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zacmonday's review against another edition
5.0
After the generally dark tone of Adopting the Hurt Child, this book was exactly what I was needed. It kept saying, "Yes, this will be tough," and "Yes, you'll be fine," and "Yes, your child will be precious."
All of that wrapped with, you're going to want to think about and try these things.
All of that wrapped with, you're going to want to think about and try these things.
meg1983's review against another edition
3.0
It's a good book for those who need it. Unfortunately, I felt like it was very repetitive, and similar to many other books and articles that I have already read. Also, it's only geared towards very young children.
knitwgrace's review against another edition
5.0
A must read for adoptive parents. I think it would also be really beneficial for parents of children with special needs. Some of this I already knew from my training as an SLP and my research as an adoptive parent; however, it was an awesome reminder and a great way to organize the info. I am already using some of the techniques in this book and seeing success!
leahegood's review against another edition
4.0
Hovering between 4 and 5 stars here. Is it okay to rate every non-fiction, adopted rated book I read 5 stars? :P
This book outlines how to understand and address the negative behaviors and emotional distance displayed by children that come from "hard place". Author Karen Purvis emphasizes the need for compassion and parenting techniques that bring negative behaviors under control while still making the child feel safe and unthreatened.
My only slight concern with this book is the suggestion to put traditional "spare the rod" parenting techniques aside. While I fully agree with that advice for children with traumatic pasts, I'm also wary of completely ignoring scriptural mandates for discipline. But perhaps that's a fear that's blown out of proportion by witnessing too much wishy-washy parenting, because I agreed with what she said in the context she said it in throughout the book.
Overall, I loved reading this book and I already have several people I'd love to gift a copy too. I'd recommend it to any adopting family, no matter what age they adopt their child at.
This book outlines how to understand and address the negative behaviors and emotional distance displayed by children that come from "hard place". Author Karen Purvis emphasizes the need for compassion and parenting techniques that bring negative behaviors under control while still making the child feel safe and unthreatened.
My only slight concern with this book is the suggestion to put traditional "spare the rod" parenting techniques aside. While I fully agree with that advice for children with traumatic pasts, I'm also wary of completely ignoring scriptural mandates for discipline. But perhaps that's a fear that's blown out of proportion by witnessing too much wishy-washy parenting, because I agreed with what she said in the context she said it in throughout the book.
Overall, I loved reading this book and I already have several people I'd love to gift a copy too. I'd recommend it to any adopting family, no matter what age they adopt their child at.
momofwestnpop's review against another edition
I would recommend reading this book before you adopt or once you actually see issues that you need help addressing. I just adopted and all it did was give me anxiety. I ended up not finishing it because it simply didn’t apply to my situation and was causing stress. It truly is more for kids that come to the home with neglect, behavioral issues, fetal alcohol and for children a bit older. It did confirm I was doing all the right things with my adopted newborn though as far as safety and touch and love!
emilyusuallyreading's review against another edition
5.0
What I Liked
Dr. Purvis was an amazing doctor. Her insight into the traumatized child has changed my perception on how to raise and guide children. I'm in the foster care training process and this book will be a tremendous help to me, I can already tell.
What I Didn't Like
While I enjoyed and appreciated all of the advice and scenarios and games provided in this book, it became repetitive. Several chapters repeated the same sentences over and over again.
Dr. Purvis was an amazing doctor. Her insight into the traumatized child has changed my perception on how to raise and guide children. I'm in the foster care training process and this book will be a tremendous help to me, I can already tell.
What I Didn't Like
While I enjoyed and appreciated all of the advice and scenarios and games provided in this book, it became repetitive. Several chapters repeated the same sentences over and over again.
samreid74's review against another edition
5.0
Wonderful wonderful wonderful. Practical advice along with clear explanations of how kids are affected by neglect and trauma. SO helpful.
jlworley's review against another edition
5.0
Very highly recommended reading for all adoptive families. Most helpful book I've read to know how to best parent the older children we've adopted.