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liviani's review against another edition
5.0
As a recently diagnosed aspie I found this book extremely helpful to understanding myself and helping my partner to understand me.
It's extremely easy to read and funny. Would highly recommend this book to any aspie who struggles to explain their issues to their partner.
It's extremely easy to read and funny. Would highly recommend this book to any aspie who struggles to explain their issues to their partner.
ruabeansidhe's review against another edition
5.0
Great book
Very insightful, though I am a self diagnosed woman reading this before getting my partner to read. Will definitely read her other books.
Very insightful, though I am a self diagnosed woman reading this before getting my partner to read. Will definitely read her other books.
harmony's review
4.0
A friend recommended this book to me, and I read the whole thing in one afternoon. While there were some points I disagreed with, the vast majority of the book had me mentally shouting "Yes! This is me! This is why I do this!" In particular, knowing that selective mutism during depressive episodes is common to Aspies was profoundly comforting--it's always felt abnormal and strange that I can't talk when I'm severely depressed.
I'm self-diagnosed and I've had to spend a long time and a lot of effort to learn for myself a lot of what this book teaches about women living with Asperger's. It's incredibly validating, and I definitely think it's an excellent resource for partners.
All that said, there were a few times where the author's bias or opinions leaked through as fact. For example, she put a big focus on meltdowns, but bursting into tears after I've removed myself from the overwhelming situation, I can't relate at all to that and neither can several other Aspie gals I know. Not everyone has meltdowns and that could have been made much more clear. There were also a couple of times where she was way too casual with references to other disorders (calling a behavior 'OCD' when she means slightly obsessive or even just particular) that build on harmful perceptions and stigmas for people with those disorders. There was also an emphasis on how many (most?) Aspie women are a bit slovenly (um, no) and a whole section dedicated to how we're "not like other girls" (our superiority strongly implied). I am not here for putting down NT women to build ourselves up.
The negatives were overall a tiny fraction of this book, and I would highly recommend reading it with an open mind and a critical eye.
I'm self-diagnosed and I've had to spend a long time and a lot of effort to learn for myself a lot of what this book teaches about women living with Asperger's. It's incredibly validating, and I definitely think it's an excellent resource for partners.
All that said, there were a few times where the author's bias or opinions leaked through as fact. For example, she put a big focus on meltdowns, but bursting into tears after I've removed myself from the overwhelming situation, I can't relate at all to that and neither can several other Aspie gals I know. Not everyone has meltdowns and that could have been made much more clear. There were also a couple of times where she was way too casual with references to other disorders (calling a behavior 'OCD' when she means slightly obsessive or even just particular) that build on harmful perceptions and stigmas for people with those disorders. There was also an emphasis on how many (most?) Aspie women are a bit slovenly (um, no) and a whole section dedicated to how we're "not like other girls" (our superiority strongly implied). I am not here for putting down NT women to build ourselves up.
The negatives were overall a tiny fraction of this book, and I would highly recommend reading it with an open mind and a critical eye.
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