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bluestar_apologist's review against another edition
slow-paced
Unless you’re reading it for research purposes, stay away from it.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Sexism, Religious bigotry, Transphobia, Homophobia, and Toxic relationship
dtzypig's review
3.0
This book was ok. It has some really great insight and encouragement, but there were times where it felt a little preachy. I don't think it was Joshua Harris' intent, but there were points in the book where he came across as "holier than thou" and it seemed a little condemning. Good book to read if you're interested in ideas to grow and strengthen a relationship, but not a book I would want to model a relationship after.
marieeya's review
5.0
This book is not just for people in courtship. Just like the book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" I recommend this to all the singles out there. I bet it will enlighten you just as it has enlightened me or even more.
God's best is always worth the wait. Wait patiently for the Lord. Wait patiently for His will. And as you wait patiently, live your life for Him. Only God can give satisfaction to the deep longings of your heart.
God's best is always worth the wait. Wait patiently for the Lord. Wait patiently for His will. And as you wait patiently, live your life for Him. Only God can give satisfaction to the deep longings of your heart.
mrscherrygarcia's review
3.0
I read this book with my now-husband back when we first started dating. It definitely opened up doors for discussion for us, but we had to decide what we agreed with Joshua Harris on and what we disagreed with him on. And we disagreed every now and then. I recommend it for new couples for discussion purposes, if nothing else.
caitlin_89's review
4.0
I definitely read this as a single teenager and was like "yep, yep, I'm a godly homeschooler and agree with all this stuff," but it had no real relevance to my life.
I'm 25 and in a serious relationship now and my boyfriend keeps talking about how he read this book and it had good conversation questions in the back and he wishes he hadn't lent it to someone because he never got it back. So I got a copy for him, but decided to re-read it first.
I'm glad I did. As a woman in a relationship whose life goal is to honor Christ, it was a lot more applicable than the first time I read it.
"Courtship" is kind of a trigger word with negative connotations and feelings now, but the heart of this book is really just about glorifying god in your relationship, which is what my boyfriend and I already strive to do. There were some good reminders. I liked it.
I do disagree with a few things - his personal rules (which, granted, he specifically says he doesn't suggest for everyone) for physical contact are CRAZY. I can't imagine not giving my boyfriend real hugs and back rubs. Also there's a bit in there about virginity which is a pet peeve of mine, as Christian circles usually talk about a woman's virginity as if it belongs to a man, which I strongly disagree with.
All in all, though, It was an encouraging look at building a relationship based on common faith and devotion, and like the BF said, the questions for discussion in the back are great!
I'm 25 and in a serious relationship now and my boyfriend keeps talking about how he read this book and it had good conversation questions in the back and he wishes he hadn't lent it to someone because he never got it back. So I got a copy for him, but decided to re-read it first.
I'm glad I did. As a woman in a relationship whose life goal is to honor Christ, it was a lot more applicable than the first time I read it.
"Courtship" is kind of a trigger word with negative connotations and feelings now, but the heart of this book is really just about glorifying god in your relationship, which is what my boyfriend and I already strive to do. There were some good reminders. I liked it.
I do disagree with a few things - his personal rules (which, granted, he specifically says he doesn't suggest for everyone) for physical contact are CRAZY. I can't imagine not giving my boyfriend real hugs and back rubs. Also there's a bit in there about virginity which is a pet peeve of mine, as Christian circles usually talk about a woman's virginity as if it belongs to a man, which I strongly disagree with.
All in all, though, It was an encouraging look at building a relationship based on common faith and devotion, and like the BF said, the questions for discussion in the back are great!
misstessamaye's review
1.0
The author has since apologized for this book and its prequel due to the damaging teaching that has affected an entire generation. So there's that.
elianachow's review
5.0
While I don't think I'm anywhere close to being ready for a relationship, this book was really helpful in finding encouragement to wait for that moment, filled with humble suggestions on how to act in a Godly manner when it comes. Speaking now from the standpoint of a married man who went dated, courted, proposed, and said his vows, Harris provides his personal perspective on what worked and what didn't, the highs and lows, the frustrations and the joys, the temptations and the triumphs, and many other things that he did not yet know in his first book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, which he wrote when he was single and learning from past mistakes. On a practical level, this book clears up some of the more debated misinterpretations or ambiguous content from its prequel. I appreciated Harris' continuous reminder that it's not really about what you call the relationship, but about how you best live it out to serve each other and to glorify God.
theliterarylemen's review
3.0
This is a radical look on Christian dating, and isn't for everyone. I loved the basic ideas, such as including your community of friends and mentors in the process to hold you accountable and put things in perspective, but most of it isn't for me.
texaswolfman's review
5.0
Great and thought provoking book on the heart of dating and courtship. Highly recommended.
daniellew87's review against another edition
3.0
I thought the basic premise for Harris' novel was sound, but that was at the basic level. Overall, Harris bases his beliefs on the wrong ideas, and decides to skip over major parts of the Bible.