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martasshelf's review

emotional lighthearted reflective sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? No
Loveable characters? N/A
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.25

The book felt boring and pointless at times, especially the first section about Elio's dad.
I liked Elio's section and his bit with Michel, it had me wishing for a different end for the book.
Oliver's chapter was a pain to read and it felt so out of place.
The last chapter made it all come together and make sense, I guess, but it's too short to make it worth it.
It almost feels like all the sections could have been better as independent stories.

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timedothwasteme's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful inspiring reflective sad slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

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ericispublius's review

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emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective relaxing sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

I had a Friend share that, "If Call Me by Your Name tore you apart, Find Me will put you back together." Thank you for the recommendation, Leah, my sweet and tender Friend

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finleigh's review

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emotional reflective sad slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

4.75

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rissaread's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful lighthearted reflective tense slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.5

this whole review is a big spoiler !!!!

in the movie i adored elio’s parents relationship and i adored his father so bad and i was so sad to find out they divorced. but then i started reading the book and was like elio’s dad !!!! let me in !!! i was so interested in his story and how him and elio’s relationship grew and then it just twisted and i’m honestly disappointed with samuel’s story ( also sad he died and didn’t get to see elio and oliver get back together ) i really was eating up this relationship because like spontaneous love and having so much passion and love for someone you just met and the rush of it all and the details and being vulnerable about it and each other and telling each other all the good and bad parts of yourself and still wanting to be together. it was so good until she mentioned what happened when she was fifteen. of course she learned and grew from that and she was barely a teenager then but i think that whole section of samuel and miranda’s story was unnecessary and her secret could’ve been literally anything else. and even after that it was still sweet and stuff and they were so cute even with the age difference but i couldn’t view her the same way like her excuse was she adored and worshipped her brother and i was like okay but? you don’t do things like that know matter how much you adore your sibling.

elio’s part should’ve been the longest and i would’ve loved to see more of him and michel. ( what’s with the age gaps in the perlman men’s relationships um …. ) like it was sweet but i felt like i needed more. wanted to see how that continued and how it ended. and of course i needed more elio and oliver. the content we got was so minimal and we don’t really see them together much which sucked. while i’m glad they end up together, i wish there was parts of the book where we see them reuniting while still not being able to be together and how they’d act with more tension. i could go on and on about this but all in all it was a mid book, short and sweet but slow paced.

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_maia3_'s review

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reflective slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? No
Loveable characters? No
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

2.75

Find Me is arranged in multiple parts, with the first two being the longest by far. These deal with Samuel’s new love who is a much younger woman, and Elio’s new love, a much older man. I was able to buy into Samuel’s story as a “sometimes you find love in odd places” since the characters seemed to have some chemistry, but Elio and Michel had exactly none, and it was at this point that I grew tired of the age gap relationship trope this book seems to rely on.

Whilst in parts a beautifully reflective piece on time, death, the “correct path” in life and most notably, ageing, it was overshadowed by what felt like a compulsive need to write in an unconventional love story. The strength of CMBYN was the fact that the sex seemed intimate and earned, here it is superfluous. However, once the book moves onto Oliver it gets stronger as we get a glimpse of his life still haunted by the Italian Rivera. Unfortunately, the book ends not long after.

This isn’t really a continuation of Elio and Oliver so much as a reminder that life isn’t a straight line, time is a loop, and that life is too short to stay unhappy (with random unconvincing love stories thrown in).

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stevia333k's review against another edition

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adventurous dark emotional sad

Strong character development? Yes

4.0

Let's just say on somethings that my taste hasn't been good. Like I read a book review on Goodreads about "the bookseller's boyfriend" that pointed out so many negative aspects of that book which I agree with but hadn't caught on to & my review was like this book is cozy this book is blah blah blah, so when I give this 4 stars, know it could easily be 1 star. My distress level is chronically high. (I've learned about the day I wrote this review that the name for this level of distress is "numbing".)

I listened to this book at triple speed. There was an interview at the end that mentioned armie hammer as Oliver, so that's interesting. Also the author said they wanted a mercenary approach to writing.

This book is severely amatonormative (which is literally in the name quite) and even uses queer sense of time to say the time dimension doesn't exist. I partly read this book so I could get more insight on how amatonormativity works & also to find out what happened to these people because I thought basically everyone except Elio was dead at the end of "call me by your name".

That being said, I think this book did a better job at exploring amatonormative grief than "call me by your name" did. Like the first book felt like trying to get more historical context for a fictional book, because it just felt like there was a lot of trauma that happened. Cbmyn is a very WTF kind of book. This book felt more grounded & comfortable with the grief even though it used queer time for essentialist instead of existentialist analysis.

That being said the Holocaust is explored in this book, because the 3 men are Jewish, so the grief of losing information about the dead... Ugh, just, that's the part that made me sob my ass off.

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