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Family Lore by Elizabeth Acevedo

16 reviews

fkshg8465's review against another edition

emotional hopeful reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

This book was full of pain, love, self-discovery, and sisterhood. All great ingredients for a good story. Rounding up to a four. I  was satisfied with the ending, surprised by some of the middle, and enjoyed the novelty of the beginning.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death of parent, Excrement, Infidelity, Death, Mental illness, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Slavery, Deportation, Medical content, Rape, Body shaming, Alcoholism, Abandonment, Blood, Emotional abuse, Confinement, Grief, Infertility, and Pregnancy

atamano's review against another edition

emotional hopeful reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexism, Misogyny, and Infidelity

Moderate: Death of parent, Emotional abuse, Death, Classism, Sexual assault, Grief, Pregnancy, Sexual content, Abandonment, Racism, and Alcoholism

Minor: Blood, Forced institutionalization, Injury/Injury detail, and Infertility

magsapt's review against another edition

emotional inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

Family Lore is the story of how three generations of women survived, adapting to circumstances, to misogyny and, most importantly, to each other. It is a book about trauma, life and, above all, death - how to prepare for it, how to accept it and how to just let go. 
Sometimes you do not realise how good a book is until you discuss it with someone and a few days have passed. Family Lore is one of Acevedo's best books, although it was not always my favourite as I read it. And this, I must confess, has nothing to do with the author's inability to tell a story or write beautiful prose (a style we're not used to seeing Acevedo use), but with my own biases. My only problem with this book was

Ona's power, and that says more about me than the author. It made me realise how embarrassed I still feel when it comes to talking about female sexuality and how, even though I'm a woman, I still have a lot of work to do to get comfortable with the topic. Do I think Ona's power was best suited to this story? Not really. But should it have made me uncomfortable? I don't think so. And why should it, if it's just a woman talking about her connection to her body? Ona is confident about her sexuality and writes about it openly, without taboos or shame. That's one of the lessons I think we should take from this story, an example to follow rather than perpetuate the shame around it.

What I really liked, though, was the multiple POVs, which worked wonders for me. I think Acevedo knew how to give each character a distinct voice. The author is a master at exploring relationships. This was undoubtedly the best part of the book. We got to know each woman's feelings for the other and how their dynamic changed over time as they married and had children. 
However, even though this is a book about women, for women, I would've liked to see more

of brother Samuel, even if only to see how he relates to his wife and daughters. We see that after he got married he stopped being close to his siblings (which is unfortunate), but I don't think his POV would have damaged the story. On the contrary, I think it would have enriched it because his daughters have powers and his wife didn't like that. Samuel's daughters grew up without support, estranged from their father's family, and away from strong and independent women, and I would have loved to see Acevedo's perspective on that.

 
Something the author excelled at was her description of emotional abuse and how people can actually change.

Mamá Sílvia was the most complex character in this story and her arc was brilliant. Nothing in the world is enough to forgive her for the abuse she inflicted on Pastora, but I would like to think that she learned something from it and tried to make amends through Yadi.

It was beautiful to see. 
Overall, I give this book a perfect 4-star rating. It has some things that could've definitely been better, but the story, the plot and the creativity (characteristic of Acevedo) will warm your heart. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse

Moderate: Sexual harassment

Minor: Death

celery's review against another edition

dark emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcoholism, Death, Deportation, Domestic abuse, Abandonment, Ableism, Child death, Classism, Gun violence, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Murder, Physical abuse, Sexism, Sexual content, Stalking, Toxic friendship, Violence, Grief, Medical content, Misogyny, Gore, Racism, Sexual harassment, Death of parent, Drug use, Excrement, Fatphobia, Gaslighting, Infidelity, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Vomit, Animal death, Incest, Infertility, Injury/Injury detail, Addiction, Alcohol, Blood, Emotional abuse, Pregnancy, Hate crime, Medical trauma, Panic attacks/disorders, Body shaming, Car accident, Child abuse, Colonisation, Confinement, Cursing, and Sexual assault

asulyi's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional mysterious reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.5

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Infidelity, Infertility, Miscarriage, and Emotional abuse

tahsintries's review against another edition

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Infidelity and Death of parent

Moderate: Misogyny, Alcoholism, Grief, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Pregnancy, Toxic relationship, Miscarriage, and Blood

Minor: Panic attacks/disorders, Sexual assault, and Excrement

stephmcoakley's review against another edition

challenging emotional mysterious medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Alcoholism, Infertility, Infidelity, Child abuse, Mental illness, Police brutality, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, Death of parent, Forced institutionalization, and Miscarriage

rei_reads's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Infidelity, Sexual content, and Infertility

Moderate: Death of parent and Emotional abuse

Minor: Alcoholism

javafenn's review against another edition

emotional funny hopeful mysterious reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

This book was such an interesting dive into what family means with a touch of magic. Each woman has their own magical ability but nothing grandiose, just something simple that can make their lives easier, I’d say. It starts with an invitation to a wake for a living person and ends with a family close than before and more understanding of one another. Some parts of it were wildly uncomfortable to listen to without headphones but it’s a good book nonetheless. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Misogyny, Murder, Pregnancy, Injury/Injury detail, Colonisation, Cursing, Death, Infertility, Infidelity, Sexism, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, and Miscarriage

Moderate: Emotional abuse, Grief, Gun violence, Deportation, Drug use, Sexual harassment, and Blood

elliehoney's review against another edition

emotional hopeful reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse and Infidelity