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A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara

46 reviews

bailliemayberry's review against another edition

2.25

I have never read a book with as much tragedy as this one. It was really hard for me to get through because of how dark the twists were and how casually they were dropped in. There really should be a trigger warning at the beginning of the book rather than just online because the depth of detail was just not right. I understand Yanagihara's approach in wanting it to be confronting, she wants her story to have a significant impact on the reader, but some of the descriptions were just unnecessary and disgusting.

I will not be recommending this to anybody nor will I be re-reading it at any point in my life.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Child death, Racism, Ableism, Pedophilia, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Lesbophobia, Rape, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Child abuse, and Gaslighting

caitlin_d89's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

Take notes, they will help so much at first. It will say “he did” / “he said” but the POV changes up without notice so knowing the characters will keep you from being confused. Hard book to read since it’s so emotional but such a good read. I felt connected to the characters, almost like a friend by the end so you really feel their feels. Triggers! 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicidal thoughts, Injury/Injury detail, Forced institutionalization, Sexual harassment, Sexual content, Dysphoria, Blood, Ableism, Medical content, Gaslighting, Confinement, Body shaming, Abandonment, Violence, Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Self harm, Torture, Suicide attempt, Physical abuse, Pedophilia, Emotional abuse, Adult/minor relationship, Sexual violence, Rape, Trafficking, Suicide, Mental illness, Gore, Domestic abuse, Chronic illness, Body horror, Incest, and Child abuse

Minor: Cancer, Car accident, Gaslighting, Addiction, Bullying, Gore, Biphobia, Vomit, Toxic friendship, Medical content, Death, Fire/Fire injury, Religious bigotry, Death of parent, Lesbophobia, Chronic illness, Confinement, Cursing, Incest, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, and Kidnapping

libraryofsachi's review against another edition

dark emotional sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

1.0

This is miserable. My first thought upon finishing this was “what the fuck did I just read?! And why would anyone write this?”. There were some beautiful moments in this and I enjoyed the found family themes, but that was where it stopped. The trauma is overwhelming in this story. The author has stated numerous times that she wanted to create a character that NEVER gets better, which I think is important to understand going into this (and messed up!), as a book like this can be really damaging to read.

Poor Jude 😭 I feel so sorry for him. But I’m more annoyed at the author than sad. I think my main issue with this book is that it lacks sensitivity towards trauma survivors and sends a pretty harmful message suggesting you will never overcome your trauma - which I think is awful. I think the author exploits trauma more than she claims to explore it. This book doesn’t send out much of a positive message, there isn’t some huge resolution that leaves the reader feeling cathartic. Is this torture p*rn? I don’t know if that’s for me to decide but this book just seems unrealistic at times, like the author threw everything at the wall to see what would stick. I know some people find this book to be “real”, which I’m happy you do, but I found her torture of Jude relentless. Her portrayal of race and gender were a bit strange too.

What I’m choosing to take away from this book is that you really do need to treat everyone with kindness, because you have no idea what they may be going through. Sending lots of love to anyone reading this 💛

I ✨DO NOT✨ recommend this book. Do yourself a favour and don’t read this!!!!! I hate this. 🧍🏽‍♀️

My rating: 1/5 ⭐️

Also “nishihara syndrome”???? 😂

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Self harm and Ableism

Moderate: Rape, Self harm, Sexual violence, Lesbophobia, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Trafficking, Violence, Drug use, Eating disorder, Transphobia, Child abuse, Gaslighting, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Racism, Suicide, and Suicide attempt

⚠️ Please see the trigger warnings for this book! ⚠️ There are some really sensitive topics and graphic scenes throughout it. Stating upfront that I don’t recommend this book to anyone!

laylamaethaila's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

This was an INCREDIBLY hard read. Yahnagihara is such a compelling, jaw dropping writer, and made me feel SO MUCH in like, 700 pages. -.5 for being a bit “trauma porn-y”

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Hate crime, Eating disorder, Transphobia, Suicide attempt, Emotional abuse, Death, Incest, Grief, Gaslighting, Ableism, Xenophobia, Suicide, Suicidal thoughts, Adult/minor relationship, Racism, Physical abuse, Medical content, Sexual assault, Rape, Sexual harassment, Self harm, and Lesbophobia

malace0's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful inspiring reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Suicide attempt, Child abuse, Self harm, Drug abuse, Rape, Suicidal thoughts, Child death, Ableism, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Trafficking, and Suicide

Moderate: Eating disorder and Racism

Minor: Transphobia, Abandonment, and Lesbophobia

selenebooks_'s review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

EDITED: it's been however long after reading this and i have new opinions.
i'm not taking back my 5* rating, because i (unfortunately?) really enjoyed this book and there are certain aspects to which i relate to but, after months of pondering, i cannot recommend this book anymore. and i am very sorry to the people i have recommended this to.

a really good way to start this is by letting you guys read this article by andrea long chu for the vulture: https://www.vulture.com/article/hanya-yanagihara-review.html.
or also, a youtube video:
https://youtu.be/JpZF7O0jezg?si=pWTZBw6LiELRv7Tz

it took so long, but i finally opened up my eyes to the writing style, plot and to the author herself. for a really long time, i did not believe that were people were saying that hanya loves to write gay characters suffering but oh my god, she really does. it's some weird, f*cked up fetishising view on gay people, specially men who seem to be the focus of her books. she's always writing about the most stereotypical things about gay man (like having aids, being victims of SA and/or physical abuse, etc) and some of us have fallen the tiktok rabbit hole of eating this sh*t up.
in a lot of ways, i relate to jude, hence why i have loved this book and i always backed up my opinion by saying jude is the personification of so many people (as if he's the bearer of all the possibly bad things that can happen to a human being), but i simply CAN'T agree with myself. hanya yanagihara just loves writing about weak, sickly young gay men being tortured beyond comprehension. there's never a happy ending, and i know it doesn't have to, but yanagihara probably gets off on seeing miserable people.
not to mention that she is so uncultured, to an extent that made ME feel uncultured. the things that went over my head because she, quite literally, triggered me so much to the point of sobbing on my couch at 10 am finishing this godforsaken book. i think it gave me trauma. this woman has done zero research about the queer community, about therapy, about mental health - all topics she has mentioned over and over and over again in her book(s). she quite literally believes that, if you're so miserable, just k*ll yourself! .... anyway, bold of her to think that way when she coddles her characters so badly, she makes them suffer, nurses them back to health, to put them again at the brink of death, just to repeat the process all over again, until it's time to push them off the edge.
another note i'd like to make, related to my last point, is that "a little life" is just your average ikea manual instructions on how to self-harm. this was brought to my attention in the video i have linked above, and i think it's absolutely mental the amount of times yanagihara writes detailed, gore filed, vomit inducing passages of self-harm. as someone who struggles with that, at first, i felt seen but it came to a point that i couldn't fathom why the depictions had to become more and more disturbing as time went on.

to finish my thoughts, i leave you with my favourite quote from the article by andrea:
"The first time he cuts himself, you are horrified; the 600th time, you wish he would aim."

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Self harm, Abandonment, Physical abuse, Violence, Blood, Body horror, Child abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Suicide attempt, Adult/minor relationship, Pedophilia, Sexual violence, and Toxic relationship

Moderate: Car accident, Vomit, Fire/Fire injury, Racism, and Eating disorder

Minor: Drug abuse, Transphobia, Drug use, and Lesbophobia

daniel195evans's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abandonment, Ableism, Child abuse, Violence, Suicide, Sexual content, Self harm, Physical abuse, Pedophilia, Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Toxic relationship, Vomit, Mental illness, Medical trauma, Blood, Suicidal thoughts, Sexual harassment, Body horror, Bullying, Car accident, Child death, Chronic illness, Suicide attempt, Death, Death of parent, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, Rape, Lesbophobia, Homophobia, Forced institutionalization, Medical content, and Eating disorder

madisone's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

This is by far the saddest book I have ever read in my entire life. I full on sobbed 9 times throughout this entire book which doesn’t seem like a lot, but take into consideration that these bawling sessions were at least 15 minutes long each. This is the hardest book that I will likely ever read and it’s not because of the fact that it’s over 800 pages long. I loved this book so incredibly much, but from the deepest places within me, I cannot in good conscience recommend it to anybody at all.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Rape, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Chronic illness, Suicide attempt, Domestic abuse, Child abuse, Child death, Mental illness, Lesbophobia, Homophobia, Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, Blood, Sexual violence, and Violence

besotted's review against another edition

challenging dark reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Pedophilia, Rape, Gore, Chronic illness, Sexual assault, Homophobia, Self harm, Mental illness, Grief, Child abuse, Suicide, Suicidal thoughts, Injury/Injury detail, and Emotional abuse

Moderate: Ableism, Lesbophobia, Blood, Panic attacks/disorders, Medical trauma, Transphobia, and Religious bigotry

Minor: Vomit, Classism, and Deadnaming

sophietheonion's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful informative reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Gaslighting, Child abuse, Death, Physical abuse, Suicide attempt, Chronic illness, Cursing, Eating disorder, Injury/Injury detail, Lesbophobia, Racism, Rape, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Ableism, Self harm, Blood, Body horror, Vomit, Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Emotional abuse, Terminal illness, Car accident, Death of parent, Medical content, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Abandonment, Sexual harassment, Suicide, and Toxic friendship