3.83 AVERAGE


I felt like I learned a variety of interesting things from listening to this audiobook.
The author refers to it as an "enhanced audiobook". It's a regular audiobook, plus a few other production touches, such as a little music.

I bought this book from the title and author alone. I assumed it would be packed full of useful tips on social conversation skills. That is not at all what it is about.

Even after listening to the book, I'm not fully certain of what the book is. One interpretation is that it's the story of a traffic stop gone awry, where the incident escalated, leading to an unnecessary arrest, and then the woman committing suicide in prison. In some ways, I could see how the book explores various aspects of the scenario and explains the history and psychology that led to that. But not every section of the book seems to exist just to support that. Perhaps it's a collection of essays around how we can miscommunicate with people we don't know well. I'm not certain.

But it is definitely an interesting book, going over topics such as how emotions and the facial expressions that represent them are not universal, how people are really terrible at judging if someone is lying or not, and how machines would be better at determining guilt and sentencing than humans. I recommend this audiobook.
informative reflective medium-paced

Full of interesting anecdotes but no coherent message or point to tie them all together.
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challenging dark informative sad fast-paced

I am a fan of the author's writing style which is easy to understand and very engaging.  The subject matter was often sad but was also always informative and well-researched
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One of these books that make you see the world differently after you read them.

lots of theory, not as much solutions. he talked n talked n talked and told great stories with only about 5 points in the entire book. you will thoroughly understand the points by the end, but there's not a lot of content and there's NO tips on how to help the issues.

disjointed and i could not understand the point 

Read this one. No, listen to the audio book. Just the history in this book makes it entertaining. The case built piece by piece to demonstrate how we humans do a mostly poor job of interpreting the motives of one another is fascinating. If everyone reads/listens, maybe we can start to do better?