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내 휴식과 이완의 해 by Ottessa Moshfegh

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acstar's review against another edition

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dark reflective sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5


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erikalv97's review against another edition

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fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? No
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0


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smacey's review against another edition

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dark emotional sad medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

*TW: suicide*
I also swear a bit, just a heads up.

Overall, I genuinely enjoyed My Year of Rest and Relaxation. I know a lot of those who have read this book and had a negative view of it tend to list the characters all being unlikeable as a main reason, but I personally loved focusing on unlikeable characters. I enjoy reading about the life of a truly selfish person who, if we're being honest about the main character, really doesn't contribute pretty much anything to society, especially with it coming from their own point of view. I like that even her one and only friend is an unlikeable person, obsessed with looks and status and reputation. I like that the one artist she meets and agrees to her plan is also an unlikeable person (because he agreed to her completely unhealthy, somewhat disturbing plan). It's kind of nice to read about awful people on occasion, but of course that's a personal preference.

That being said, I do think part of my positive reaction towards this book stems from the fact that I have a depression diagnosis, and at my absolute worst, my "depressive fantasy" (as I like to call it) was sleeping my life away. (*TW*) In my mind, it always felt like the perfect way to kill yourself without the commitment. Like, I could be dead for however long I was able to sleep. Like, the closest way I could get to a self-induced coma. It's like temporarily dying and bypassing the consequences of suicide for the people who know you... In that regard, I had this weird sort of connection to the main character. There have been times (way) in the past where I have cared so little about my life or just life in general that I don't think about other people and don't put any effort in towards living or being happy and just give up on everything, including feeling. I have this odd understanding of the way this character thought and behaved. If I hadn't gotten help when I did (GO SEE A THERAPIST AND/OR PSYCHIATRIST IF YOU NEED HELP AND HAVE THE RESOURCES, IT'S SO WORTH IT), I think I could have eventually spiraled to a point where I stooped to the main character's level: apathetic, bored, selfish, ignorant, numb, and reckless (granted, I was a teen and didn't have the privilege to sit in an apartment all day, have no job, and still afford rent (and also lived with my parents)) Thankfully, my life was able to move in the opposite direction and I am able to read something like this and feel grateful for my life now.

While I have a weird adoration for My Year of Rest, I do find that, in my opinion, it didn't add anything to hide the main character's name. I guess it didn't take away anything either - I don't think I would have benefitted from knowing her name if it had been included - but it didn't seem too significant for me. I get that it's kind of alluding to how anonymous and secluded she was, but it just didn't feel like it was necessary.

One other thing is that I wish the date of the book might have been more hidden or not so blatant? I don't remember if it's right away or not, but as soon as I knew the date and location (and especially once I found out Reva's work location), I knew what was going to happen. That being said, I enjoy how a major event like that was incorporated into a book rather than completely ignoring that it even happened. I just wish it had come as more of a surprise to me in the end, as I predicted it almost right away based on setting.

Along with the predictability of the ending, I don't like how quickly it felt like the main character got "better". While I am glad that Moshfegh ended the book on a note of hope and purpose, I wish there was more of a look into what happened between the end of her year and the moments that end the book. It feels like it gives off the impression that doing something like this could actually help someone??? When in reality the main character wasted an entire year of her life and doesn't seem to fully grasp how monumentally useless it was.

A couple last criticisms include the fact that it's fairly unrealistic to have a psychiatrist like Tuttle, at least to that degree of incompetence and negligence, which added to the character's privilege in getting exactly what she wanted. Also, I didn't like how often Moshfegh described the main character's and Reva's appearances, especially their body/weight. It felt very weird to keep bringing up the fact that the main character was beautiful no matter what she did and how obsessed Reva was with achieving the societal standard of beauty yet not achieving it and describing exactly what about her looks and body didn't meet that standard.

These criticisms are the only reason I gave it 4 stars instead of 5. I really enjoyed Moshfegh's writing, and I am excited (albeit a little scared knowing the premises) to read some of her other works.

Sidenote: While I do not have a Tik Tok, I have been informed that there were many people on that platform praising this book as having "girl boss energy", as if the main character is a hero or someone to look up to? Which is just so beyond fucked up that this is something young girls aspire to do. What irritates me even more is that I didn't feel like it gave off the impression that this is something that anyone should ever do, but obviously that wasn't a universal feeling. PLEASE, please, please do not look up to the main character. Do not use her as inspiration to "girl boss" or whatever. This is an extremely bleak, depressing story with unlikeable, shitty characters; there is nothing in this book that should be replicated in real life.

Edit (1/12/2024): It's been 1.5 years since I read this book, and I literally still think about it all the time. My criticisms still stand, but this book means so much to me as an individual that I have to bump it up to 5 stars. It's not a perfect book, but what book is? I just have so many feelings about this story and hold it so close to me that I can't not rate it 5 stars. I love it, and it crosses my mind all the time, especially lately (I've been depressed lol).

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annarchy_'s review against another edition

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dark funny fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

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spooderman's review against another edition

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challenging dark funny reflective medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.75


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xmifeng_'s review against another edition

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dark emotional reflective fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0


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lovelymisanthrope's review against another edition

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dark emotional funny reflective sad fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

I picked up this book after hearing so many things about it on social media.
"My Year of Rest and Relaxation" follows a young woman who seems to have it all. She has a great apartment on the upper East Side of Manhattan, she recently graduated from Columbia, she comes from a wealthy family, she is beautiful and thin, and she has an easy job at an art gallery. However, she does not feel lucky, and after losing both her parents, she does not care to live her life any longer. She decides she needs a break; all she needs is to sleep for a year and then she can get her life back on track. So, she sets out on a drug-induced sleep to cure all of her problems.
I did not have super high expectations going into this book because I felt like the premise might be boring to read at times. However, even though I think the main character is unlikable most of the time because she is struggling so deeply with her depression, I really empathized with her and wanted to give her a hug. This book is highly pretentious, and it is definitely not for everyone, but it hit a chord with me, and I have not stopped thinking about it since I finished it.
The main character's attitude towards life and the narrative about how monotonous her days are really highlights someone's mindset who is struggling with depression. I think she provides an excellent example of someone who seems to have it all and people around her do not understand how she can be depressed. Depression is not "earned" by those with the hardest struggles.
She is a pretty horrible friend to Reva throughout the story, but Reva is not necessarily better towards her. Their friendship seems to be because they have been friends for so long and neither one wants to let go, but honestly neither does much for the other. I did really enjoy seeing Reva poised against the main character to highlight how two people with similar lives can turn out so very different.
This book ends with a mention of 9/11. I cannot think of many other fictitious titles that I have read that mention 9/11, let alone one set in New York. It was heartbreaking and interesting to read about a character witnessing the violence firsthand.
Overall, I really enjoyed this book, and I am curious to pick up more from Ottessa Moshfegh.

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taylorgc721's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional funny reflective sad fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? N/A
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0


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hclin's review against another edition

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dark reflective slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0


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amsswim's review against another edition

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dark emotional funny sad fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? No
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.75

This was the first book of her that I have read, and I think this author probably one you just like or don't. I enjoyed this read but could see where people have issues with it.

If you're into reading about completely unhinged women doing unhinged and borderline horrifying things, do read. If you're worried definitely leaf through the trigger warnings to get an idea at least. 

I think I'll read from this author again, would recommend to some (definitely not everyone)!

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