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fieldofhats's review against another edition
5.0
Read for Queer Lit and Theory.
Such a powerful book about the intricacies of queer relationships and history. The structure is perfect, the writing is engaging, and the themes are gut-wrenching and harsh, but not entirely hopeless.
First, I wanted to speak on the structure of the book, which is one of the main reasons I love it so much. I have nothing but whole-hearted love for short chapters. A book can be 600 pages, but if the chapters are short I will devour it. Likewise, if a book is 200 pages of straight, unbroken prose, I will struggle to even pick it up. For this book specifically, the short chapters serve a very specific purpose; Machado has a point to make with each chapter, one that stands on its own. Each chapter portrays one scene or vignette of their relationship, and while they are all connected and create a cohesive story, the chapter ends when the scene is done. This format also makes it easy for her to interrupt the narrative for the folktale chapters in a way that isn't jarring. The short chapters do a great job of keeping me engaged since I'm not committing to much when I begin to read a chapter, which subsequently keeps me reading.
But the short chapters serve a purpose even beyond that. In the "Dream House as Choose Your Own Adventure" section of the book, Machado uses the short chapters as a means to lure the reader into an immersive game that demonstrates the everyday abuse that went on within Machado's life. In this section, there are choices that center the narrator and choices that center the partner; an example of the former would be the choice to “tell her to calm down”, or theatrically drive away from the house; an example of the latter would be “apologize profusely” or “do as you are told.” If you always choose the latter options, you will find yourself in a loop. You literally can’t get out unless you choose one of the former, of which there are very few. The grim reality is that the options you have for centering the narrator are all unrealistic; they would never happen at that point in the narrative, and she says this whenever you choose them. But those are the only ways to get out. The only exception to this is the “dream about the future” option, which leads to a positive refrain from the existential dread, until it asks you to turn to a page which has you waking up and starting all over again. The structure of this book allowed for Machado to do this, and the book is all the better for it.
The theme of Archival Silence is such an interesting, sad, almost looming presence throughout the book. in the introductory chapter, “…as Overture, she asks what authors are trying to hide with prologues — and in the prologue chapter, she speaks on hidden, forgotten, and lost texts. In a way, Archival Silence is a form of humanities collective prologue.
I love themes of fate and destiny, and while this is a true story, Machado uses the narrative theme of fate to connect the dots of her life, which is no clearer than at the end “…as Sex and Death.”
I really love that Machado shares the nuances of sexuality in this book. She spent most of her life as bisexual before she realized that she preferred women, but she still has a fondness for non-women. In “…as Sex and Death,” she says, “I don’t miss men, but I did miss you.” It’s a good reminder that sexuality isn’t a static, black-and-white thing. It’s fluid and has multitudes of nuance.
Give this book a read. Seriously. Check the trigger warnings, of course, but if you can you need to read this book.
Graphic: Gaslighting, Misogyny, and Grief
Moderate: Suicidal thoughts and Biphobia
abigailstone10's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Body shaming, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Fatphobia
Moderate: Infidelity, Sexual content, and Suicidal thoughts
Minor: Biphobia, Blood, Grief, and Homophobia
iwishihadmoretimetoread's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Grief, Homophobia, Drug use, Dysphoria, Fatphobia, Physical abuse, Alcohol, Body shaming, Mental illness, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Bullying, Domestic abuse, Suicidal thoughts, Sexism, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Gaslighting, Cursing, Lesbophobia, Vomit, and Toxic relationship
Minor: Dementia and Drug abuse
lizard800's review against another edition
3.75
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Gaslighting, Toxic relationship, Sexual content, Grief, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Alcohol
litliz's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Alcohol, Lesbophobia, Cursing, Dysphoria, Domestic abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Misogyny, Sexual content, Body horror, Sexual violence, Abandonment, Body shaming, Injury/Injury detail, Sexual harassment, Violence, Bullying, Sexual assault, Alcoholism, Fatphobia, Grief, Homophobia, Infidelity, Physical abuse, Rape, and Toxic relationship
Minor: Dementia, Pregnancy, Racism, and Gun violence
blackbird300's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Body shaming, Sexual content, Infidelity, Domestic abuse, Cursing, Emotional abuse, Drug use, Panic attacks/disorders, Lesbophobia, Violence, Toxic relationship, Physical abuse, Gaslighting, Abandonment, Injury/Injury detail, and Grief
alexisgarcia's review against another edition
4.5
this is a very important story that needed to be told. there is not nearly enough representation of abuse in lgbtqia+ relationships which is necessary to raise awareness and encourage the support of the victims of abuse.
Graphic: Grief, Infidelity, Cursing, Pregnancy, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Gaslighting, Domestic abuse, and Hate crime
creativerunnings's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Alcohol, Physical abuse, Cursing, Emotional abuse, Abandonment, Body shaming, Domestic abuse, Gaslighting, Grief, Infidelity, Mental illness, Outing, Panic attacks/disorders, Suicidal thoughts, Violence, and Toxic relationship
breadbummer's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Sexual content, Violence, Toxic relationship, Gaslighting, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Sexual assault, Grief, Alcohol, Physical abuse, and Animal death
Minor: Biphobia, Vomit, Religious bigotry, and Blood
michaelanormand's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Cursing, Gaslighting, Grief, Homophobia, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, Violence, Fatphobia, Transphobia, Domestic abuse, Alcohol, Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, and Sexual content