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My Friends by Fredrik Backman

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emotional hopeful reflective sad slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: A mix
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated

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Strong character development: No
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated

I love Backman's writing, but this one just didn't do it for me. I didn't connect to any of the characters and, in a book that relies solely on the characters to tell the story, connecting to them is key. I was honestly bored for most of this and wondered where we were going, only to be disappointed when it felt like we went nowhere. The pacing was slow and that made it difficult to stay engaged while listening to the audiobook. 

This one has a lot of five-star reviews, so take this with a grain of salt. I'm on outlier island with this one. Check trigger warnings before going into this one. 

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Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

The frame of this story is 39 year old Ted and 18 year old Louisa on kind of a road trip, mostly on an endless train, to try and sell the very expensive famous painting by artist C. Jat, who was Ted's friend and just died after an illness. Louisa is an escaped foster kid who still grieves her friend Fish who died of an overdose. While travelling, Ted tells Louisa about the summer when his group of friends that also comprises Joar and Ali, were 14 and when this first picture, that would make the artist world-famous, was conceived.

None of the four friends had great parents. Especially Joar's old man who was a violent drunk. There is a lot of drug and alcohol abuse, bullying and violence in their youth, and I felt it was too much. The artist, who didn't get a name until the end, was probably on the spectrum, and his parents didn't understand how special he was. The author is trying to uphold the tension of something awful to come, but it takes most of the book to get there and I didn't find it awful at all, but I felt manipulated by the way the scene was described, making us think something happened that hadn't.

I find it very difficult to review this. I can objectively see that it's well-written, and I usually love Fredrik Backman's books but this didn't capture me. It is too literary and felt like a cross between a misery memoir and a dissertation about art. We get so many observations about what art is, it's this, it's that... The art stuff didn't interest me, and all of the protagonists had had a difficult childhood, as if you needed that to appreciate art. The author introduced random side stories, like what was Christian doing in there?

The short chapters make it very readable but the middle seems drawn-out. I liked Ted and Louisa but didn't care all that much about the others. If you like stories about art, friendships and found family, this might be for you, just don't expect this to be funny and light-hearted like A Man Called Ove.

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Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: No

It had a slow start, and was a very slow read for me, but I ended up loving it. I've found the last few Fredrik Backman books I've read to be slow and hard to read, structure wise, but I'm glad I stuck this one out.
The friendship that bloomed between Luisa and Ted was so sweet and it was incredible that KimKim saw something in her so quickly to bring her into their tight knit group. I don't understand how the summer started and ended with a funeral, whenonly Ted's dad died, but I'm glad Joar didn't end up having to kill his old man.

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Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

This book was so beautiful. I definitely loved it. Extremely sad, but beautifully written. I don’t want to give too much away, but I definitely recommend. The only reason jt wasn’t a 5 star from me is because I thought it started to get a bit slow at times, but the story was great.

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