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Лолита by Vladimir Nabokov

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dark funny sad tense slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

This book took me years to read, in part because I lost it for two years, but also because the prose is so pithy, you might find yourself Googling the meanings of words or phrases, in English or otherwise, to ensure a full understanding of what's going on, and even then, some of the meaning remains hidden. This one requires a second read to understand fully, and I might undertake that once I have retired.

This is a misunderstood book; because it depicts the actions of a pedophile, though never explicitly, it has enjoyed much contentious discourse over the years. I think Nabokov perfectly embodies the thought processes of monstrous people like Humbert, people who, despite their unbelievable transgressions, are still people, and have to deal with that aspect of their being. Humbert thinks highly of himself and lowly of most of the people he comes across. He is an old-world European in tacky-ass 1940s America and throughout the book, it's clear he feels as though this place is below him. But that doesn't make it easy for him to excuse his own pedophilic behavior. Instead, he mythologizes it, as if pedophilia is actually a dignified, understandable, and rare phenomenon that occurs only when sensuous "nymphets" encourage it to. He rarely blames himself entirely for his actions, usually only once they have already taken their toll on the people around him. Meanwhile, Dolores' identity and her development of it are stymied and compacted into the reductive image Humbert has of her, until she eventually escapes. Unfortunately, as you might expect, it is a pyrrhic victory.

I have never read a book like this and I was blown away by every page. The horrible shit in this book is presented in some of the most expertly crafted and translated prose to be pressed, and I am impressed.

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challenging slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: No
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

Interesting book, it's a classic and all, but Humbert Humbert, what a freakkkkk

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dark sad slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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dark sad tense slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: No
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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challenging dark funny sad
Loveable characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

Why is humbert's narration actually so funny ☠️

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dark tense slow-paced
Loveable characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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dark fast-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Plot
Strong character development: No
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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challenging dark funny slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: No
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

"[...] so that above and over everything there is — Lolita."

I was finally convinced to read this classic because it turned out it's one of my best friends' favorite book and I wanted to know how in heaven's name she could like a book about a pedophile. It looks like now I'll have to find a way to bring into words why I like a book about a pedophile, too. 

I'd briefly learned about Lolita in my literature studies that it was a controversial book because of its theme and the fact that it's told from the perspective of the bad guy. I hadn't wanted to read it, because I didn't want to feel any kind of sympathy for the protagonist. I was afraid his thoughts and morals would be forced upon me through the focalization.

Boy, was I wrong! The distance between the reader and the protagonist couldn't be greater. There are many layers to this book - a story within a diary within publication within a book - that constantly challenge and ridicule Humbert Humbert's perspective. He is a complete pathetic loser and I constantly rooted for everything to curb and frustrate him. As someone who is quite sensitive, I can say that the actual sexual misconducts are kept to a minimum and were not as disturbing to me as to make me stop reading. 

If you're interested in character perspective and the levels of narration/irony, this book is for you!

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medium-paced
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

DONE FINALLY!! Thank god. Now I can procrastinate my way through another classic that I will only pick up once a week for months on end. PHEW!! Loved the writing style. Satirical pieces and unreliable narrators will always have my eye. I’ll look into more from Nabokov after this! This was such a difficult book to bring in public. The questions and concerns were part of the reason it took months to finish.

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challenging dark reflective tense fast-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: N/A
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: N/A
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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