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junypaganmd's review against another edition
2.0
Una lectura bastante interesante sobre el BDSM y la comunidad que surgió en torno a esta práctica.
Todavía hay muchos malentendidos y prejuicios en torno a esta práctica y los individuos que la practican (¡y con razón!), incluso entre los psicoterapeutas y hasta las instituciones, y este libro puede ayudar a despejar bastantes dudas. El libro toca todo, desde lo que es el BDSM, algunas de sus prácticas, las formas seguras de practicarlo (en relaciones sanas, el consentimiento, las palabras clave y seguras, el entorno, los cuidados posteriores...) hasta las historias de algunas personas que lo practican (desde heterosexuales hasta homosexuales), y mucho más.
No tiene mucha ciencia, si es que la tiene; dice algunas cosas bastante dudosas, por ejemplo que nuestra aversión a los excrementos se debe a la socialización, además de jugar con algunos conceptos pseudocientíficos de Carl Jung, Freud y el psicoanálisis, como los niveles del ego, la inconsciencia personal y la colectiva, entre otras cosas. Las dos estrellas son por esto y porque no me ha gustado cómo está estructurado y escrito el libro en general. No es mi estilo. Pero sigue siendo una lectura recomendable para los interesados en el BDSM.
Así que si tienes una pareja y ambos desean practicar el BDSM, léelo.
Todavía hay muchos malentendidos y prejuicios en torno a esta práctica y los individuos que la practican (¡y con razón!), incluso entre los psicoterapeutas y hasta las instituciones, y este libro puede ayudar a despejar bastantes dudas. El libro toca todo, desde lo que es el BDSM, algunas de sus prácticas, las formas seguras de practicarlo (en relaciones sanas, el consentimiento, las palabras clave y seguras, el entorno, los cuidados posteriores...) hasta las historias de algunas personas que lo practican (desde heterosexuales hasta homosexuales), y mucho más.
No tiene mucha ciencia, si es que la tiene; dice algunas cosas bastante dudosas, por ejemplo que nuestra aversión a los excrementos se debe a la socialización, además de jugar con algunos conceptos pseudocientíficos de Carl Jung, Freud y el psicoanálisis, como los niveles del ego, la inconsciencia personal y la colectiva, entre otras cosas. Las dos estrellas son por esto y porque no me ha gustado cómo está estructurado y escrito el libro en general. No es mi estilo. Pero sigue siendo una lectura recomendable para los interesados en el BDSM.
Así que si tienes una pareja y ambos desean practicar el BDSM, léelo.
ida_the_vision's review
3.0
I picked up this book because I wanted to learn more about why humans are so different from one another when it comes to sexual preferences. I found some chapters more interesting than others, but I did get answer to most of the things I was curious about.
The author starts off by mentioning how there has been very little scientific research into BDSM, and thus much of the book is anecdotal. Which is fine, though the example stories sometimes get a bit lengthy. And the author does reference research where it is available, which I appreciate.
Most of all I appreciate the inclusive tone and language of the book. It just feels like a safe space to question and learn. While you may not understand why someone else would enjoy a certain thing, that does not give you the right to judge or shame that person. As long as everyone is safe and happy, it's all good.
The kindle version was a bit glitchy in the formatting, though. Some paragraphs were repeated, I assume they were meant to stand out as block quotes but it glitched?
Three (and a half?) stars.
The author starts off by mentioning how there has been very little scientific research into BDSM, and thus much of the book is anecdotal. Which is fine, though the example stories sometimes get a bit lengthy. And the author does reference research where it is available, which I appreciate.
Most of all I appreciate the inclusive tone and language of the book. It just feels like a safe space to question and learn. While you may not understand why someone else would enjoy a certain thing, that does not give you the right to judge or shame that person. As long as everyone is safe and happy, it's all good.
The kindle version was a bit glitchy in the formatting, though. Some paragraphs were repeated, I assume they were meant to stand out as block quotes but it glitched?
Three (and a half?) stars.
jugglingpup's review
5.0
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I picked up this book based on the title alone and didn’t even know what it was about until I had started reading it. I was not let down, for the most part. The book started with the idea that BDSM was not inherently bad or good. This was a first for that idea in all that I have read on the subject. The book allowed for the community to define the community and that was also something new that I greatly appreciated (this is something that I have been pushing for in research).
The book was not hard to follow and at times overly simplistic. This was not a bad thing, but it made this book very much an introductory book to BDSM. It wasn’t an in-depth look like I was hoping for. Instead of taking a great deal of time talking about the communities or about the practices the authors did stories about their patients or even included erotica at one point. Though this made the identities more human, it was not needed for an intellectual review of the current research on the subject or on what is actually happening in the community. This book was more a case study and the author’s tooting their own horns than a hard core science book. However when one is focusing on psychoanalytic psychology and Jungian psychology, no wonder there was a lack of a science feel to the book. These are the types of psychology that other psychologies make fun of.
I was hoping from more for the authors since they have many years of experience between them when it comes to the BDSM community. If they instead focused on stories or on the research they would have a stronger book. Though this book was a wonderful read and one I would push on many people to explain why I am so fascinated with sexuality. I would have enjoyed this in a basic health class in high school or even a basic sexuality class in college. It wasn’t a hardcore book, but it was one that was every bit worth reading.
The authors were very knowledgeable and were able to define the terms and ideas in very simple terms. This made it so even parts of the community I wasn’t knowledgeable about I was able to follow. I really look forward to more that these authors put out and I suggest that if you have any interest in sexuality or want to learn some basics in sexualities that aren’t often discussed then this is a great book for you. The authors defined the word “squick” which I was so amused about and I loved it. It seemed like a word that wouldn’t need to be defined, but instead it was defined as it is defined in the community. There was great respect from the authors to the community. It was wonderful and very necessary.
I picked up this book based on the title alone and didn’t even know what it was about until I had started reading it. I was not let down, for the most part. The book started with the idea that BDSM was not inherently bad or good. This was a first for that idea in all that I have read on the subject. The book allowed for the community to define the community and that was also something new that I greatly appreciated (this is something that I have been pushing for in research).
The book was not hard to follow and at times overly simplistic. This was not a bad thing, but it made this book very much an introductory book to BDSM. It wasn’t an in-depth look like I was hoping for. Instead of taking a great deal of time talking about the communities or about the practices the authors did stories about their patients or even included erotica at one point. Though this made the identities more human, it was not needed for an intellectual review of the current research on the subject or on what is actually happening in the community. This book was more a case study and the author’s tooting their own horns than a hard core science book. However when one is focusing on psychoanalytic psychology and Jungian psychology, no wonder there was a lack of a science feel to the book. These are the types of psychology that other psychologies make fun of.
I was hoping from more for the authors since they have many years of experience between them when it comes to the BDSM community. If they instead focused on stories or on the research they would have a stronger book. Though this book was a wonderful read and one I would push on many people to explain why I am so fascinated with sexuality. I would have enjoyed this in a basic health class in high school or even a basic sexuality class in college. It wasn’t a hardcore book, but it was one that was every bit worth reading.
The authors were very knowledgeable and were able to define the terms and ideas in very simple terms. This made it so even parts of the community I wasn’t knowledgeable about I was able to follow. I really look forward to more that these authors put out and I suggest that if you have any interest in sexuality or want to learn some basics in sexualities that aren’t often discussed then this is a great book for you. The authors defined the word “squick” which I was so amused about and I loved it. It seemed like a word that wouldn’t need to be defined, but instead it was defined as it is defined in the community. There was great respect from the authors to the community. It was wonderful and very necessary.
miklosha's review
4.0
A very readable introduction to BDSM, for both clinicians and kink clients. While the authors do a good job in appealing to both types of readers, clinicians would benefit from using this book as a foundation for additional research. Sexual Outsiders does a wonderful job introducing such concepts and should be the beginning, not the end.
yutsi's review
4.0
Neat introduction to the psychology of BDSM. Some overly long block quotes (including one that is very "squick") and the last ~20% felt like filler.
norma_cenva's review
5.0
This book is very useful for Psychotherapists and Councillors. It has a lot of case studies and general introductory information for Mental Health professionals.