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It Begins with You: 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life
Jillian Turecki
4.19 AVERAGE
64 reviews for:
It Begins with You: 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life
Jillian Turecki
4.19 AVERAGE
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I don't know the last time I rated a book 1 star but- at least for me- this book was a rough read.
Therapist/yoga teacher/podcast host, Jillian Turecki, writes about 9 truths you need to grasp and work through in order to be ready for a real, committed, healthy relationship. And this premise sounds great! The writing was... not quite to my taste.
First, these 9 "hard truths" are, in essence, clichés we have heard throughout our lives. The case studies of her clients "proving" these hard truths are not groundbreaking, either. Everyone knows someone, or has been someone, who has divorced after years together, dated people to try and "fix them", and pushed people away due to personal insecurities. Reading about strangers' complicated stories summed up in a handful of paragraphs each made the pacing feel so slow, even though there were not many details to get hung up on. It was oddly so fast that it was impossible to become attached to, and therefore felt as though I was slogging through mud.
Turecki never let's you settle into an idea or a feeling. And while I enjoyed the personal connections to her own life, which made the advice seem more real, I disliked how there was little to no science behind her claims.
Her chapters read as: introducing an idea, inputs from her personal life (many about yoga?), talking about clients she had one time, convincing the reader they deserve better, actionable steps.
The only portion of this book I appreciated were the actionable steps. She provides scripts for letting someone down, for asking for more, for trying to make compromises. There are self-reflective passages and questions. She offers tips for how to overcome bad habits. But this sole positive is overshadowed by the fact that if you have done ~any~ personal work ~at all~ prior to reading this book, you will have heard it all and they are all the same level of influencer-brand generic that anyone with a lifestyle vlog has likely told you to try to "get out of a slump". Get outside and go for a walk, spend time with family and friends, meditate, do yoga, find a fun hobby! These are great ideas... for someone who has never tried *literally any form of self-care* before reading.
The only reason I didn't DNF is because I have a rule that if I buy a book, I read a book! This will promptly be getting donated.
Therapist/yoga teacher/podcast host, Jillian Turecki, writes about 9 truths you need to grasp and work through in order to be ready for a real, committed, healthy relationship. And this premise sounds great! The writing was... not quite to my taste.
First, these 9 "hard truths" are, in essence, clichés we have heard throughout our lives. The case studies of her clients "proving" these hard truths are not groundbreaking, either. Everyone knows someone, or has been someone, who has divorced after years together, dated people to try and "fix them", and pushed people away due to personal insecurities. Reading about strangers' complicated stories summed up in a handful of paragraphs each made the pacing feel so slow, even though there were not many details to get hung up on. It was oddly so fast that it was impossible to become attached to, and therefore felt as though I was slogging through mud.
Turecki never let's you settle into an idea or a feeling. And while I enjoyed the personal connections to her own life, which made the advice seem more real, I disliked how there was little to no science behind her claims.
Her chapters read as: introducing an idea, inputs from her personal life (many about yoga?), talking about clients she had one time, convincing the reader they deserve better, actionable steps.
The only portion of this book I appreciated were the actionable steps. She provides scripts for letting someone down, for asking for more, for trying to make compromises. There are self-reflective passages and questions. She offers tips for how to overcome bad habits. But this sole positive is overshadowed by the fact that if you have done ~any~ personal work ~at all~ prior to reading this book, you will have heard it all and they are all the same level of influencer-brand generic that anyone with a lifestyle vlog has likely told you to try to "get out of a slump". Get outside and go for a walk, spend time with family and friends, meditate, do yoga, find a fun hobby! These are great ideas... for someone who has never tried *literally any form of self-care* before reading.
The only reason I didn't DNF is because I have a rule that if I buy a book, I read a book! This will promptly be getting donated.
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ I am a huge fan of Jillian, and very receptive to her messages, coaching style, and communication techniques. This book hit home for and helped me more than I could have ever expected. I get chills thinking about how much better we could all engage with each other, beyond our romantic relationships, if everyone read this book and took even one small aspect of it into practice. Congratulations and Thank you, Jillian!!
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