Reviews tagging 'Self harm'

What Doesn't Kill You: A Life with Chronic Illness - Lessons from a Body in Revolt by Tessa Miller

5 reviews

laurenkimoto's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful sad slow-paced

4.0

Why isn’t heart wrenching an option for the mood of the book??

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Blood, Chronic illness, Rape, Toxic relationship, Panic attacks/disorders, Alcoholism, Body horror, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Dysphoria, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Excrement, Gaslighting, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Medical content, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Self harm, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, and Vomit

internationalreads's review

challenging dark emotional informative reflective fast-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Excrement, Medical content, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Chronic illness, Death of parent, Eating disorder, Grief, Self harm, Sexual assault, Death, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Vomit, and Domestic abuse

wickedgrumpy's review

emotional hopeful informative reflective slow-paced

3.0

I find myself torn about this book.

I think the thing that frustrates me is that the intended audience switches between the chronically ill, those who are close to chronically ill people, and anyone who is curious about what it's like to live with chronical illness.  To me, that is too broad of a scope.  Since I fit into the first category, I find myself irked when the tone shifts to address the others.

That is to say, it's partly a memoir, partly a self help book, and partly reference material.  I do think that there are some parts that are beneficial and good, but there are others that are so bizarre that I struggled to finish it.  Also, reading it might be a triggering experience.

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Content Warnings

Minor: Self harm, Death of parent, Chronic illness, Blood, Addiction, Toxic relationship, Suicidal thoughts, Sexism, Panic attacks/disorders, Misogyny, Mental illness, Medical trauma, Medical content, Injury/Injury detail, Excrement, Eating disorder, Drug use, and Confinement

imstephtacular's review

dark emotional hopeful informative reflective sad medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Medical content, Classism, Body shaming, Chronic illness, Excrement, Grief, and Medical trauma

Moderate: Emotional abuse, Toxic relationship, Sexual content, Sexism, Physical abuse, Panic attacks/disorders, Mental illness, Alcoholism, Cursing, Death, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Injury/Injury detail, Fatphobia, Addiction, Alcohol, Child abuse, Drug use, Suicidal thoughts, and Gaslighting

Minor: Vomit, Terminal illness, Suicide, Sexual violence, Racism, Sexual assault, Self harm, Pregnancy, Police brutality, and Miscarriage

diversifyyourshelf's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative reflective medium-paced

Miller places a heavy emphasis on the mental and emotional toll of chronic illness, issues I don’t see discussed nearly enough! It is lonely and hard and exhausting being sick all the time, and she 1) shows us we’re not alone and validates those feelings and 2) offers help and advice from someone who has been there. 

 

I really enjoyed this book, and I do highly recommend it, with some caveats.  On one hand, I want everyone I know to read this, but on the other, Miller’s experiences, even before her diagnosis, are quite traumatic. There are descriptions of physical abuse, addiction, domestic violence, sexual assault, eating disorders (check the content warnings for the extensive list of possible triggers). 

 

I’m not at all saying that Miller shouldn’t have written this part of her story – in a lot of ways, I feel it was necessary to give a holistic view of her life experience - but it can be difficult to read. While a lot of Miller’s writing is highly specific to her and to her own diagnosis of Crohn’s, she does a good job towards the middle and end of each chapter in connecting her story to the broader chronic illness community. For sensitive readers, it may be helpful to skip the starts of each chapter. 

 

This book undoubtedly helped me, and there are actionable steps that I plan to take based on it! If you are chronically ill or are close to someone who is chronically ill, I advise you to pick this up. Thank you to Tessa Miller for using your voice to help the rest of us. And thank you to Henry Holt for sending me an advanced copy. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Chronic illness, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Excrement, Medical content, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Self harm, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Violence, Death, and Grief