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Obie Is Man Enough by Schuyler Bailar

sablondell's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful inspiring fast-paced

4.0

alex_rene's review

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hopeful inspiring fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Plot
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

alesehunter's review

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emotional funny fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

Absolutely beautiful. A beautiful, heartbreaking and heartwarming story. Without a doubt this story is a must-read, especially for cis folks. There’s a lot to learn from this story. 

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christiana's review against another edition

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4.0

This one blew my expectations out of the water. Thoughtful and relatable Obie is so easy to root for and care about. The author's note explaining that Bailar wanted to model good cis and ally behavior as well as be realistic about the kind of hurtful things that trans kids hear was super helpful for me to read and know. I also loved that this was about all the parts of Obie's life-he is a good son, grandson, brother, friend, teammate, boyfriend, and student as well as being trans, so his life reflects that in this book. Obie is also lucky to have a great support system in place to get through the hard stuff. I hope and want this for every kid who is coming out.

This is squarely a middle school book for me, even though it's more broadly categorized as middle grade--there's some swearing as well as some tough things like slurs, deadnaming, and bullying that make this a great and important middle school read, but may be something an upper elementary kid would want to be ready for (or know about) before going into it.

nat_montego's review against another edition

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adventurous emotional inspiring fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Plot
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

bickie's review against another edition

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5.0

Beautifully done. Significant challenges encountered by Obie as he transitions before 6th grade. There is a lot going on in this book - competitive swimming, first romantic relationship (7th grade), cruel bullying (both of Obie and of his previously best friend Lucy). New friendships are formed, old ones changed. The reactions of the school principal and teacher-mentor Mrs. Salmani (Persian-American) to bullying at school are unwaveringly firm. Obie's family and new swim team and coach are also completely supportive. There is even a point where a side character provides the kind of little-but-huge detail support that means the world to Obie -
Spoilerthe owner of a deli where Obie has been going pretty much is whole life talks about how he has known Obie since "he was a little boy"
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Some of this feels a bit more aspirational than realistic, and since it's fiction, I am glad for it. It shows a model of how things could be (less the vile bullying) rather than reinforcing other models as "normal." The support Obie receives should be normal and expected by all.

Trans kids considering reading this should definitely read the content warnings at the beginning of the book. If they have not experienced this kind of violent hate - or even if they have - they might not want to read about it. It is intense. At the same time, the hate is primarily perpetrated by the previous swim coach and his son, one of Obie's previously best friends, and the rest of the characters are generally overwhelmingly supportive, reinforcing messages to Obie that 1) he doesn't owe anyone any explanations or information and 2) any problems people have with Obie are their problems, not Obie's.

Cis kids, teachers, parents, and any others who wish to have more models of what trans allyship looks like will get a lot out of this book.

Be sure to read the author's note to both cis and trans readers at the end, and look at the resources he provides. They are excellent.

CW: Physical assault requiring stitches (includes hospital scene), verbal bullying including the f*g word (and an explanation at one point about the meaning of the word and how it got to be a slur - pretty chilling) and slut-shaming, deadnaming, outing, transphobia, homophobia, death of parent/grandparent, brief story of war violence (Korea), fear of divorce...

One of Obie's grandparents "escaped" from Germany during WW2, but she also has a Bible. That story is not explored. Obie's other grandmother walked from Pyongyang to Seoul during the Korean war after having lived under Japanese occupation for her whole life before that. She is devoutly Catholic.

ximajs's review against another edition

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hopeful inspiring reflective

3.75

I feel like the main character and his peers often spoke a bit too much like adults, which made it hard to imagine them as 13-15 year-olds. It also seemed like everything worked for him, which felt very optimistic, but in the end I'm glad there wasn't a perfect resolution to everything.

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ninakeller's review against another edition

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5.0

I follow the author on social media, and was excited to read this YA book representing a transgender kid with a human, complex identity. The character development and story are strong and there is so much opportunity for any young person to relate to the events, analyze theme, and learn about being an upstander and a confident and fully realized version of oneself.

dominicangirl's review

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hopeful informative inspiring slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? No

alittleoverdue's review against another edition

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5.0

The beautiful cover first drew me to this book and the description intrigued me. While I can think of a handful of middle grade books that deal with transgender, I'm hard-pressed to think of another fiction book for tweens that specifically features a transgender man. This is a fictional account of a middle school student, Obie, adjusting to a new school and swim team living as a transgender male, Based on the author's own experience as a champion mixed-race swimmer (and the first recorded transgender NCAA athlete to compete as a man)., the book heartbreakingly explores the obstacles facing trans folks, from bullying to body image to emotional adjustments, on top of the other challenges of growing up. (Trigger warning for intense bullying and anti-trans discrimination and violence).

I devoured this story, simultaneously feeling deeply moved and reaching new understandings. I wish the characters had been more nuanced, though I realize some of this was a conscious choice. While the author is quick to note that Obie's experience of receiving loving support from family, friends, coaches, and classmates is not the reality for most, by depicting supportive characters the novel offers models for caring and helpful behavior for allies. The story provides a window for understanding the intersections of race, culture, and gender identity, and offers numerous resources for further reading. Obie's deeply moving story has stayed with me in the weeks since I've read it, and I'm excited to recommend this important read to parents, educators, and kids.

*Thanks to NetGalley for a free e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review*