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I owe my sobriety to this book. Struggled to moderate my drinking for years. Read this and haven’t had a drink in 7 months and I have zero desire or temptation. It’s pretty repetitive, but I believe that’s intentional. 

This was a tough book to finish. I really, really, really had to push myself to complete it.

My biggest issue was when the author stated (in reference to alcohol), ‘It causes homelessness, joblessness, poverty, abuse, depression, pain, rape, misery, and death’ (p. 122), and again says, ‘Alcohol causes poverty, homelessness, domestic violence, child abuse, homicide, rape, death, and destruction’ (p. 291). First of all, why repeat yourself? The author repeats herself an annoyingly amount of times throughout the book. I found it to be extremely distracting and not at all effective in trying to prove her point. But more importantly, I was absolutely floored that she would blame alcohol for rape. I literally wanted to throw this book in the trash when I read that (I only didn’t because it’s a library book). You’ve got to be f’ing kidding me. How she managed to get away with saying that, and how her publishers got away with publishing that is completely absurd to me. I completely lost all respect for this book and this author upon reading that. How shameful and disgusting.

Another issue I had was when the author stated, ‘But when your mind is in the right place, the physical symptoms are greatly diminished because you know why they exist, and you know they will end’ (in reference to withdrawal symptoms) (p. 208). People literally die from alcohol withdrawals. The symptoms don’t just ‘diminish’ because your mind is in the right place. She also states, ‘This demonstrates how much addiction is in your mind and how freedom comes with a clear decision. There is a good chance you won’t experience any withdrawals, and if you do they will be minimal’ (p. 209). Honestly, what kind of crap is that? People have to medically detox all the time because they run the risk of dying if they try to detox on their own. This statement is completely false, and again I wonder how the author got away with saying this. Trying to minimize what alcohol addicts experience when withdrawing is just wrong and ignorant.

Lastly when the author says, ‘There is an easy way out, but you need to decide to take it. Today your unconscious mind, your entire mind, no longer craves alcohol like it once did’ (p. 220). No, there often isn’t an easy way out when it comes to alcohol (or any) addiction. That’s why it’s an addiction. If it was easy to get out of that situation, the person wouldn’t find themselves addicted to the substance. It’s not just an easy decision you make and *poof* you’re out of addiction. This is why some people spend every single day of their lives fighting their addictions, this is why people have relapses, and this is why people often need medical assistance to abstain from substances. This book is no miracle worker, that after you read it, your unconscious and entire mind are suddenly rid of addiction. If that were the case, wouldn’t every single alcoholic (or at least most of them) read this in order to be done with their addiction? Wouldn’t we see this book replace ‘the big book’ and used at meeting and treatment centers to cure addicts? Yet another false statement.

This book was a complete waste of time. I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone, but especially not to addicts that are hoping this could be of some help to them. I’m just flabbergasted at the crap that this author wrote as though what she had to say was factual, accurate, and/or helpful.
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Informative, but repetitive. Not a lot of new info. At times, I felt she was belittling of people who still continue to drink and had an attitude of you are suckers if you keep drinking that poison (or motor oil as she called it several times). 
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