Reviews tagging 'Sexual harassment'

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

9 reviews

carlar's review against another edition

hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.0

Reading this book will probably be the first time you hear there is nothing wrong or broken about your sexuality. It’s informative, easy to understand, and has something for everyone.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Sexual content

Minor: Grief, Homophobia, Medical content, Medical trauma, Rape, Stalking, Sexual assault, Sexism, Body shaming, Misogyny, Lesbophobia, and Sexual harassment

riverofhorton's review against another edition

challenging funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

3.75

So much of this book is useful... To someone else.

I found I didn't learn a vast amount from this book, and the bits I did learn gave me more of a "Huh, so that answers this personal trauma question", rather than increasing my understanding of sexuality in general.

So many times the book says something, then it'll say "More on that in chapter x." or "Remember this from chapter y?" and it just served as a jolt in the flow.

One of the things I didn't like, and feel I need to mention: This book uses gender where it should be using sex, and woman where it should be using AFAB, etc. I understand that this was likely done to avoid confusing sex the action with sex the characteristic, but it's the kind of thing that I can see affecting other trans masc people more than I. Using gender (and woman) implies that this book would not apply to trans guys, because gender, but it does apply to us (without surgical intervention) because sex.

It does also seem to portray "Don't want/enjoy sex, that's OKay, change the context and you will." Which skirts a little too close to being Acephobic for my comfort. Some people just aren't interested in sex, and that's OKay.

The basic sum, is that this seems to very much be aimed at the cis woman in a heterosexual monogamous relationship seeking to understand her body and sexuality. Which is great for the cishet woman in a mono relationship. And while there are bits that can be applied to folx that don't fit those categories, the lack of inclusive language is noticeable.

Overall, I can see why this book is so popular, and I will be recommending it to others, with the above caveat as needed, but I just didn't get much out of it that I couldn't have got from trauma therapy.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Pregnancy, Sexual harassment, Body shaming, Bullying, Chronic illness, Sexual content, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Dysphoria, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Mental illness, Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, Medical trauma, Physical abuse, Stalking, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Child abuse, Grief, Medical content, Abortion, Eating disorder, Infidelity, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Acephobia/Arophobia, and Biphobia

amyrose23's review

informative reflective slow-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Minor: Sexual harassment and Sexual assault

millem's review against another edition

emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

Minor: Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, and Sexual violence

liv_txt's review

challenging emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Misogyny

Moderate: Sexual harassment and Sexual assault

Minor: Stalking, Fatphobia, Grief, Rape, Suicide, and Sexism

karyan1's review against another edition

challenging informative reflective medium-paced

3.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

Minor: Body shaming, Sexual violence, Rape, Sexual assault, Mental illness, Sexual harassment, Stalking, and Toxic relationship

sakisreads's review against another edition

emotional informative inspiring medium-paced

4.5

THIS WAS ASTONISHING! I felt like I was learning so much throughout the book that left me astounded and with my mouth wide open 😳 The patriarchy really messed us up (as if we didn’t know that already). I especially enjoyed the part that states ‘all the same parts in different ways’.
I wish I’d gotten this in paper form so that I could use the workbook alongside it, but that might be a goal for another day. It’s one to definitely come back to, I don’t think I could tell you all that went down because there was so much information to digest 🥲 I appreciated the ‘tldr’ sections as well 🥰 Big, big fan of this! 👏🏼

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Body shaming, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, and Sexual harassment

laurenleigh's review

informative medium-paced

4.0

This book comes highly recommended, and I can see why. It definitely helps upend a lot of the stories society has told us about women and their sexuality. Most of it wasn’t exactly brand new information to me, but the packaging or framing of these concepts was interesting. The part about “stress loops” and how we can close them was definitely fascinating, and I’m not surprised this author expounded on this matter in her next book. I am curious to read that one. I’m glad I read this one, even if I didn’t love the reading experience. Despite the author’s enthusiasm and positivity, the subject matter often felt heavy, and I had to take it in small bites.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexism

Moderate: Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, Domestic abuse, Rape, Sexual violence, and Sexual content

kc__'s review

challenging hopeful informative inspiring slow-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Medical content and Sexual content

Minor: Toxic relationship, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, and Rape