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shaunashares's review against another edition
emotional
funny
reflective
slow-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Dementia
Minor: Sexual content
ejb44's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
lighthearted
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
5.0
As much as I’d like to sit here and say that this is just another book by a millennial written for millennials and about them, I really cannot say that. Dolly Alderton centres the story on Nina Dean, a woman in her 30s living in London after finding a solid career in the food writing industry and buying a house. Despite the strong friendship she has with her ex, she cannot help but feel like the world is moving faster than she can handle – her oldest friend is consumed by her motherhood, her ex is in a serious relationship and her father is slowly slipping out from himself. This book navigates love, dating, technology, friendships and identity in the modern world, placing the heart of the story in the busy, hustle-driven London.
I really was worried starting this as romance and London based novels aren’t my thing – I think they too often fall into cliches and promote toxic relations, as well as overhype London when in reality its just overpriced, but I have to admire the warm and earthy feeling Alderton gave this book. I couldn’t put it down. Her attention to friendships and relationships have been so well thought out they are stunning to read.
My favourite aspect of the whole book was the focus she gave to the protagonist and her fathers’ relationship. The unnamed dementia the father is suffering from really tugged at my heart and was a unique contrast to the technology heavy world she had as the foundation. By comparing stalking on social media and creating online relationships to your father losing his memory and trying to stay as present with him as possible actually went hand-in-hand as I think it gives way to poignant conversations about presence, connection and never being able to remove someone completely. The running theme throughout of ghosting* paired with this theme of dementia was one I would have never thought of and thought Alderton did a smashing job of having the two themes interweave but not dominate.
Additionally, Alderton managed to create realistic friendships, ones that aren’t always completely time-consuming and all-encompassing. Her ever-changing relationship with an old friend centres on the conversations of motherhood, presenting the impact that has on those around the new mother. I thought these flowing conversations of parenthood, adulthood and peoples place in their lives just came together really well, and the author uses locations in the UK as benchmarks of these changes, for example, London and Surrey.
Also, nothing beats subtle British dry humour which I very much missed, so cheers to that.
Overall, this book has a beautiful air of nostalgia and warmth and love that I would compare to Out of Love by Hazel Hayes. This is sure to pull on heart strings and make you feel all fuzzy inside for things that aren’t always romantic love.
* a verb that refers to ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out - Valeriya Safronova, The New York Times (2015)
Content Warnings
Graphic: Dementia, Toxic relationship, Emotional abuse, Grief, Pregnancy, and Sexual content
thoroughlyenjoyedbooks's review against another edition
emotional
informative
reflective
tense
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.25
Content Warnings
Graphic: Chronic illness and Dementia
Moderate: Toxic relationship
Minor: Sexual content
rbacon's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
reflective
sad
medium-paced
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
The second half of this book was so thought provoking and such an important read for people who are dating. So many angry lines which I just loved, and her lovely Dad.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual content
brattyreads's review against another edition
emotional
funny
lighthearted
sad
slow-paced
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Found it a very charming and lighthearted read that deals with the fun sides of life while also the growing awareness of aging, having parents who are aging and how to cope with that. Was incredibly fun with lots of hijinks, I liked a lot of the characters and found the prose funny and incredibly digestable. My only critique is that the voice Dolly Alderton uses is a very upbeat, peppy voice and she loves to describe things longer than necessary, but over all that is down to a personal preference of mine and did not impact my overall enjoyment of the plot, the characters and the journey Nina goes on throughout her year.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Dementia, Sexual content, and Terminal illness
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