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My 2022 reading trend is finding books about women living in London (or, at least, part of the time) and realizing they don't need a relationship (man) to be happy. I relate and I love it. GHOSTS is a true gem.

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funny lighthearted medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

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emotional funny hopeful inspiring lighthearted reflective medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.5

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emotional hopeful lighthearted reflective slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Plot
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

Nina Dean just turned 32, and finally tried to start dating again after a long-term relationship breakup. She tried online dating for the first time but became the victim of ghosting. Her dad was slowly falling into dementia, and Nina started thinking about ageing and the gendered double standard of it.

This book narrated Nina’s seemingly normal everyday life in a year she turned 32, and will be super relatable to people who face the same issue as Nina. Nina was childless, so more often than not she received comments that she must be leading an easier life because of it. At the same time, Nina was too judgmental of her friends’ choice when they become too busy raising a family to hang out with her, and towards her mother’s mid-life crisis.

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emotional funny hopeful reflective sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

GHOSTS by Dolly Alderton ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

I started this book on the way to Mexico City and finished it on our airbnb's balcony about a day later because I couldn't put it down. The story follows Nina, who is using dating apps for the first time after an amicable break-up with a long-term boyfriend and also dealing with her aging father's dementia. The book is a meditation on aging, the gendered double standard of the biological clock, and an ode to female friendship. I felt like I was talking to a friend, and even though I haven't experienced a lot of what Nina goes through in the book, it all felt relatable.

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emotional hopeful lighthearted sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

As much as I’d like to sit here and say that this is just another book by a millennial written for millennials and about them, I really cannot say that. Dolly Alderton centres the story on Nina Dean, a woman in her 30s living in London after finding a solid career in the food writing industry and buying a house. Despite the strong friendship she has with her ex, she cannot help but feel like the world is moving faster than she can handle – her oldest friend is consumed by her motherhood, her ex is in a serious relationship and her father is slowly slipping out from himself. This book navigates love, dating, technology, friendships and identity in the modern world, placing the heart of the story in the busy, hustle-driven London.

I really was worried starting this as romance and London based novels aren’t my thing – I think they too often fall into cliches and promote toxic relations, as well as overhype London when in reality its just overpriced, but I have to admire the warm and earthy feeling Alderton gave this book. I couldn’t put it down. Her attention to friendships and relationships have been so well thought out they are stunning to read.

My favourite aspect of the whole book was the focus she gave to the protagonist and her fathers’ relationship. The unnamed dementia the father is suffering from really tugged at my heart and was a unique contrast to the technology heavy world she had as the foundation. By comparing stalking on social media and creating online relationships to your father losing his memory and trying to stay as present with him as possible actually went hand-in-hand as I think it gives way to poignant conversations about presence, connection and never being able to remove someone completely. The running theme throughout of ghosting* paired with this theme of dementia was one I would have never thought of and thought Alderton did a smashing job of having the two themes interweave but not dominate.

Additionally, Alderton managed to create realistic friendships, ones that aren’t always completely time-consuming and all-encompassing. Her ever-changing relationship with an old friend centres on the conversations of motherhood, presenting the impact that has on those around the new mother. I thought these flowing conversations of parenthood, adulthood and peoples place in their lives just came together really well, and the author uses locations in the UK as benchmarks of these changes, for example, London and Surrey.

Also, nothing beats subtle British dry humour which I very much missed, so cheers to that.

Overall, this book has a beautiful air of nostalgia and warmth and love that I would compare to Out of Love by Hazel Hayes. This is sure to pull on heart strings and make you feel all fuzzy inside for things that aren’t always romantic love.

* a verb that refers to ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out - Valeriya Safronova, The New York Times (2015)

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