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133 reviews for:
You Should Be Grateful: Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption
Angela Tucker
4.55 AVERAGE
133 reviews for:
You Should Be Grateful: Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption
Angela Tucker
4.55 AVERAGE
challenging
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
I feel so lucky Angela Tucker is willing to share her story and be this vulnerable. The point that resonated the most with me was that two things could be true at the same time - that she could love her adopted family and also wish she wasn't adopted.
emotional
informative
reflective
fast-paced
A book about transracial adoption and foster care, written by a woman who both was adopted and works in adoption. A very eye opening, educational, and helpful story before I jump into the world of foster care.
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
challenging
informative
medium-paced
A fine enough book, though I did initially pick it up thinking more (adult) adoptee voices than Tucker's. This book was also much more a liberal-tilted informational guide on transracial adoption which I think sometimes detracted from the book by neither allowing for truly incisive critique of the adoption industry and hetero-normative family structure or intimate, movin memoir. I feel like the style of he book was Tucker's way of creating an emotionally safer distance from some pricklier topics.
Additionally, I feel like this book was ultimately written for white adoptive parents which kind of soured me her tendency to explain anything that might leave the imagined white parent with any discomfort of not knowing, for ex, what "CPT" is or that it's cool for a minority group to make fun of the majority (that was a very odd section). Those moments really had the effect of making me feel like I was participating in the "othering" of xyz subject through the narrative lens.
Glad those kids have her space tho(, even if I'm mixed ethically.on sharing the safe space musings of a bunch of youth who are detangling themselves from some white supremacist cultural conceptions).
Additionally, I feel like this book was ultimately written for white adoptive parents which kind of soured me her tendency to explain anything that might leave the imagined white parent with any discomfort of not knowing, for ex, what "CPT" is or that it's cool for a minority group to make fun of the majority (that was a very odd section). Those moments really had the effect of making me feel like I was participating in the "othering" of xyz subject through the narrative lens.
Glad those kids have her space tho(, even if I'm mixed ethically.on sharing the safe space musings of a bunch of youth who are detangling themselves from some white supremacist cultural conceptions).
informative
reflective
emotional
informative
inspiring
I had seen on social media few years ago a debate about adoption and transnational adoption, as well as video on the subject but this one is truly the one that fully made me understand and open my eyes.
I got to know better not only the pain& complexity of the adoptee feelings, but also the one I had never really considered : the one of the birth parents and the lack of support there for them.
This was a very easy read, yet impacting in many ways.
I recommand it to all.
It’s especially important to not only people who wish to adopt or are adoptee and foster parents, but also social workers, therapist as well as children who feel uprooted from their culture while living as a minority or sole minority in another
I got to know better not only the pain& complexity of the adoptee feelings, but also the one I had never really considered : the one of the birth parents and the lack of support there for them.
This was a very easy read, yet impacting in many ways.
I recommand it to all.
It’s especially important to not only people who wish to adopt or are adoptee and foster parents, but also social workers, therapist as well as children who feel uprooted from their culture while living as a minority or sole minority in another