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4.13 AVERAGE
4.13 AVERAGE
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
emotional
informative
reflective
آثاری از یالوم که توش فلسفه هست رو به بقیه بیشتر ترجیح میدم، این که چطور فلسفه میتونه در کنار اومدن ما با زندگی بهمون کمک کنه. این کتاب زیاد برام جذاب نبود غیر از داستان آخر که تفکرات مارکوس اورلیوس رو بیان میکرد.
Even though Yalom is still a bit in love with himself, it was an enriching experience reading this book, which presents ten cases related to mortality or the fear thereof. It was eye opening to read about how people deal and think about their own deaths, and how they try to find meaning that would put all of their suffering and losses in the right perspective and give them hope and relief, even near the end. Yalom is above all a humanitarian, and has a holistic approach to therapy that seems to be flexible and adaptable to each case. I feel it is the right approach, much more sensible than sticking to a firm system or paradigm that works in some cases but not in others, and doesn't look at the whole picture. A good read.
“Always reflect that soon you will be no one, and nowhere.”
Before I've started reading Irvin Yalom's books, I've never realised just what a big issue death of one must be and what issues the fear of mortality may cause. But I find his way of dealing with his patients very inspiring for me, someone who aspires to be a therapist, I can say that this guy's books really speak to me.
Before I've started reading Irvin Yalom's books, I've never realised just what a big issue death of one must be and what issues the fear of mortality may cause. But I find his way of dealing with his patients very inspiring for me, someone who aspires to be a therapist, I can say that this guy's books really speak to me.
A good book to for people who have a problem with letting go of the past, getting over the past, accepting the past. Who have a shining history, but are numb in the present. So actually they are still living in the past. They tend to reject reality by making their history shine even more, than it really was. For if the condomn something in their past, this threatens to cast the real light on the rest of the things too, and the house of cards could come down.
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And a book about accepting death. Accepting to being gone, being forgotten at some point.
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And a good book for people who want to learn to be a therapist. Or help people close to them by hearing them out and guiding them.
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"Give up the hope for a better PAST!"
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“Feeling Pity and shame always needs another person towards to feel it. A dance of two, at least.” People often feel shame without others condemning them - because this happens in their own heads. So when You hear out somebody, you must give him direct feedback what You think about it, even hard feedback - because the other person is probably envisioning even worse ideas that You could not even imagine. Because they have lived with the secrets for a long time and they have had a long time to envision all the worst reactions others could have… So always give honest and direct feedback, so they know exactly where You are (and where Your thoughts are NOT at).
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And a book about accepting death. Accepting to being gone, being forgotten at some point.
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And a good book for people who want to learn to be a therapist. Or help people close to them by hearing them out and guiding them.
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"Give up the hope for a better PAST!"
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“Feeling Pity and shame always needs another person towards to feel it. A dance of two, at least.” People often feel shame without others condemning them - because this happens in their own heads. So when You hear out somebody, you must give him direct feedback what You think about it, even hard feedback - because the other person is probably envisioning even worse ideas that You could not even imagine. Because they have lived with the secrets for a long time and they have had a long time to envision all the worst reactions others could have… So always give honest and direct feedback, so they know exactly where You are (and where Your thoughts are NOT at).
informative
reflective
These are interesting stories that make for a quick read.
Confession: I love Irvin Yalom. I've never met the man and never will. I have no idea if his real-life persona is the same as the one he creates in his books. But the Yalom of his books is one of the kindest, most compassionate, witty, intelligent, and humble people I've encountered. This meditation on mortality, in the form of ten case-studies from his psychiatric practice, is thought-provoking and ultimately hopeful, despite it's focus on the fact that we are, all of us, dying every day. Yalom's background as a proponent of Existential Therapy clearly shapes his perspectives and approaches to the problems his patients present, but what is most striking is the feeling of deep caring that infuses his interactions, even with those patients who frustrate and annoy him.
For anyone practicing psychotherapy, this book gives a wonderful insight into one very talented man's unorthodox approach to the profession. For anyone considering psychotherapy, this book provides a glimpse of how a caring therapist might operate, although only a very few people will be fortunate enough to find someone even close to Yalom's skill. For the rest of us, the book is a thoughtful, humorous, and ultimately helpful meditation on facing our own mortality and the many ways we attempt to avoid or alleviate the anxieties death creates in us.
For anyone practicing psychotherapy, this book gives a wonderful insight into one very talented man's unorthodox approach to the profession. For anyone considering psychotherapy, this book provides a glimpse of how a caring therapist might operate, although only a very few people will be fortunate enough to find someone even close to Yalom's skill. For the rest of us, the book is a thoughtful, humorous, and ultimately helpful meditation on facing our own mortality and the many ways we attempt to avoid or alleviate the anxieties death creates in us.