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kaiulanilee's review
4.0
Minor: Alcohol, Physical abuse, Death, Drug abuse, Misogyny, Suicidal thoughts, Addiction, Child abuse, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Racism, Toxic relationship, Alcoholism, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Grief, and Sexism
bookfriend8's review
4.25
Moderate: Toxic relationship, Sexism, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, and Racism
Minor: Grief, Addiction, and Death
cosmic_blooms's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Misogyny, Sexism, and Child abuse
Moderate: Addiction, Death, Grief, Toxic relationship, Suicidal thoughts, and Physical abuse
Minor: Sexual content and Body shaming
vixenreader's review
4.25
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Abandonment, Emotional abuse, Child abuse, Toxic relationship, Death, and Sexism
Moderate: Alcoholism, Physical abuse, Addiction, Hate crime, Religious bigotry, Drug use, Fatphobia, Classism, Injury/Injury detail, Alcohol, Homophobia, and Racism
Minor: Mental illness, Violence, Hate crime, Injury/Injury detail, Suicidal thoughts, and Toxic friendship
Discussions of isolation, homelessness, the negative affects of the mass media, and hopelessness are featured.sderi's review against another edition
5.0
Moderate: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Racism, Mental illness, Religious bigotry, Colonisation, Abandonment, Chronic illness, Death, Gaslighting, Grief, Infidelity, Sexism, and Toxic relationship
savvylit's review
4.5
After firmly establishing her feminist thesis, hooks delves into types of love and how to approach love in a thoughtful and considerate manner. She emphasizes the importance of intentional and empathetic knowing in any relationship. Though the mass media often represents love as a magical mystery, this idea is damaging and promotes miscommunication. "Being aware enables us to critically examine our actions to see what is needed so that we can give care, be responsible, show respect, and indicate a willingness to learn."
Later in the book, hooks also discusses the myth of the nuclear family and focuses on the importance of communal care. Despite what has been established as the norm, families can be based on so much more than just two married partners. hooks uses historical precedent to reveal to readers the ways in which extended family and community are necessary and often better models of love for children than a parent.
This review has barely scratched the surface of why all about love is such a fascinating and important work. If you enjoy cultural criticism and sociology, this book is an absolute must-read.
Graphic: Misogyny and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Domestic abuse
keeganrb's review
3.5
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexism, and Domestic abuse
Moderate: Toxic relationship, Child abuse, and Grief
Minor: Emotional abuse, Suicidal thoughts, and Addiction
jayisreading's review
2.25
All things considered, writing about love is a huge undertaking, especially to break it down the way hooks did. However, I think this book is of its time (first published in 1999) in its language and understanding of the world. If there’s anything I’ve come to realize while making my way through this book, it’s that love is ever-changing and difficult to explain given everything that’s happening in the world every day. hooks tried, and I think there were some valuable points to take away from this book, but it didn’t make the impact I was hoping it would.
Graphic: Misogyny and Sexism
Moderate: Grief, Toxic relationship, Child abuse, and Domestic abuse
Minor: Addiction, Cancer, Death, and Emotional abuse
corneliusmcstrawberry's review against another edition
3.75
Graphic: Sexism and Misogyny
Moderate: Racism, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Grief, Physical abuse, Emotional abuse, and Toxic relationship
Minor: Addiction, Cancer, Suicidal thoughts, Terminal illness, and Death
rieviolet's review against another edition
2.5
On one hand, I really enjoyed some of the author's reflections, for example on the devaluation of friendships in favour of romantic bonds (although I think it was not developed much and a good portion of the book then focused mostly on romantic love) and on the negative effects of patriarchy.
And I really appreciated the definition of love that hooks included in the book: "the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth".
On the other, some reflections did not resonate with me just as much and I struggled to really absorb them, maybe I needed some more in-depth analysis/comment in certain chapters, rather than just vague and general statements.
Some other aspects of the book also left me a bit unconvinced , such as: a framework very much heteronormative and binarist in terms of gender; the sections on work and love; the section critizing Monica Lewinsky (a very uncomfortable passage to read that I could have done without); the reflections about forgiveness (especially when in relation to queer people, thank you but I'm going to stay very far away from bigoted and hurtful people if I am able to do so, even if they are family members).
Also some parts of the book just are not for me personally. Whenever religion, biblical scriptures, angels etc. get mentioned I turn into that Mike Wazowski's meme, "Put that thing back where it came from or so help me!". But that is obviously on me and people who are religious and /or spiritual will certainly connect more with those parts.
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Toxic relationship, Sexism, and Domestic abuse
Moderate: Death, Physical abuse, Lesbophobia, Child abuse, and Grief
Minor: Cancer, Addiction, and Suicidal thoughts