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An American Marriage by Tayari Jones

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brisha's review

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dark emotional reflective sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0


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crazytourists_books's review against another edition

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fast-paced
  • Strong character development? No
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

1.0

This is a perfect example of an over-hyped book that didn't deserve have of the enthusiasm around it. The idea was interesting; if the author had focused on that and not the "romantic" side, it would have been great. A black man, wrongfully convicted and imprisoned for rape, spends five years in prison. Do we read about that? A few pages. Five years covered in a few pages. But HIS dream of having kids? Of having HIS wife? GIS home? Of controlling everything because HE is the man? Of how everyone owes HIM because they haven't been through what HE has been through? Of having sex without protection because HE doesn't want a piece of rubber between him and HIS "cure"? Of unbelievable sexism (by every single character in this book)? Pages upon pages upon pages. 
I liked the narration trick, the three different points of view, but nothing was deep. It could and should have been over after a hundred pages, there was just nothing there. Flat characters, no story. And I am so disappointed and frustrated because the story could have been so much more. 
Ii makes me wonder... did Obama really read this and thought that this book portrayes the effects of a wrongful conviction on a young African-American couple? Seriously? 
I have no idea why I read all of it, when I knew from the first few pages that it would frustrate, disappoint, and bore me. 

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ericageorge91's review against another edition

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dark reflective medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

“That’s your fate as a black man. Carried by six or judged by 12.”

Personal feelings aside, Tayari Jones wrote a story that was equal parts beautiful and ugly. An American Marriage explores the effects of incarceration on a black man and his loved ones on a molecular level. 

This was a difficult read for a multitude of reasons. What repeatedly brought me to tears was the thought of how much this man has lost as a result of a fucked up criminal justice system. This story never should have happened, and yet it’s happened to thousands of black men in America. 

An American Marriage is a contemporary, character-driven novel. You’re following three characters: Roy, his wife, Celestial, and their friend, Andre. Their stories were painfully flawed and human. More than once, their words gave me visceral reactions. I don’t think I’ve felt this conflicted about a cast since Akwaeke Emezi’s, You Made a Fool of Death with Your Beauty. I definitely enjoyed Emezi’s work more. 

This book did suffer from outdated thoughts about gender roles that was grating and made me feel how painfully heterosexual this story was: “A man should do this. A man needs a woman to-“ ✋🏾Just stop. 

Then, these characters were making the worst choices 🤦🏾‍♀️ I know it was realistic. I know a lot of it was circumstance, but my goodness the amount of times I had to pause to scream to myself was unreal. 

The rational, objective part of the review has concluded. If you have no interest in reading this book, you may proceed.

TW: Major - Incarceration, infidelity, death, grief, violence, sexism, self-harm, violence; Minor - Sexual assault, abortion, past age gap relationship, cancer, suicide, police brutality 
Rep: Black characters

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Let me break down the things that pissed me off the most about each character:

Celestial: I am super fucking irritated at your hypocrisy. Obviously, you’re not completely at fault for Roy going to jail, but it is so fucking wild to me that you threw the biggest tantrum over Roy not telling you that his dad is actually his stepfather and saying “Secrets! There should be no secrets!” And then what happens?! While he was in prison you start dropping all these bombs—confessing about your parents nasty ass relationship and how you yourself was fucking a married man and got knocked up by him and Oh! This abortion wasn’t your first rodeo. Like…WHAT?!? So what was the point of the fight That Night then?!? WHAT WAS THE REASON?!? I’m—

And then!! You’re like, “Uwu! I couldn’t POSSIBLY send divorce papers while Roy’s in jail! Not more state papers giving him bad news 🥺” BITCH….AS OPPOSED TO THE ALTERNATIVE?! You acted like he was sentenced to life in jail. It was 12 years!! He would have had to find out eventually!! So what? Were you hoping it would be after you and Andre popped some kids and were years “married?” You should have sent them when he was done talking to you and said don’t contact him anymore. THAT was the time.

Roy: If you thought that I didn’t catch that something sexual went down while you were in jail, you’re mistaken. It was noted. So, riddle me this, why THE FUCK did you insist on having sex with Davina without a condom?! That was so fucking foul. 

Also foul? Your behavior with Celestial that night you came back. I understand you were eager for your life back but you scratching your head being fake deep, “Yes means yes and no means no, but what is the meaning of silence?” Mmm, assault. That’s…that’s what silence means. That’s what it would have been if her asking for a condom didn’t give you pause. And then, not you making her feel bad for being sensible for asking for one?! And the CHERRY on top, did you want a cookie for stopping?! Bitch, please! 

Andre: I don’t even want to waste my breath on you. You were the ultimate “nice guy” who patiently waits at their crush’s side for a chance to pounce 🥴 

WHICH 👏🏾 YOU 👏🏾 DID 👏🏾

AND WHAT A TIME IT WAS. Not you and Celestial, choosing the day that she sung at her mother-in-law’s funeral, and the day that you helped carry her body, to fuck each other. I am past the point of DISGUSTED. I was not sad that you got your ass beat and I hope nothing good touches the two of you. 

Let me just say that I wish Uncle Banks and Big Roy nothing but the best. Everyone else? They can choke 😌

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kcarney86's review against another edition

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emotional reflective sad fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0


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mandi4886's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0


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sonyareadsbooks's review

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emotional reflective medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.75


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bodiesinbooks's review

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dark emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0


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