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When Your Daughter Has Bpd: Essential Skills to Help Families Manage Borderline Personality Disorder
Daniel S. Lobel
3.91 AVERAGE
7 reviews for:
When Your Daughter Has Bpd: Essential Skills to Help Families Manage Borderline Personality Disorder
Daniel S. Lobel
3.91 AVERAGE
reflective
slow-paced
this book was very validating in helping me recognize the patterns of a person in my life who has borderline personality disorder. this is definitely geared more towards parents, but there were also references to the experiences of siblings, family members, and other external interactions with someone who has bpd.
Content Warnings
Minor: Addiction, Bullying, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Self harm, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Gaslighting, Alcohol
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emotional
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slow-paced
informative
medium-paced
I downloaded this book simply because I'm a mental health professional and I regularly come into contact with individuals with BPD, and it's a tricky client group to best manage their needs. Despite this book being aimed at daughters with BPD, I think this really is an invaluable resource for family and friends of those with BPD, as well as professionals like myself. Packed full of anecdotes, it allows you to relate the advice to many different situations. The fact it is based on the theory behind CBT and DBT thrills me greatly, as I love nothing more than a bit of evidence-based practice! I can imagine for family members this book will be a great aid to reassuring parents that they are doing okay - they're not doing anything wrong, but the way in which they provide boundaries perhaps needs to be different to their other children, and using the teachings of CBT and DBT will greatly help. The only thing that perplexes me here is why the book is aimed solely at 'daughters' when it will apply exactly the same to any child. On the whole though, an invaluable resource for many.
(Thanks NetGalley for this copy).
(Thanks NetGalley for this copy).
informative
reflective
medium-paced
Ignore the defensively angry low ratings and reviews from people with BPD. Considering BPD almost always involves unintentional emotional abuse and avoidance of taking responsibility, it's pretty easy to see why bpds prefer self-validating memoirs about how painful life feels, instead of books about helping their loved ones deal with them. Generally, people with BPD can't handle hearing about their flaws and unintentional abuse.
This book was well-written with helpful, clear advice for parents of a child with BPD. Although a bit repetitive, it was insightful and focused on boundaries, limits, selective supportive parenting, how to encourage a child with BPD to seek professional help. I especially appreciated the concept of the one-sided contract. I read this book not as a parent but as someone who has dated several adult men with BPD, and the one-sided contract was something I experienced but had not read about before: a favor is seen as a permanent entitlement by the person with BPD.
The author was understanding and caring about the pain felt by people with BPD. I don't know why people with BPD are so defensive about this book. BPD has been suggested as a diagnosis for me personally, and I did not feel defensive reading this book. It's just a fact that a person with BPD can cause a lot of issues in their family structure and with their partner.
This book was well-written with helpful, clear advice for parents of a child with BPD. Although a bit repetitive, it was insightful and focused on boundaries, limits, selective supportive parenting, how to encourage a child with BPD to seek professional help. I especially appreciated the concept of the one-sided contract. I read this book not as a parent but as someone who has dated several adult men with BPD, and the one-sided contract was something I experienced but had not read about before: a favor is seen as a permanent entitlement by the person with BPD.
The author was understanding and caring about the pain felt by people with BPD. I don't know why people with BPD are so defensive about this book. BPD has been suggested as a diagnosis for me personally, and I did not feel defensive reading this book. It's just a fact that a person with BPD can cause a lot of issues in their family structure and with their partner.
hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced