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4.12 AVERAGE
4.12 AVERAGE
inspiring
reflective
Had to read this for a professional development workshop - safe to say I’m not a big Brené fan.
I had some good takeaways from this book and that is why I rated it as high as I did. I found it helpful, easy to read, and thought that it had some nuggets that will help me through my career.
There’s not a lot new here but it all still resonates strongly with me. I appreciate The authors works or talks that are focused on a particular population or have a particular purpose in mind. This one is focused on organizational and professional development has some fantastic interpersonal opportunities and strategies and is something I’d love to see widely understood and applied.
Lots of good points. Repetitive with daring greatly, I read both this year, you can probably get by with just one.
The best brene brown book to date. I feel like this one will need frequent reads and practice to soak up all the wisdom and excellent that is daring leadership.
challenging
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
“Caring and Connection” should be minimum threshold to be leaders. If you currently can’t do this with someone, you either neither to try (teach yourself) or make a personnel change.
If we shield ourselves from all feedback, we stop growing. If we engage in all feedback, we get hurt too much (or you might disconnect to stop feeling hurt).
--so who do you listen to for feedback? Make a small list of people whose opinions matter to you (it should be small). People who love you, not “yes” people,
--there might be places that do not value vulnerability...and they might fall prey to ethical dilemmas.
We need to trust to feel vulnerable, and we need to be vulnerable to feel trust (chicken or the egg)
--trust the people who “fill up your marble jar” with building up, compliments, positive things, and you can trust to be vulnerable around them because they’ve earned it. (AND they are little things, not “big moments”) Or Sliding Door moments. I always give MAJOR bonus points to shows who do homages to this classic movie, so why not a book.
Rumbling with Vulnerability does not mean disclosing everything that’s on your mind. Vulnerability should not be used as a tool to seek sympathy.
Don’t do binary thinking (creatives vs business, accounting vs marketing etc.). Not leveraging the fullness of people. Everyone should be optimistic and realistic. “Gritty Faith and Gritty Facts” (allow yourself to dream, but always reality check those dreams).
Sometimes feeling tired is really feeling “lonely” and using the word “disconnected” is sterile. Go for lonely.
If you make fun of conversations like this “kumbaya” -- are you diminishing it so you don’t have to make the effort?
Don’t formulate your response while they are talking (I had this mentioned at a communications class that I took as well, so I guess I should really listen to that!). Keep a lot of “space” in the conversation.
>>Feelings are okay, behavior is not okay. “It’s okay to be angry. Yelling is not okay.”
Take time outs to allow thinking and breaks. (ten minute breaks, meet again in an hour) It cuts down on meetings after the meetings.
There's a myth that’s been around for a while that if we sever the heart, we’ll be more productive, efficient, and easier to manage. (this builds cultures that require and award armor)
Wherever perfection is driving us, shame is riding shotgun.
False binaries (victim vs viking). Work on integration of the two.
Being a knower and always being right (heavy armor, defensiveness, driver of bullshit). Being a learner and getting it right.
If everyone recognizes their value, instead of a 10-person race where you try to run the whole race, it becomes a 10-person relay where people know where they fit in.
Empathy vs sympathy. Empathy is feeling with someone, sympathy is feeling for someone. (you want the E)
If we shield ourselves from all feedback, we stop growing. If we engage in all feedback, we get hurt too much (or you might disconnect to stop feeling hurt).
--so who do you listen to for feedback? Make a small list of people whose opinions matter to you (it should be small). People who love you, not “yes” people,
--there might be places that do not value vulnerability...and they might fall prey to ethical dilemmas.
We need to trust to feel vulnerable, and we need to be vulnerable to feel trust (chicken or the egg)
--trust the people who “fill up your marble jar” with building up, compliments, positive things, and you can trust to be vulnerable around them because they’ve earned it. (AND they are little things, not “big moments”) Or Sliding Door moments. I always give MAJOR bonus points to shows who do homages to this classic movie, so why not a book.
Rumbling with Vulnerability does not mean disclosing everything that’s on your mind. Vulnerability should not be used as a tool to seek sympathy.
Don’t do binary thinking (creatives vs business, accounting vs marketing etc.). Not leveraging the fullness of people. Everyone should be optimistic and realistic. “Gritty Faith and Gritty Facts” (allow yourself to dream, but always reality check those dreams).
Sometimes feeling tired is really feeling “lonely” and using the word “disconnected” is sterile. Go for lonely.
If you make fun of conversations like this “kumbaya” -- are you diminishing it so you don’t have to make the effort?
Don’t formulate your response while they are talking (I had this mentioned at a communications class that I took as well, so I guess I should really listen to that!). Keep a lot of “space” in the conversation.
>>Feelings are okay, behavior is not okay. “It’s okay to be angry. Yelling is not okay.”
Take time outs to allow thinking and breaks. (ten minute breaks, meet again in an hour) It cuts down on meetings after the meetings.
There's a myth that’s been around for a while that if we sever the heart, we’ll be more productive, efficient, and easier to manage. (this builds cultures that require and award armor)
Wherever perfection is driving us, shame is riding shotgun.
False binaries (victim vs viking). Work on integration of the two.
Being a knower and always being right (heavy armor, defensiveness, driver of bullshit). Being a learner and getting it right.
If everyone recognizes their value, instead of a 10-person race where you try to run the whole race, it becomes a 10-person relay where people know where they fit in.
Empathy vs sympathy. Empathy is feeling with someone, sympathy is feeling for someone. (you want the E)