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3.8 AVERAGE
3.8 AVERAGE
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Content Warnings
Minor: Sexual assault
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now this book is hard for me to rate, because it made me both bawl my eyes out and be incredibly frustrated.
this book is wrongly titled and marketed, because it is not about being in one's twenties, but instead these two women being in their twenties. little of the content would be relatable to a majority of people in their twenties. this doesn't mean it was all bad, just wrongly crafted in my opinion. there is interesting, and very well written, discussion of topics including climbing the corporate ladder, having anxiety & endometriosis & vaginismus, dealing with parents being sick, dealing with parents divorcing (this is the chapter that made me bawl my eyes out because I felt so seen and validated and it really was beautiful and so very much needed for me to read so thank you book), sexual assault, and being in the public eye. these are not things that everyone can relate to nor things that solely occur in one's twenties. but oh well, I guess the advice was suitable to people in their twenties, but I was expecting much more tangible useable advice. I must say though that a lot of the essay portions were very touching and beautiful and thoughtful and these 2 women are very good writers.
but now, the parts I found incredibly frustrating and honestly saddening. as a 20 year old lesbian, it felt really not nice to read solely about men in areas where they talked about relationships. for example, one chapter is titled "a basic bitch's guide to the basic bitch guys you'll have sex with in your twenties". absolutely no acknowledgement that some women don't date any men at all....... there were lots of instances of completely forgetting that other kinds of women existed, ones that didn't share their specific experiences as white cis straight upper middle class women. they write about wanting to be held accountable and acknowledging that they need to do better to be better intersectional feminists so I think it's fair for me to say this. these little list chapters brought the book down so much for me. despite being quick to get through, there was not much of substance in these bits & a lot of invalidation. they tried to acknowledge other people's experiences but did it in such quick brief ways that it seemed like just wanting to tick the box for diversity and move on. i feel bad for saying this because I really did enjoy the essays and thought most were really beautiful and great, but I can't not acknowledge the rest
this book is wrongly titled and marketed, because it is not about being in one's twenties, but instead these two women being in their twenties. little of the content would be relatable to a majority of people in their twenties. this doesn't mean it was all bad, just wrongly crafted in my opinion. there is interesting, and very well written, discussion of topics including climbing the corporate ladder, having anxiety & endometriosis & vaginismus, dealing with parents being sick, dealing with parents divorcing (this is the chapter that made me bawl my eyes out because I felt so seen and validated and it really was beautiful and so very much needed for me to read so thank you book), sexual assault, and being in the public eye. these are not things that everyone can relate to nor things that solely occur in one's twenties. but oh well, I guess the advice was suitable to people in their twenties, but I was expecting much more tangible useable advice. I must say though that a lot of the essay portions were very touching and beautiful and thoughtful and these 2 women are very good writers.
but now, the parts I found incredibly frustrating and honestly saddening. as a 20 year old lesbian, it felt really not nice to read solely about men in areas where they talked about relationships. for example, one chapter is titled "a basic bitch's guide to the basic bitch guys you'll have sex with in your twenties". absolutely no acknowledgement that some women don't date any men at all....... there were lots of instances of completely forgetting that other kinds of women existed, ones that didn't share their specific experiences as white cis straight upper middle class women. they write about wanting to be held accountable and acknowledging that they need to do better to be better intersectional feminists so I think it's fair for me to say this. these little list chapters brought the book down so much for me. despite being quick to get through, there was not much of substance in these bits & a lot of invalidation. they tried to acknowledge other people's experiences but did it in such quick brief ways that it seemed like just wanting to tick the box for diversity and move on. i feel bad for saying this because I really did enjoy the essays and thought most were really beautiful and great, but I can't not acknowledge the rest
Content Warnings
Graphic: Cancer, Chronic illness, Eating disorder, Infertility, Mental illness, Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Pregnancy, Toxic friendship, Alcohol, Sexual harassment
funny
hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced
funny
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
funny
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
reflective
fast-paced
hopeful
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced