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cdjdhj's review against another edition
4.0
This is one of the better parenting books I have read. There is a lot to be said for the Love and Logic approach to parenting because it forces teens to take responsibility for their own actions and therefore, hopefully, learn from their mistakes and become responsible and accountable adults. The only problem I have with this approach is that sometimes, in serious situations involving things like drugs, alcohol and sex, there are some real, potentially life-threatening dangers that parents need to let their children know about in no uncertain terms. Simply being the "consultant" parent, as authors Fay and Cline suggest, may not send a strong enough message, in my opinion, that there are parental and family expectations that need to be upheld. I do agree with the authors that teens need to be contributing members of the family and they need to be held accountable for their own choices and actions. I also agree that arguing with teens and imposing arbitrary discipline such as grounding are largely ineffective in the long run. Overall, this book has many good ideas and strategies for parenting teens. I wish I had read it and used some of the strategies in the book beginning when my oldest was 13. Recommended for any parent who wants some new ideas on how to maintain family peace and sanity during the teen years.
sarahwolcottdunham's review against another edition
2.0
Some useful tools and advice for situations but very oversimplified and laden with judgements that are harmful to kids who may not be neurotypical and need a little more empathy
brendalovesbooks's review against another edition
2.0
There were some good ideas in this book, but they were completely outweighed by the extremely hokey sample conversations. Not only that, some of the sample conversations were just downright offensive. Also, some of the ideas had no logical follow-through. Such as if you make a deal, or negotiate, with your teen and they don't hold up their end of the bargain, then what? Since you're not supposed to punish your teen, I'm not exactly sure what you are supposed to do. Throw them out on the street? (That was actually mentioned a few times throughout, which, no)
lindasdarby's review against another edition
3.0
I liked a lot of things about this book and I think there was some solid advice on ways to better handle difficult situations with teenagers. I wish that there had been a few more real to life scenarios - like I would really rather figure out how to better parent before my child gets arrested. I also think it is going to take way more than one conversation to work through most things with your kids. That being said I appreciated a lot the book had to offer.
pharmdad2007's review against another edition
5.0
While there may be a few things that I find to be a bit extreme in the Love and Logic philosophy, it is generally a wonderful parenting strategy that has served us extremely well over the years. This book gave me some really good ideas and lots to think about concerning parenting strategies with our teenagers and teenagers-to-come.
rachel_abby_reads's review against another edition
5.0
I kinda wish I'd read it before I had teens, and before I was in freak out mode, but I'm glad I've read it now and intend to get my own copy, fast.
book_nut's review against another edition
4.0
I read an old edition, so it was a bit outdated, but there's some good stuff here.
k_lee_reads_it's review against another edition
4.0
I don't agree with everything they said, but there are definately some great ideas for helping teens become responsible for themselves.
crizzle's review against another edition
2.0
1.5 stars. 5 stars for the basic Love and Logic principles we know and love, big fat ZERO stars for a lot of the homophobia and gender roles in here!!!! I was blown away by this book, as I’ve read Parenting with Love and Logic, and Parenting Early Childhood with Love and Logic; in the hopes of making it stick better in my parenting style, this is the third summer in a row I’ve read a L&L book. The other two are absolutely fine but this one for the teen years I DO NOT RECOMMEND. A new edition was just released in 2020, and you’d think they could have hired some rational thinking millennial to proofread this crap, clearly written by two old white guys for parenting Gen Xers. (Even the teen names were ones like Craig, Susan, Brad…)
The worst of the worst was the “actual” conversation a mother had with her teenage daughter about STDs, a bunch of made up nonsense that sounded like Tina Fey doing Sarah Palin having a birds and the bees talk with her daughter. “Shoot, folks say those darn bugs’ll make yer cervix ripped up and the sperm can’t get on the elevator up the Fallopian tubes.” True story. Then, still under the guise of being a “true story” (which L&L readers know already to take with a grain of salt… everyone sounds the same: cheesy) the daughter grows up, goes off to college, and violating all of the HIPPA laws, the parents get a letter from the university student health doctor congratulating them on their daughter’s virginity!!!!!!!! I’m not making this up, but someone else sure was.
And what was with the thing against boys getting their ear pierced? The lesson is you can’t control what they do to their body but it’s implied this is a major issue, also is your son gay??
The worst of the worst was the “actual” conversation a mother had with her teenage daughter about STDs, a bunch of made up nonsense that sounded like Tina Fey doing Sarah Palin having a birds and the bees talk with her daughter. “Shoot, folks say those darn bugs’ll make yer cervix ripped up and the sperm can’t get on the elevator up the Fallopian tubes.” True story. Then, still under the guise of being a “true story” (which L&L readers know already to take with a grain of salt… everyone sounds the same: cheesy) the daughter grows up, goes off to college, and violating all of the HIPPA laws, the parents get a letter from the university student health doctor congratulating them on their daughter’s virginity!!!!!!!! I’m not making this up, but someone else sure was.
And what was with the thing against boys getting their ear pierced? The lesson is you can’t control what they do to their body but it’s implied this is a major issue, also is your son gay??
kslhersam's review against another edition
4.0
I liked the overall idea of raising independent kids who know how to take responsibility for themselves. Some of the example dialogue was pretty silly though. I would never talk to my child as weirdly as their examples. It sure gave me some things to think about in regards to 13 year old.