Abortion, Eating disorder, Infidelity, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Acephobia/Arophobia, and Biphobia
rosalind's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual content
Moderate: Sexual assault and Grief
Minor: Fatphobia, Stalking, Misogyny, Sexism, Emotional abuse, and Acephobia/Arophobia
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