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Reviews tagging 'Toxic relationship'
Meine dunkle Vanessa by Kate Elizabeth Russell, Ulrike Thiesmeyer
897 reviews
stuffinmybrainhole's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.75
Graphic: Pedophilia and Rape
Moderate: Cancer, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Violence, and Vomit
mbzoller's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Child abuse, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Alcoholism, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Grief, and Alcohol
Minor: Animal death, Bullying, Infidelity, Physical abuse, Vomit, and Death of parent
mxstanton's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.5
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Mental illness, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Self harm, Suicide, and Gaslighting
braedenjed's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Emotional abuse, Sexual content, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Mental illness and Sexual assault
stellab247's review against another edition
I get it's a dark one and with a lot of trigger warnings but it was hard for me to read about a MFC that is in such denial about an abuse she went through and did not want to help herself. I don't judge her or anyone else in her place in real life but I felt like there is not enough for a story line to make want to continue reading this.
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Death, Emotional abuse, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, Suicide, Toxic relationship, and Sexual harassment
lil_owl_reads's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
This book is like acid. It cuts so deep and burns so hard that there are points where it’s hard to keep reading without throwing the book across a room or screaming at the top of your lungs. And yet it’s the most complex portrayal of abuse, consent, gaslighting, victimization, confession, and acceptance I’ve ever read. Vanessa is not the perfect victim, but the more important question should be why is that our goal? Perfection is not attainable; why should we demand that from those abused?
“With the sun on my face and a dog at my side, I have so much capacity for good.”
*Note: heavy on the trigger warnings. make sure you’re familiar before starting this.
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Alcoholism, Drug abuse, and Suicide
allidone's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Most of this novel is the adult woman looking back on what happened to her and trying to reframe it in her mind. Most of what I read made me feel physically ill. My stomach hurt and I had to take frequent breaks from the book while also wanting to 'get it over with'. It's a beautifully written novel that takes a real look at all those "age gap" tropes and the ongoing fantasy that having an affair with a teacher is in anyway sexy. This takes a look at what that power imbalance, what that breaking of a young soul actually does to a person.
Vanessa isn't a loveable victim. In fact, she insists through most of the novel that she's not a victim at all. She wanted it and it was love and she knew what she was doing and he wasn't a monster. All things to cope with what actually happened to her and what kept happening to her all through her youth. The gaslighting and grooming that took place, the fact that while he initiated it all he turned it around and placed it on her. The fact that he was always covering his bases, telling coworkers she had a crush and it might end up being a problem. She coped the only way she knew how and that was to reclaim some of the agency she lost to him. Each sexual encounter reads as a loss of agency, that she didn't want to take all those steps but the secondary coping mechanism of continuing with it creates a sort of retroactive consent. It doesn't.
It's incredibly triggering as a woman and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone that has any experience of losing their agency, with rape or with assault. This novel, while beautifully written, created a physical response that I battled throught the novel. Ultimately I am glad I finished it, but it was a struggle and there were many moments that I considered DNFing the book entirely.
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Grief, Stalking, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Bullying, Self harm, Death of parent, and Abandonment
Minor: Animal death
geri_r's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship
Moderate: Pedophilia, Suicide, and Toxic relationship
angelizamo's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Alcoholism
allysontrinh's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment