Reviews - He/She/They: How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters

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He/She/They: How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters

Schuyler Bailar

4.64 AVERAGE

bent5390's review

5.0

challenging emotional informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

martinacorona's review against another edition

4.5

emotional informative slow-paced

pbandfeli's review against another edition

4.5

hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

An intro to trans issues and how to be an ally. I was pleasantly surprised by how much ground this book covers and found it approachable and likely easy to understand for beginners without pandering. Schuyler is a patient and passionate writer. I will likely buy a copy for my mom as a gift from her trans nonbinary kid 💓

krin's review against another edition

5.0

This books a friendly and accessible primer for people new to the subject matter around gender and trans issues and is also a great resource for those of us who have already done a lot of educating ourselves around these issues. The author is very gracious and patient with readers. He also very generously shares a lot of personal reflections that make the content even more engaging. I listened to the audiobook and it is narrated by the author. I actually kind of loved that while he starts off exceedingly gentle, he gets a little more animated (and almost heated) when talking about the trickier (and maybe more personal?) topics of trans folks in sports and the experience of dating while trans. Those feel like trans right 201 topics and I think his passion around these subjects really shines through and pushed me to think differently about them.

I've done a lot of reading about gender but this book got me thinking in completely new ways. It was almost hilarious to think about how made up everything is when he points it out that way! Schuyler uses curiosity to push people to think differently and it's very effective. I think I will try to use some of his approach to handle difficult conversations in my life, about any subject. Also, chapter nine includes one of the best explanations about microaggressions I've heard and also an excellent template for how to apologize.

I highly recommend this book (and the audio version) for all different ages and types of readers. It is certainly uncomfortable at times but I'll be holding a lot of these ideas and learnings with me for a long time.

I received a digital Advance Reader Copy from NetGalley and Hachette Books in exchange for an honest review.