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3.98 AVERAGE
3.98 AVERAGE
This one was recommended in one of the communication books I read recently, and was pretty interesting for its evidence-based discussion of a topic I consider pretty squishy.
Because I got a bunch of books that had been on hold for ages in all at once, and this once could be renewed, I read this book in fits and starts, which is not a way I would recommend reading it. There's a lot in here, and some terms that are defined that if you let it sit for a week between chapters you won't remember.
It's also more aimed at couples (as you can tell from the title), but there were things in here that even my very-single self recognized from former relationships.
There is one very math-y chapter, which he spends a lot of time warning about, which of course made more sense to me than a lot of the more therapist-y things, but your mileage may vary.
Also, this is *not* the guy who founded eHarmony, which I had for some reason thought until I just now went to double-check it before I posted it.
I felt like I learned things, although like [b:Spousonomics: Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes|9292810|Spousonomics Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes|Paula Szuchman|https://d.gr-assets.com/books/1320513117s/9292810.jpg|14175319] I bet people in actual relationships would find it more useful.
Because I got a bunch of books that had been on hold for ages in all at once, and this once could be renewed, I read this book in fits and starts, which is not a way I would recommend reading it. There's a lot in here, and some terms that are defined that if you let it sit for a week between chapters you won't remember.
It's also more aimed at couples (as you can tell from the title), but there were things in here that even my very-single self recognized from former relationships.
There is one very math-y chapter, which he spends a lot of time warning about, which of course made more sense to me than a lot of the more therapist-y things, but your mileage may vary.
Also, this is *not* the guy who founded eHarmony, which I had for some reason thought until I just now went to double-check it before I posted it.
I felt like I learned things, although like [b:Spousonomics: Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes|9292810|Spousonomics Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes|Paula Szuchman|https://d.gr-assets.com/books/1320513117s/9292810.jpg|14175319] I bet people in actual relationships would find it more useful.
DNF ~16%
Probably should have realized, but the "Science" part of the title is really meant, and this was just a lot more boring and technical than I'm in the mood for.
Probably should have realized, but the "Science" part of the title is really meant, and this was just a lot more boring and technical than I'm in the mood for.
informative
slow-paced
This book is hot fire. I ADORED it. There are so many interesting nuggets that I could immediately apply to my life. But, Gottman definitely wrote this book specifically for the three random researchers at a science convention that stayed after a talk to ask additional questions. This book has no mass appeal, and Gottman knows it (he begs readers to stay with him when he starts in on differential equations)!
Not regularly hanging out at science conventions? It’s cool, I think you can still enjoy this rock solid read. Here are my tips:
1. You will not understand 100% of what he’s saying. Accept this
2. Not understanding 100% does not make you dumb accept this, too
3. If you don’t like science, skim the science. Gottman always (eventually) gives a tl;Dr
If you like science, holy cannoli. This work is mind blowing. Bioinformatics and applied mathematics to explain why our relationships fail or succeed, why people cheat, how to attune. Gnarly. My background is in human evolutionary biology, not mathematics or psychology, and hot damn this books was like a constant explosion of interdisciplinary curiosity and dot-connecting.
Get it on audio book. Hardback is currently $1,000,000 USD.
Not regularly hanging out at science conventions? It’s cool, I think you can still enjoy this rock solid read. Here are my tips:
1. You will not understand 100% of what he’s saying. Accept this
2. Not understanding 100% does not make you dumb accept this, too
3. If you don’t like science, skim the science. Gottman always (eventually) gives a tl;Dr
If you like science, holy cannoli. This work is mind blowing. Bioinformatics and applied mathematics to explain why our relationships fail or succeed, why people cheat, how to attune. Gnarly. My background is in human evolutionary biology, not mathematics or psychology, and hot damn this books was like a constant explosion of interdisciplinary curiosity and dot-connecting.
Get it on audio book. Hardback is currently $1,000,000 USD.
This has been the best evidence based book on trust! This has changed my entire outlook on the art of conversation
challenging
informative
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
Beginner friendly
informative
slow-paced
challenging
informative
slow-paced
I'd like to read this book every year for the rest of my life.
John Gottman is well known and respected for his knowledge of what makes couples successful – and what will ultimately lead them towards divorce. His research uncovered ways to identify who would remain married and those who would not. When you pair my interest in how relationships work with my curiosity about how important trust is, it’s little wonder why I picked up Gottman’s book The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples. However, what was surprising to me is how much mathematics played into the book.
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