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Author: Prince Harry
Genre: Memoir
Rating: 4.00
Pub Date: January 10, 2023
T H R E E • W O R D S
Revelatory • Intimate • Tragic
📖 S Y N O P S I S
It was one of the most searing images of the twentieth century: two young boys, two princes, walking behind their mother’s coffin as the world watched in sorrow—and horror. As Princess Diana was laid to rest, billions wondered what Prince William and Prince Harry must be thinking and feeling—and how their lives would play out from that point on.
For Harry, Spare is that story at last. From his battles with loneliness and anger; to his struggles at school; to his time in the army; to meeting Meghan, their fairy-tale wedding, and being hounded by the press; to finally choosing to step away from the spotlight lest history repeat itself, Harry bares everything in his memoir.
💭 T H O U G H T S
When I first heard that Harry was going to be sharing his story, I wasn't sure if I would read it. I cannot call myself a royal follower, but of all the members of the Royal Family, I have always had a soft spot for Harry. I can relate to being the second-born and his struggles to find himself or his place in the world. Nonetheless, I placed a hold at the library for the audio knowing the wait would be lengthy and when it finally came through I decided I needed to see what everything was about for myself.
Presented in a chronological manner that works best, Spare offers an unprecedented inside look into royal life. With unflinching honesty, Harry holds nothing back detailing his intense loneliness and struggles in the wake of his mother's death. My heart went out to his younger self as he describes how everything was handled and how he chose to believe his mother was simply off on vacation somewhere for many years.
I never realized the extent of the role the media plays and how it sensationalizes a lot. I don't know how anyone can handle having every single thing you do, scrutinized by millions of people. It will come as no surprise that Harry speaks openly about his mental health struggles, which I highly commend him for. The rigorous standards of the monarchy at times even made him feel like a failure, which is just heartbreaking.
The memoir is quite long and there were definitely parts where it lulls throughout the middle. As with everyone's story there are always parts that are more and less interesting. For me, my interest was mostly in his life in the wake of his mother's death, his time in the army, and his and Meghan's life. I'll admit I was a tad disappointed that his life with Meghan comprises only a small part at the end, but I completely understand his reasoning in doing so - privacy has become an very important aspect of their lives and I respect that. At the end of the day, I am glad that they found each other and have created a beautiful life together.
If you're on the fence about Spare, I'd make the suggestion of reading it for yourself so you can form your own opinions. There is no denying he was born into a life of privilege, yet that doesn't mean he isn't entitled to his own feelings, thoughts and desires. The way he and his family have been treated in the wake of stepping down speaks volumes to the outdated conditions of the monarchy. I'd also highly recommend the audio as there's certainly power in the fact he narrates it himself.
📚 R E C O M M E N D • T O
• royal family devotees
• celebrity memoir lovers
🔖 F A V O U R I T E • Q U O T E S
"No one had an answer for a boy actually seeking external pain to match his internal."
"Grief is a thing best shared."
"I'd traveled the world from top to bottom, literally. I'd hopscotched the continents. I'd met hundreds of thousands of people, I'd crossed paths with a ludicrously large cross-section of the planet's seven billion residents. For thirty-two years I'd watched a conveyor-belt of faces pass by and only a handful ever made me look twice. This woman stopped the conveyer belt."
"In this mixed-up world, this pain-filled life, we’d done it. we’d managed to find each other."
Graphic: Bullying, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Grief, Gaslighting
Moderate: Animal cruelty, Animal death, Death, Miscarriage, Racial slurs, Racism, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Stalking, Car accident, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Abandonment, War, Injury/Injury detail
Minor: Cursing, Drug use, Alcohol, Colonisation, Classism
Moderate: Grief
Minor: Miscarriage, Car accident, Death of parent
Graphic: Bullying, Mental illness, Grief, Death of parent, War
Moderate: Death, Drug use, Miscarriage, Panic attacks/disorders, Racial slurs, Racism, Suicidal thoughts, Stalking, Car accident, Pregnancy, Alcohol
Minor: Animal death, Vomit, Kidnapping, Injury/Injury detail, Classism, Pandemic/Epidemic
Graphic: Animal death, Bullying, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gun violence, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Racial slurs, Racism, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Blood, Grief, Car accident, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, Alcohol, War, Classism
Moderate: Miscarriage
Graphic: Drug use, Emotional abuse, Miscarriage, Panic attacks/disorders, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Stalking, Car accident, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Colonisation, War
Moderate: Car accident
Minor: Suicidal thoughts
Graphic: Drug use, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Racial slurs, Racism, Suicidal thoughts, Torture, Grief, Stalking, Car accident, Death of parent, War
Graphic: Bullying, Panic attacks/disorders, Racial slurs, Racism, Stalking, Car accident, Death of parent, Alcohol
Moderate: Death, Drug use, Toxic relationship, Grief, War, Classism
Moderate: Emotional abuse, Miscarriage, Panic attacks/disorders, Racism, Suicidal thoughts, Grief, Car accident, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, Colonisation, War
As a tell all memoir, I didn't immensely enjoy it, instead, reading it with the mind that it was written by a person. Just a person. Its heartbreaking.
I have never cried as much reading a non fiction book as reading this.
Graphic: Addiction, Death, Drug use, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Racism, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Violence, Grief, Stalking, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, War, Classism
Moderate: Alcoholism, Animal death, Miscarriage, Pregnancy
Minor: Adult/minor relationship, Torture, Vomit, Kidnapping