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heathermariee33's review against another edition
3.0
Audiobook - DNF
I listened to about 30% before stopping. The audiobook was too mundane and dreary and the book was hard to follow. I know it is a highly recommended book, so I will try to read a physical copy of it at a later date.
I listened to about 30% before stopping. The audiobook was too mundane and dreary and the book was hard to follow. I know it is a highly recommended book, so I will try to read a physical copy of it at a later date.
fbroom's review against another edition
4.0
While it has so much value and insight! be aware that it is very long. After 10 minutes of reading I usually put it off and start reading some other thing. The concepts are great and the stories help a lot in clarifying what is the author really wants to say but it's long! it took me over two months to finish.
My personal notes: (spoilers?)
[PART TWO: PRIVATE VICTORY]
THE HABITS OF INDEPENDENCE
HABIT ONE - BE PROACTIVE (PERSONAL VISION)
* Habit 1 says, "You’re the creator. You are in charge." It empowers you to say, "That’s an unhealthy program I’ve been given from my childhood, from my social mirror. I don’t like that ineffective script. I can change""
* Take initiative. Don’t wait for things to happen. Make them happen. (for example show interest and study the industry, even the specific problems the organizations they are interested in are facing)
* Only look at your circle of influence, don’t bother with thing that you can’t change in your life, don’t let others drag you into what you not want to be
HABIT TWO - BEGIN WITH END OF MIND (PERSONAL LEADERSHIP)
* Habit two is a mental creation based on imagination—the ability to envision, to see the potential, to create with our minds what we cannot at present see with our eyes. Define the goals and outcomes before you create the process.
* "Begin with the end in mind" what do you to leave here on earth when you die?
* We are most often concerned with rules, efficiency and time management and we forget leadership: direction and purpose. Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.”
* You have to have a clear mission statement and based on it you can set your short and long term goals. A mission statement is something you work on for years, changing it with time until you feel comfortable with it
HABIT THREE - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST (PERSONAL MANAGEMENT)
* Habit 3 is the physical creation. It’s the fulfillment of habit 1 and 2.
* There are four quadrants in time management (1) urgent Important (2) not urgent & important (3) urgent and not important (4) not urgent and not important. You need to focus on Quadrant 2. If something is important, it contributes to your mission, your values and your high priority goals. If we don’t practice Habit 2, if we don’t have a clear idea of what is important, of the results we desire in our lives, we are easily diverted into responding to the urgent only
[PART THREE: PUBLIC VICTORY]
[THE HABITS OF INTERDEPENDENCE]
HABIT 4 THINK WIN/ WIN (INTERPERSONAL LEADERSHIP)
* Many people think of human interactions in the following ways: [Win/Lose: “if I win you lose”, Lose/Win: “step on me, I’m a loser, I don’t have expectations or demands”, Lose/Lose: “Revenge”] and they forget that there is also “Win/Win where both parties can benefit together” or even “Win/Win or No Deal: “if no deal can be made, then we agree to disagree agreeably” and it’s fine.
* Win/Win is not a personality technique. It’s a total paradigm of human interaction. It comes from a character of integrity and maturity. It grows out of high-trust relationships. And it is achieved through the process we are now prepared to more fully examine in Habits 5.
HABIT 5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD (EMPATHIC COMMUNICATION)
* We typically seek first to be understood. "A father once told me, “I can’t understand my kid. He just won’t listen to me at all.” “Let me restate what you just said,” I replied. “You don’t understand your son because he won’t listen to you?” “I thought that to understand another person, you needed to listen to him,” I suggested"
* When I say empathic listening, I mean listening with intent to understand. I mean seeking first to understand, to really understand. It’s an entirely different paradigm.Empathic (from empathy) listening gets inside another person’s frame of reference
* Seeking first to understand, diagnosing before you prescribe, is hard. It’s so much easier in the short run to hand someone a pair of glasses that have fit you so well these many years. You need to set aside his own autobiography
HABIT 6 SYNERGIZE
* "This habit deals with teamwork and opening yourself emotionally to work with other people. Optimistic, emotionally-charged individuals who are living out the previous habits can work together in amazing ways and see new paths none of them would have found alone."
[PART THREE: RENEWAL]
HABIT 7 Sharpen The Saw
* It’s preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have—you. It’s renewing the four dimensions of your nature—physical, spiritual, mental, and social/emotional.
My personal notes: (spoilers?)
[PART TWO: PRIVATE VICTORY]
THE HABITS OF INDEPENDENCE
HABIT ONE - BE PROACTIVE (PERSONAL VISION)
* Habit 1 says, "You’re the creator. You are in charge." It empowers you to say, "That’s an unhealthy program I’ve been given from my childhood, from my social mirror. I don’t like that ineffective script. I can change""
* Take initiative. Don’t wait for things to happen. Make them happen. (for example show interest and study the industry, even the specific problems the organizations they are interested in are facing)
* Only look at your circle of influence, don’t bother with thing that you can’t change in your life, don’t let others drag you into what you not want to be
HABIT TWO - BEGIN WITH END OF MIND (PERSONAL LEADERSHIP)
* Habit two is a mental creation based on imagination—the ability to envision, to see the potential, to create with our minds what we cannot at present see with our eyes. Define the goals and outcomes before you create the process.
* "Begin with the end in mind" what do you to leave here on earth when you die?
* We are most often concerned with rules, efficiency and time management and we forget leadership: direction and purpose. Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.”
* You have to have a clear mission statement and based on it you can set your short and long term goals. A mission statement is something you work on for years, changing it with time until you feel comfortable with it
HABIT THREE - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST (PERSONAL MANAGEMENT)
* Habit 3 is the physical creation. It’s the fulfillment of habit 1 and 2.
* There are four quadrants in time management (1) urgent Important (2) not urgent & important (3) urgent and not important (4) not urgent and not important. You need to focus on Quadrant 2. If something is important, it contributes to your mission, your values and your high priority goals. If we don’t practice Habit 2, if we don’t have a clear idea of what is important, of the results we desire in our lives, we are easily diverted into responding to the urgent only
[PART THREE: PUBLIC VICTORY]
[THE HABITS OF INTERDEPENDENCE]
HABIT 4 THINK WIN/ WIN (INTERPERSONAL LEADERSHIP)
* Many people think of human interactions in the following ways: [Win/Lose: “if I win you lose”, Lose/Win: “step on me, I’m a loser, I don’t have expectations or demands”, Lose/Lose: “Revenge”] and they forget that there is also “Win/Win where both parties can benefit together” or even “Win/Win or No Deal: “if no deal can be made, then we agree to disagree agreeably” and it’s fine.
* Win/Win is not a personality technique. It’s a total paradigm of human interaction. It comes from a character of integrity and maturity. It grows out of high-trust relationships. And it is achieved through the process we are now prepared to more fully examine in Habits 5.
HABIT 5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD (EMPATHIC COMMUNICATION)
* We typically seek first to be understood. "A father once told me, “I can’t understand my kid. He just won’t listen to me at all.” “Let me restate what you just said,” I replied. “You don’t understand your son because he won’t listen to you?” “I thought that to understand another person, you needed to listen to him,” I suggested"
* When I say empathic listening, I mean listening with intent to understand. I mean seeking first to understand, to really understand. It’s an entirely different paradigm.Empathic (from empathy) listening gets inside another person’s frame of reference
* Seeking first to understand, diagnosing before you prescribe, is hard. It’s so much easier in the short run to hand someone a pair of glasses that have fit you so well these many years. You need to set aside his own autobiography
HABIT 6 SYNERGIZE
* "This habit deals with teamwork and opening yourself emotionally to work with other people. Optimistic, emotionally-charged individuals who are living out the previous habits can work together in amazing ways and see new paths none of them would have found alone."
[PART THREE: RENEWAL]
HABIT 7 Sharpen The Saw
* It’s preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have—you. It’s renewing the four dimensions of your nature—physical, spiritual, mental, and social/emotional.
vlnntnn's review against another edition
adventurous
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
midwifereading's review against another edition
DNF pile. If you have ADHD, this book will just feel like a burden. Great advice, overall, and I am sure it's widely helpful. Just not for me at this point in my life.
aj5629's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
roglows's review against another edition
5.0
One of the best books I have ever, ever read. One of the few I wanted to re-read the moment I completed it.
I wish this was recommend reading for high schoolers. It's such a great way to learn not just about oneself, but ones relationships with others. How we react and interact. I can't possibly say enough about it...just give it a go.
I wish this was recommend reading for high schoolers. It's such a great way to learn not just about oneself, but ones relationships with others. How we react and interact. I can't possibly say enough about it...just give it a go.