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informative slow-paced

3.0

Informative but ultimately pretty boring. I found the book to be really repetitive, and yet I still had several unanswered questions. I think, to its credit, part of what made it boring to me was that I was less interested by the segments on attachment styles that were not my own. I learned a lot, but I most likely wouldn't read it again.

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hopeful informative reflective

4.0

This was a really helpful and approachable introduction to the topic of attachment styles. I understand my own attachment style better, and I can better understand why certain past relationships happened the way that they did. 

The book is rather heteronormative, though. Also, I feel like, by focusing on attachment styles as a sole cause of friction in relationships, they overlook when conflicts are a result of outright abuse, rather than incompatibility or different intimacy needs. The relationship with Craig in Chapter 10 strikes me as very verbally abusive, for example. 

I also wish that the authors had gone into more detail about the anxious-avoidant attachment style. Other than saying it was really rare, they didn't seem to give many (or any) examples of it. 

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