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aunt13soc1al's review
4.0
Karin hits this subject matter right on the head. It's not our fault we're still single. We're not too picky, too crazy, too needy, or too independent. Yes some people have found their mate, but it doesn't happen that easily for everyone. And we don't need to change who we are just to land us a husband. I've found in many of my relationships, that I've changed who I am sometimes in small ways, sometimes in bigger ways, but in the end I wasn't happy in a relationship that I couldn't be myself in. Karin picks apart a variety of comments a single woman will hear and usually dread hearing and analyzes it from her point, another woman in that situation and even gets a man's point of view on the topic as well. It's a clearly thought out book, with a lot of great advice on how we may not have found the one yet, but that's not a reason to settle for whoever comes along next.
During our meeting at the BEA, Karin and I discussed how this book came into being. Karin, like many women in their 30s and 40s, constantly gets questioned by friends and family why she hasn't found herself a man and settled down yet. Now I've met her, and Karin is not an ugly hag who's past her prime in any sense. She's beautiful, confident, and we truly had a blast. I can't imagine it would be any different when she meets a man. But while she did come close to getting married once, she realized that it wasn't right for her and in a way I'm glad she did. I don't think this book would have come into being had she settled down with someone who wasn't quite right for her.
I recall one part of our conversation about how many women feel their biological clock ticking and that's what forces them to settle for the next guy who comes along who while not her ideal man, would make a good baby daddy so that she doesn't have to grow old without a child and a family. One of Karin's friends would tell her, 'Oh my biological clock? I can't hear it. It must be digital.' Perfect! I think I threw her for a loop though when I commented that while I off and on have had the desire to have a child, rare as it is, that if it came to the point that I was ready for children, I am not concerned with where they come from. I'd be perfectly happy to adopt a child as there are plenty in this world that need a loving home. So while my clock is ticking, to steal her friend's phrase: it must be digital.
Karin's insight into the world of why people ask us these at times rude and embarrassing questions is truly worth a read. She's light-hearted and funny, yet full of worthwhile information.
I encourage you if you are a single woman who gets this barrage of questioning or even one of those who does the questioning to pick up this book and get a little insight into your life and realize that you don't need to change who you are to find the man of your dreams. It Just Hasn't Happened Yet!
And keep an eye out for her new website AuthenticallyMe.com which will have not only inspiring words from Karin but from other seeking to maintain her identity in a world that encourages sacrificing who you are to find the one you love.
During our meeting at the BEA, Karin and I discussed how this book came into being. Karin, like many women in their 30s and 40s, constantly gets questioned by friends and family why she hasn't found herself a man and settled down yet. Now I've met her, and Karin is not an ugly hag who's past her prime in any sense. She's beautiful, confident, and we truly had a blast. I can't imagine it would be any different when she meets a man. But while she did come close to getting married once, she realized that it wasn't right for her and in a way I'm glad she did. I don't think this book would have come into being had she settled down with someone who wasn't quite right for her.
I recall one part of our conversation about how many women feel their biological clock ticking and that's what forces them to settle for the next guy who comes along who while not her ideal man, would make a good baby daddy so that she doesn't have to grow old without a child and a family. One of Karin's friends would tell her, 'Oh my biological clock? I can't hear it. It must be digital.' Perfect! I think I threw her for a loop though when I commented that while I off and on have had the desire to have a child, rare as it is, that if it came to the point that I was ready for children, I am not concerned with where they come from. I'd be perfectly happy to adopt a child as there are plenty in this world that need a loving home. So while my clock is ticking, to steal her friend's phrase: it must be digital.
Karin's insight into the world of why people ask us these at times rude and embarrassing questions is truly worth a read. She's light-hearted and funny, yet full of worthwhile information.
I encourage you if you are a single woman who gets this barrage of questioning or even one of those who does the questioning to pick up this book and get a little insight into your life and realize that you don't need to change who you are to find the man of your dreams. It Just Hasn't Happened Yet!
And keep an eye out for her new website AuthenticallyMe.com which will have not only inspiring words from Karin but from other seeking to maintain her identity in a world that encourages sacrificing who you are to find the one you love.
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