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blackcatkai's review against another edition
5.0
a short memoir from Vivek Shraya about her growing up & into herself as a queer transwoman and all the internalized/societal issues shes faced involving men as well as women. she touches on tough topics but there's good things here, too. I love her writing and insights about gender itself as well as gender expression. I would definitely recommend this and will be reading more of her work in the future.
Graphic: Bullying, Body shaming, and Sexism
Moderate: Sexual content, Racism, Homophobia, Transphobia, Sexual harassment, and Sexism
Minor: Infidelity, Ableism, Mental illness, and Suicidal thoughts
mraddd's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Homophobia and Transphobia
Moderate: Infidelity
frantically's review against another edition
4.25
What I especially loved being themed is how it is often gay men that make queer spaces unsafe and uncomfortable for female-presenting people. Their gayness does not excuse the casual misogyny they often display.
Graphic: Bullying, Sexual harassment, Homophobia, Misogyny, Infidelity, and Transphobia
Moderate: Suicidal thoughts, Xenophobia, and Mental illness
mikaelaandherbooks's review against another edition
Graphic: Misogyny, Transphobia, and Homophobia
Moderate: Racism and Infidelity
Minor: Suicidal thoughts
bi_n_large's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Transphobia, Homophobia, Misogyny, and Sexual assault
Moderate: Racism, Infidelity, Bullying, Hate crime, and Body shaming
Minor: Suicidal thoughts and Violence
thewordsdevourer's review against another edition
4.0
the stacked reasons for the title, peppered throughout but esp in the opening pgs, are a reality slap and a harsh reminder; compounded by intersectional identities, the outlook seems ever bleak. i also very much relate to the author's view on love, self-love, and the body. im particularly impressed by her self-awareness on her own complicity thru both past and present actions as well, as it encourages us all to look back w/in ourselves and reflect on our own role, meaning there's at least a way forward.
Graphic: Transphobia
Moderate: Misogyny, Sexism, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Racism, Suicidal thoughts, and Infidelity
moonyreadsbystarlight's review
4.0
Parts of this are in first person and others were in second. That shift to second person is a powerful literary decision because of the discomfort that it brings, putting you in the shoes of men who have hurt her. And it makes the later (first person) discussion of how even people who aren't men contribute to misogyny that much more hard-hitting.
Graphic: Misogyny, Transphobia, Homophobia, and Racism
Moderate: Infidelity
malaikawrites's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Homophobia, Misogyny, and Transphobia
Moderate: Racism, Biphobia, and Infidelity
solenodon's review against another edition
4.75
Graphic: Homophobia, Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual harassment, Transphobia, and Grief
Moderate: Xenophobia, Sexual content, Racism, and Mental illness
Minor: Sexual violence, Sexual content, Suicide, Infidelity, and Hate crime
cianarae's review
5.0
Graphic: Dysphoria, Homophobia, Hate crime, Misogyny, Transphobia, and Bullying
Moderate: Body shaming, Grief, Infidelity, Suicidal thoughts, and Violence
Minor: Death