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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a #@%!: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
Mark Manson
3.52 AVERAGE
15.1k reviews for:
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a #@%!: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
Mark Manson
3.52 AVERAGE
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
fast-paced
I've really been on my self-help grind lately! This book was interesting, I found some of the stories to be useful and definitely liked the overall message, and I will be taking some tidbits from this into my life. I think in terms of realising the amount of agency I have in my life and taking responsibility for my own problems and also just sometimes doing something and not caring what others think this is helpful. I don't agree with everything the author says and I find him slightly unlikeable at times, but overall this was a cool book. I liked the last half a lot more than the first half for sure. Would reread to get a bit more, maybe I will read Arisha's annotated copy!
1/2 a star! Utter rubbish!!!! You could just read the summary and it would be as good as reading the book. It has the same thing written in different sentences. 🤦
Enjoyable read and liked the personal stories included (hard to forget the death of his friend at the party), but didn’t get me to stop giving fcks. This was achieved via other means
Kind of bland and written in a TED talk style that I don't feel like reading.
The book could have been more specific. Two stars for some interesting theses and writing with humour. Too many side stories and straying from the topic.
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While I didn't personally vibe with the authors writing style much, there are some great lessons in this book. The last chapters alone are very powerful, I just wish the book became this insightful a bit sooner. Recommend if you can look past a little bit of cheesy writing.
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« Our culture today is obsessively focused on unrealistically positive expectations: Be happier. Be healthier. Be the best, better than the rest. Be smarter, faster, richer, sexier, more popular, more productive, more envied, and more admired. »
« You get anxious about confronting somebody in your life. That anxiety cripples you and you start wondering why you’re so anxious. Now you’re becoming anxious about beinh anxious. Oh no! Doubly anxious! Now you’re anxious about your anxiety, which is causing more anxiety. (...)
Or you’re so worried about doing the right thing all the time that you become worried about how much you’re worrying. Or you feel so guilty for every mistake you make that you begin to feel guilty about how guilty you’re feeling. Or you get sad and alone so often that it makes you feel even more sad and alone just thinking about it. »
« Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is ‘solving’. If you’re avoiding your problems or feel like you don’t have any problems, then you’re going to make yourself miserable. If you feel like you have problems that you can’t solve, you will likewise make yourself miserable. The secret sauce is in the solving of the problems, not in not having problems in the first place. »
« For individuals to feel justified in doing horrible things to other people, they must feel an unwavering certainty in their own righteousness, in their own beliefs and deservedness. Racists do racist things because they’re certain about their genetic superiority. Religious fanatics blow themselves up and murder dozens of people because they’re certain of their place in heaven as martyrs. Men rape and abuse women out of their certainty that they’re entitled to women’s bodies. Evil people never believe that they are evil; rather, they believe that everyone else is evil. »
« For victims, the hardest thing to do in the world is to hold themselves accountable for their problems. They’ve spent their whole life believing that others are responsible for their fate. That first step of taking responsibility for themselves is often terrifying.
For savers, the hardest thing to do in the world is to stop taking responsibility for other people’s problems. They’ve spent their whole life feeling valued and loved only when they’re saving somebody else - so letting go of this need is terrifying to them as well. »
« Our culture today is obsessively focused on unrealistically positive expectations: Be happier. Be healthier. Be the best, better than the rest. Be smarter, faster, richer, sexier, more popular, more productive, more envied, and more admired. »
« You get anxious about confronting somebody in your life. That anxiety cripples you and you start wondering why you’re so anxious. Now you’re becoming anxious about beinh anxious. Oh no! Doubly anxious! Now you’re anxious about your anxiety, which is causing more anxiety. (...)
Or you’re so worried about doing the right thing all the time that you become worried about how much you’re worrying. Or you feel so guilty for every mistake you make that you begin to feel guilty about how guilty you’re feeling. Or you get sad and alone so often that it makes you feel even more sad and alone just thinking about it. »
« Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is ‘solving’. If you’re avoiding your problems or feel like you don’t have any problems, then you’re going to make yourself miserable. If you feel like you have problems that you can’t solve, you will likewise make yourself miserable. The secret sauce is in the solving of the problems, not in not having problems in the first place. »
« For individuals to feel justified in doing horrible things to other people, they must feel an unwavering certainty in their own righteousness, in their own beliefs and deservedness. Racists do racist things because they’re certain about their genetic superiority. Religious fanatics blow themselves up and murder dozens of people because they’re certain of their place in heaven as martyrs. Men rape and abuse women out of their certainty that they’re entitled to women’s bodies. Evil people never believe that they are evil; rather, they believe that everyone else is evil. »
« For victims, the hardest thing to do in the world is to hold themselves accountable for their problems. They’ve spent their whole life believing that others are responsible for their fate. That first step of taking responsibility for themselves is often terrifying.
For savers, the hardest thing to do in the world is to stop taking responsibility for other people’s problems. They’ve spent their whole life feeling valued and loved only when they’re saving somebody else - so letting go of this need is terrifying to them as well. »
Some very good pointers in ways to bring back some sense of propriety into ones life. I personally will be implementing some of the highlighted ways in which i could not give a fuck to make my life more interesting. Overall a very good read.