hopeful inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.5

I really liked this book!!!
challenging emotional hopeful slow-paced
emotional funny hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

DNFing at 15%

The therapist is screaming problematic, everyone is wildly unlikable and I need the biggest trigger warnings for her food issues because it seems like she proud of how bad they are?

I just don’t want to hear any more of what this person has to say.

A great book for those that loved “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone”, this is a first-person narrative from a group therapy patient. I listened to both and while “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone” is definitely the better of the two, I really enjoyed this one. Both are written by exceptionally smart, talented women. And it is impossible to read one and not think of the other.
I liked this book because there is a relatable struggles throughout that end up going to extremes. In situations where I’d want to scream, the author does. Where I’d want a want comfort food, the author binges. Where I’d be uncomfortable, she becomes destructive. She is the dramatic friend in the group and it makes for a great story.
Avoid this one if you need to steer clear of eating disorder triggers. Also, please do not mistake her therapy experience for common therapy practices. I think there is a temptation to “self-therapize” through books like this. And while they are a good read and can help normalize the fact it is okay not to be okay (and it is okay not to be okay!!!!), the work isn’t here. If anything this should break down the barrier to seeking therapy for yourself if and when you are curious about it. But please know the practices in this book are unusual and while they work for the author at times, your experience will be different and that’s probably a good thing for you. (Disclaimer courtesy of a dusty degree in counseling.)

4 stars alone for the theme that secrets are toxic

This was really excellent. It was so easy to read and become engrossed in every time I picked it up. The characters were so deep and I loved them all even the ‘bad ones’. I didn’t even know it was a memoir until I finished the book, although I suspected it while reading it a lot. I really enjoyed this book.

This book really reeled me in with the author’s blunt writing style, humor, borderline insanity and wild experiences with her group therapy. I had some laugh out loud moments with her fumbling through life and interactions with her extremely quirky therapist. Interesting vibes there.

I think after about 2/3 of the way through I was just kind of ready for it to be over… it felt sad to me that she had all these people in group who genuinely cared for her for years but solely perseverated on finding a husband and being “fixed” by her therapist instead of finding joy in her life until the end. But I recognize that showed she was making progress. It was messy and a little exhausting/drawn out but I appreciated her depiction of her journey and found her experiences informative! I really enjoyed a lot of it, truly. Toward the end I was just like “ok, I’m ready to be done with this now.”

Therapy is good!!!!!!!