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4.31 AVERAGE
4.31 AVERAGE
I expected a deeper scientific approach I guess and a little bit more than just pop science. For me it was nothing new.
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First off: I'm really glad this book exists. It has some essential information about basic anatomy, which I imagine would be very useful to women coming from very sheltered, shame-filled environments. It also lays out examples of five women talking to their partners, and I found these to be the most engaging parts of the book. We follow these women as they navigate relational and internal conflicts related to their sexuality.
But as someone who already has a sex-positive outlook and a healthy relationship with my body, I found the book to be very repetitive and it didn't have a lot of science (which, based on the subtitle, I thought it would). The majority of the book is positive affirmation with light dusting of scientific data. Essentially, my criticism is that I was expecting this book to be a bit for information/science leaning and, instead, it was more self-help leaning--not the right book for me.
An additional critique directed at the writing style: this books uses so many weak metaphors and I was constantly wishing the author would just get to the point. Why do I need to think about a "sleepy hedgehog" to acknowledge my emotions and be gentle with myself? These kinds of metaphors didn't land with me. Some statements (like "you are normal") were repeated over and over to the point where I would skim over multiple pages. Again, these are important things for some people to hear, and perhaps the repetition is needed for some, but this book was simply not for me.
But as someone who already has a sex-positive outlook and a healthy relationship with my body, I found the book to be very repetitive and it didn't have a lot of science (which, based on the subtitle, I thought it would). The majority of the book is positive affirmation with light dusting of scientific data. Essentially, my criticism is that I was expecting this book to be a bit for information/science leaning and, instead, it was more self-help leaning--not the right book for me.
An additional critique directed at the writing style: this books uses so many weak metaphors and I was constantly wishing the author would just get to the point. Why do I need to think about a "sleepy hedgehog" to acknowledge my emotions and be gentle with myself? These kinds of metaphors didn't land with me. Some statements (like "you are normal") were repeated over and over to the point where I would skim over multiple pages. Again, these are important things for some people to hear, and perhaps the repetition is needed for some, but this book was simply not for me.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual content
Moderate: Rape, Sexual assault
Minor: Misogyny
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So not sure how I got to listening to this audio book. It could’ve been a the sex podcast I listen to and I also know Rachel has read it but I don’t remember her specifically telling me to. Anywho- I actually really liked this book and learned a lot about female sexuality. A lot of it was mad repetitive but it is nice to know more about your own body. Recommend this to all women
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This is a helpful reorientation to the ways we've been conditioned to think about sexuality and sexual desire. It felt a little repetitive at points, but I think they may have been intentional to really drive home the authors' framework.
There was one brief mention of asexuality (in the form of acknowledging that some people identity as asexual), but not really any integration. I didn't feel like the author was dismissive of asexuality, but I do think it'd be useful to read this along with some other writings on compulsory sexuality to help folks have the absolute widest lens of exploration - i.e. sexuality and sexual desire can look different for women and AFAB folks than society conditioned us to believe, and that includes having no sexual attraction or sexual desire toward people at all, regardless of context, period.
There was one brief mention of asexuality (in the form of acknowledging that some people identity as asexual), but not really any integration. I didn't feel like the author was dismissive of asexuality, but I do think it'd be useful to read this along with some other writings on compulsory sexuality to help folks have the absolute widest lens of exploration - i.e. sexuality and sexual desire can look different for women and AFAB folks than society conditioned us to believe, and that includes having no sexual attraction or sexual desire toward people at all, regardless of context, period.
Really really really really good. Everyone should read this even if they don't need help with their sex lives. This book is about more than that. I changed for the better because of this book. It deals with emotions in such a positive way.