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shirleytupperfreeman's review against another edition
Wow - I didn't read this when it first came out last year probably because I wasn't ready to read about grief related to losing one's parent but I'm sure glad I've read it now. Schulz offers a fresh take on loss (keys, wallet, parked car, humans we love), finding (missing items, missing words, humans to love and be loved by) and the AND where most of life takes place. We grieve and we find joy - sometimes in the same moment. Some of the sentences in these essays are simply stunning. Schulz is gifted at both thinking and writing. Highly recommend.
therealkathryn's review against another edition
5.0
Beautifully written, thoughtful memoir that will have you feeling a range of emotions
chaosmavin's review against another edition
4.0
This is one of those books that popped up into my library queque with me not remembering who made the recommendation that I put the book on hold. I don't generally read memoirs but this one was particularly poignant as the lost part of the title was a lot about how the author recently lost her Father. I really appreciated her perspective on loss. The found part of the book is about her relationship with her partner. It was very sweet and well I cannot say it resonated with me it certainly gave me a little hope that people can meet later in life and still find healthy loving partnership.
Here is a particularly good quote:
“It is this harsh corrective to our sense of being central, competent, and powerful that makes even trivial losses so difficult to accept. To lose something is a profoundly humbling act. It forces us to confront the limits of our mind: the fact that we left our wallet at the restaurant; the fact that we can’t remember where we left our wallet at all. It forces us to confront the limits of our will: the fact that we are powerless to protect the things we love from time and change and chance. Above all, it forces us to confront the limits of existence: the fact that, sooner or later, it is in the nature of almost everything to vanish or perish. Over and over, loss calls on us to reckon with this universal impermanence—with the baffling, maddening, heartbreaking fact that something that was just here can be, all of a sudden, just gone.”
― Kathryn Schulz, Lost & Found: A Memoir
Here is a particularly good quote:
“It is this harsh corrective to our sense of being central, competent, and powerful that makes even trivial losses so difficult to accept. To lose something is a profoundly humbling act. It forces us to confront the limits of our mind: the fact that we left our wallet at the restaurant; the fact that we can’t remember where we left our wallet at all. It forces us to confront the limits of our will: the fact that we are powerless to protect the things we love from time and change and chance. Above all, it forces us to confront the limits of existence: the fact that, sooner or later, it is in the nature of almost everything to vanish or perish. Over and over, loss calls on us to reckon with this universal impermanence—with the baffling, maddening, heartbreaking fact that something that was just here can be, all of a sudden, just gone.”
― Kathryn Schulz, Lost & Found: A Memoir
burdenedbybooks's review against another edition
the whole point of the book is dissecting grief, but every time i started listening, it just put me in a horrible mental space. writing is really stunning, though! not a slight against the author at all, just not the emotions I want to continue putting myself through.
erboe501's review against another edition
5.0
I chose this book to read as part of my grief practice approaching the second anniversary of my father's death. Schulz's situation was similar to mine: she finds the love of her life shortly before her beloved lawyer father dies; my lawyer father dies and I meet my boyfriend 2 months later. Schulz's writing is so beautiful I would have been bowled over reading this even without such a personal connection. Her turns of phrase and metaphors, the way she weaves in history and etymology. But I will return to this book through the years because of how she articulated the acute, intimate feelings of loss. The love section, while beautiful, felt more specific to her relationship. The grief section was similarly specific to her father, but felt so universal while also in many ways exactly matching my own feelings. I underlined and used passages as prompts to explore my own mourning. I want to recommend this to my boyfriend and to anyone else who hasn't lost a parent and wants a little insight into that journey. For those who have experienced such loss, this will be a balm and comfort.
I cried many times, and I felt seen.
I cried many times, and I felt seen.
knittingtipsy's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
relaxing
slow-paced
5.0
After listening to this, I immediately ordered a physical copy. This feels like a book I should read every 5 years. What a gorgeous, moving meditation on grief, love, human connection, and how strange and wonderful life is. Hands down one of the best books I’ve ever read.
mldryan's review against another edition
4.0
I liked this memoir a lot, even if it was slow reading for me at times. It’s quite cerebral.
lilydoyle6's review against another edition
emotional
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
5.0
i haven't read a memoir quite like this one. i found the way she talked about grief, love, emotions, moving on, etc. to be so wonderful and comforting. it made me stop and reflect on where i've been at grief wise since my grandma suddenly & traumatically passed in 2022. the story gave me immense hope; it struck me as so insightful; and i hope everyone has a chance to read this. i also enjoyed the structure of the book and how it mirrored the title. it had such a lit fic quality to the writing.
there's not much i can really say to describe the lasting feeling i have with this one.
there's not much i can really say to describe the lasting feeling i have with this one.