Reviews tagging 'Dementia'

A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara

83 reviews

neontulips's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

I'm furious. The craft of this book was so excellent, asides from what I would say amount to some planning and character writing issues that begin about the final quarter of the book, that it bothers me immensely that every lesson in the book emanates such a pessimism, that they all amount essentially to a bleak miserable world that does not do much to fight Jude's contention that his life is not worth living. Around the point in the book where I began to think, wow, Yanagihara really understands that the only way to really go on living is to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known, she created a false world in which it was impossible to allow oneself that relief,

and concluded a story which purports essentially that the people around Jude should have let him go, as a man only fifty, because his life was so hard

. To treat such violence as inevitable is to put that violence into the world. This book is beautiful and miserly and irresponsible. I hated giving it a rating for this purpose.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Adult/minor relationship, Blood, Body shaming, Bullying, Car accident, Chronic illness, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fire/Fire injury, Gaslighting, Violence, Hate crime, Kidnapping, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Outing, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Death, Gore, Rape, Sexual assault, Trafficking, Vomit, Abandonment, Acephobia/Arophobia, Alcohol, Sexual violence, Suicide attempt, Child abuse, Child death, Dementia, Forced institutionalization, Homophobia, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Sexual content, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Grief, and Medical content

hollynewton's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

2.0

This book navigates adult friendships, aging, career paths, addiction, romantic relationships, and family is the most insightful and beautiful way I have ever read. Unfortunately, this all ends around a third of the way in, when the book focuses on one character’s extremely traumatic life. <spoilers> The graphic and excessive descriptions of child rape, self harm and domestic abuse left me desensitised, an effect that I think is harmful to the reader and one that I hope the author did not intend. I understand that Jude’s suffering is the foundation of his character, but Yanagihara’s rendering of his abuse feels sensationalist and in my opinion trauma porn. Whilst a full recovery and happy ending for Jude would have been unrealistic, the sheer volume of physical, psychological, sexual abuse he experiences is so extreme that it feels pointless. Yes, everything that happens to Jude happens to real people, but does it all ever happen to one singular person? Jude is abandoned in an alley as a baby, a child prostitute raped almost daily, a double amputee, has an eating disorder, performs serious self harm almost daily, and loses the love of his life in a car accident. But also, he’s a vastly wealthy and successful lawyer, an exquisite singer of Schubert’s lieder, a professional-grade baker, incredibly good-looking, is adopted as an adult by his ex professor and falls in love with his best friend of 30 years. <spoilers> The result is that the book feels preachy without actually being clear as to what it is preaching; are we to feel guilty that such horrors occur in the world? Empathy for this fictitious anomaly of a person who experiences it all? Grateful for our own normal struggles in life? I’m not sure, but this book was painful to read and without many benefits for me.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Dementia, Body shaming, Death of parent, Gaslighting, Sexual assault, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Child abuse, Death, Drug use, Eating disorder, Drug abuse, Body horror, Self harm, Toxic relationship, Addiction, Cursing, Excrement, Kidnapping, Violence, Blood, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual content, Mental illness, Terminal illness, Car accident, Dysphoria, Gore, Medical trauma, Suicidal thoughts, Vomit, Child death, Chronic illness, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Fire/Fire injury, Grief, Medical content, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Sexual violence, Adult/minor relationship, Cancer, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Toxic friendship, and Trafficking

abwilli's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Self harm, Addiction, Blood, Fire/Fire injury, Suicide, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Terminal illness, Vomit, Child abuse, Grief, Panic attacks/disorders, Rape, Toxic relationship, Trafficking, Adult/minor relationship, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Violence, Kidnapping, Pedophilia, Car accident, Sexual assault, Physical abuse, Suicide attempt, Chronic illness, Cursing, Dementia, and Medical content

corrina_milito's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

Perhaps the most deeply tragic book I’ve ever read, A Little Life is a beautifully written heartbreaker. The abuse and violence relentlessly endured by the protagonist, Jude, is so unimaginable that at moments it seems egregious, salacious even, and almost distracting. The beauty and perseverance of deep and meaningful friendship, however, kept  me coming back for more. The depth and dimension of Yanagihara’s characters is profound but I did find myself asking she wrote this book.  I love that she is unapologetic about her novels but I still don’t have an answer to my question. The story would’ve been just as moving with only half the atrocities. I will definitely read more of her work. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Car accident, Medical content, Rape, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Body shaming, Violence, Mental illness, Blood, Sexual content, Death, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Suicidal thoughts, Eating disorder, Domestic abuse, Torture, Emotional abuse, Terminal illness, Physical abuse, Trafficking, Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Kidnapping, Pedophilia, Self harm, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence

Moderate: Eating disorder, Addiction, Ableism, Vomit, Fire/Fire injury, and Body shaming

Minor: Drug abuse, Bullying, Stalking, Drug use, Classism, Infidelity, Death of parent, Dementia, Fire/Fire injury, Forced institutionalization, and Panic attacks/disorders

18ksmith's review against another edition

dark emotional sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Stalking, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic friendship, Car accident, Injury/Injury detail, Medical trauma, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Torture, Medical content, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Fire/Fire injury, Forced institutionalization, Death, Gore, Kidnapping, Violence, Mental illness, Rape, Emotional abuse, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Abandonment, Adult/minor relationship, Blood, Confinement, Cursing, Body shaming, Child abuse, Eating disorder, Gaslighting, and Grief

Moderate: Dementia, Ableism, and Drug abuse

Minor: Homophobia

kovi's review against another edition

dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Dementia, Death, Adult/minor relationship, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicide, Car accident, Physical abuse, Rape, Kidnapping, and Child abuse

dragonsandfoxes's review against another edition

challenging dark reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Sexual violence, Abandonment, Ableism, Adult/minor relationship, Dementia, Drug use, Eating disorder, Homophobia, Injury/Injury detail, Medical content, Emotional abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Self harm, Suicide, Violence, Vomit, Cursing, Death of parent, Fire/Fire injury, Suicide attempt, Mental illness, Suicidal thoughts, Blood, Bullying, Body shaming, Forced institutionalization, Gaslighting, Torture, Body horror, Domestic abuse, Car accident, Child abuse, Pedophilia, Rape, Chronic illness, Medical trauma, Addiction, Grief, Cancer, Gore, Sexual harassment, and Trafficking

guppymay18's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad tense

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Vomit, Gore, Medical trauma, Body horror, Body shaming, Child abuse, Death, Car accident, Chronic illness, Emotional abuse, Torture, Toxic relationship, Trafficking, Blood, Abandonment, Addiction, Bullying, Grief, Medical content, Gaslighting, Violence, Rape, Terminal illness, Suicide attempt, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Dementia, Domestic abuse, Fire/Fire injury, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Self harm, and Sexual assault

yamotha's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny hopeful inspiring sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Trafficking, Suicidal thoughts, Blood, Addiction, Suicide attempt, Child abuse, Toxic relationship, Suicide, Forced institutionalization, Dementia, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Transphobia, Physical abuse, Mental illness, Self harm, Eating disorder, Drug use, Rape, Car accident, Panic attacks/disorders, Drug abuse, Domestic abuse, Adult/minor relationship, Pedophilia, Body horror, and Medical trauma

fkshg8465's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

 OMG. I wished so much for this book to go on and on forever, because I think it’s pretty obvious how it will eventually end, and I desperately wanted it to keep going - for him to keep going - for me to keep going. I felt like there were parts of the protagonist that were mirrors of how I feel about me some days, and I really needed him to save me. Be forewarned. Tons of triggers. Blown away by this book. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Dementia, Domestic abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Toxic relationship, Eating disorder, Infidelity, Medical content, Rape, Grief, Blood, Car accident, Chronic illness, Death, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Gore, Physical abuse, Self harm, Bullying, Vomit, Death of parent, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Body horror, Body shaming, Cancer, Child abuse, Child death, Drug use, Forced institutionalization, Fire/Fire injury, Kidnapping, Outing, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Sexual assault, Torture, and Violence