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Polysecure: Bindung, Trauma und konsensuelle Nicht-Monogamie by Jessica Fern

inkdrinkers's review against another edition

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5.0

It's rare that I take physical notes, but this book was rife with invaluable input on how to not only relate and reflect on relationships (both romantic and platonic) but also how to self heal and look internally at issues that may be impacting your partnerships. I'd recommend this to literally anyone.

rachreadsstuff's review against another edition

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3.75

A useful insight. Perhaps a little basic at times, but a good way to gain some useful information about the world of polyamory and applying attachment principles here. 

dracorum's review against another edition

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hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

I learned a lot, but it is really a pretty basic introduction to secure attachment theory and how it can be applied to polyamory.

Read by the author, who was good but not great. She often put pauses in slightly odd places, which made it feel like she hadn’t read her own book before she started narrating it.

Overall, good and I’m glad I read it!

catscantread666's review against another edition

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challenging hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.5

kryptol's review against another edition

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Incredibly boring 

katyyyowens's review against another edition

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informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

bbqxaxiu's review against another edition

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3.0

a very informative book about nonmonogamous attachment, how our ability to form secure attachments is informed by our childhood experiences and relationships with our primary caregivers, and what steps we can take to heal from the painful experiences we had as children to be able to form more secure attachments with ourselves and others.

would recommend!

aurora_because's review against another edition

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5.0

Phenomenal, insightful read for anyone to learn about attachment, trauma, and how we relate to our partners, whether or not practicing polyamory.

pupgir's review against another edition

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challenging emotional informative inspiring lighthearted reflective fast-paced

5.0

carolanncrum's review against another edition

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informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

Everyone should read this book. It’s a great resource for strengthening relationships with others and yourself, whether you’re polyamorous or monogamous, or the relationship(s) are romantic or platonic. This is THE best resource I’ve read on attachment theory that builds a solid foundation of understanding on attachment, describes how attachment shows up in our relationships with others and in ourselves, and has questions and tips for working towards secure attachment. It’s an accessible read, and the only resource I’ve encountered so far that gives me hope and tools for having a secure romantic relationship and doesn’t make me feel like I’m doomed forever because my parents sucked. 

While this book speaks to polyamorous relationships, it focuses heavily on attachment, so if you’re monogamous please don’t dismiss this book. There’s a whole chapter on strengthening your relationship with yourself :)