Reviews tagging 'Death of parent'

Call Me By Your Name by André Aciman

76 reviews

dniespal's review against another edition

emotional hopeful reflective relaxing sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated

4.5

We are not written for one instrument alone; I am not, neither are you.

Amazing, poetically written piece on desire and longing. Aciman is able in his words to take you to the summery italy and really feel the heat of the sun.
The only thing I can point out is that the main character, Elio, isn't a particularly believable 17-year-old. The way he express himself and analyse emotions and gestures is way too mature for his age. And his actions are somewhat toxic and a bit eerie.
But still, really worth a read!

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Infidelity, Sexual content, and Vomit

Moderate: Child death, Grief, Chronic illness, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, and Death of parent

Minor: Homophobia

caitlin1066's review against another edition

emotional reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

I read cmbyn last year and gave it four stars, despite it starting my love for Timothee Chalamet’s acting. However, after this years reread, I loved it even more than before. Very odd, especially the peach and toilet scene. But such a beautiful depiction of pure love and dependence on someone romantically. The elephant in the room is the paedophilic undertones and its as bad as it sounds. It definitely had the opportunity to be a coming of age lgbtq+ book about two men who were in love. And whilst it is this on the surface, the age gap between Elio and Oliver is disturbing. Definitely could have gone without the line about the bruised peach laying on its side like a r*pe victim??? Rather odd, to say the least. But the environment is calming and its a really good summer read. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship

Moderate: Chronic illness, Child death, and Death of parent

kaadee's review against another edition

emotional reflective sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

1.0

After reading other peoples reviews, I have come to a conclusion. I think it’s important that this book was made because it gives a glimpse into the the thought process of the groomed. We as readers know that it’s gross, uncomfortable and upsetting and while Elio also realizes this, his feelings are much different. Through Elio’s thoughts, we are also being groomed by Oliver to care for their relationship (see other peoples reviews calling this an amazing love story) it’s a good story, but not one about love. It’s about obsession, it’s about craving an experience but ultimately it’s about the power imbalances teenagers have with adults. How teenagers are easily taken advantage of and made to think they are in love. I honestly don’t think the writer wrote it to have this kind of meaning whatsoever which makes it worse for me. The deep dive into Elio’s sexual thoughts was disturbing. I mean, I really didn’t need to know what a 17 year old was thinking while he was going at it into a peach. I think it’s important to understand his thoughts but the amount of detail into the desires was gross. Also the writing style??? What pretentious person decided they would just add every word from the dictionary, put it into run on sentences, and then publish it? Some quotes were good but it’s too much philosophy without actually making any sense. People who praise this book for the writing and the feeling that you get while reading are weird. Honestly, the writing just made me want to finish it 10x faster just so I could be done. I love the movie compared to this. Also the fetish for Jewish people, GROSS!!! The author isn’t even Jewish which I didn’t know while reading. I was weirded out but I just went along with it because maybe he was just being expressive of his faith/background BUT NO, he just fetishized Jewish people. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abandonment, Adult/minor relationship, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Homophobia, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, Stalking, and Toxic relationship

Minor: Antisemitism, Death, Death of parent, and Transphobia

eadaoin_'s review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5

SO MANY FEET??? WHAT IS GOING ON WHY DOES ELIO HAVE A FOOT FETISH

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Excrement, Emotional abuse, Death of parent, and Child death

maess's review against another edition

emotional funny reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content and Adult/minor relationship

Moderate: Vomit

Minor: Self harm, Alcohol, Death of parent, Cancer, Child death, and Death

gretashouldreadmore's review against another edition

emotional reflective slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? N/A

2.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship and Sexual content

Moderate: Homophobia

Minor: Death of parent

j4cq's review against another edition

adventurous mysterious reflective tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

this is not a love story

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Sexual content, and Toxic relationship

Moderate: Cancer

Minor: Alcohol and Death of parent

lex_r's review against another edition

emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.5

This book has some really intense moments where the inner dialogue makes you question the sanity of Elio and his thoughts and character. I wasn't sure how I felt about the aggressive sexual language, the graphic thoughts, or the age gap between the two characters. But I gave the book some grace and continued, framing the uncomfortable intense moments as intrusive thoughts as the novel is told from the inner perspective of Elio. In the end I am happy I stuck it out the book developed into a beautiful love story that really pulled together in the last 100 pages, but forewarning the ending is gut wrenching. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship

Moderate: Vomit and Excrement

Minor: Death of parent, Grief, Rape, and Death

kashby's review against another edition

emotional reflective

• Plot- or character-driven? Character

4.25

first book ive cried to

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship and Sexual content

Moderate: Alcohol

Minor: Antisemitism, Cancer, Death, Death of parent, and Grief

abby_p's review against another edition

emotional reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Adult/minor relationship, and Alcohol

Minor: Terminal illness and Death of parent