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informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.75

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5.0

Betydningsfull og viktig om båndene mellom foreldre og barn.

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4.0

Helpful but difficult. Reminds me of things I’m bad at and need to be good at to be a good parent: flexible and letting things go. I’m already terrified of the day my son smokes his first cigarette because I am personally so against it and imagining having to be all “cool calm and collected” freaks me out. Hopefully I have 18 years until that happens to work on myself as a mom.
However, I appreciate the reminders to view your child as a PERSON at all stages of their life and taking them and their feelings seriously. It seems so contrary to how we grew up or have seen others parent because of being scared of what others think of our child has a meltdown in the store. But I hope I can practice these things as my own child gets older.

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I found this book to be very useful and easy to implement to ensure my children and I have a long lasting relationship.

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Any person expecting or having just had a child needs to start somewhere in their quest to understand which type of parent they want to be.  Philippa Perry's book is as good as a start as any other.

On the plus side, this is a book grounded in research and science, rather than in the personal beliefs of the author. The author is not an Instagram influencer, she is a certified psychotherapist. On the minus side, Perry treats the current state of research as if it was an absolute truth, and often reduces important insights to the level of "rigid rules to follow". My experience with parenting is that it is very contextual instead, so any rigidity in the frame of mind risks to become disempowering.

By any mean: if you are the kind of person who feels reassured by being told what to do, this book may be perfect for you. I am not that kind of person though, and I struggled (a bit, the book is quite good) with the overall prescriptive, self-assured style of the author.

Philippa Perry also seems to be the kind of person who feels very proud of themselves and think of themselves as the custodians of some sort of truth.  Nothing inherently wrong with it, but I prefer authors who leave their achievements and competence understated, and found the personal anecdotes showcasing her skills as a therapist and mother a bit on the cheesy/self aggrandising side.